@crazystorypt2

Girl (21) hit me (19) up and expressed a lot of interest in me. Went out for coffee once and talked for hours after. She asked me what I wanted and I told her I’ll see where things go, she agreed. The next day she texts me and says she doesn’t think it will work out because she actually wants a relationship. Tbh I wanted a relationship too so I called her and we talked about it and realized we wanted the same thing. Fast forward a few weeks later, I’m on the phone with her and suggest we go out for tacos at this spot in the city, she agrees but then adds that she wants to go out as friends only. Now i’m confused because we aren’t in a relationship so what does this mean? She then says we vibe better as friends and would still want to go but as friends. Once we get off the phone, she texts me and says ‘we can totally still get tacos if your down!’. I’m a little upset about this because I actually liked her because she met all my criteria for a girl I would date, what should I do next? I haven’t replied to her text yet either. I would really appreciate any feedback.

When dealing with females, keep in mind, when they are interested in you they will remove, or overcome, any and all obstacles in their path to spending time with you. When they create obstacles to spending time with you, it is because you're not that interesting to them. In the time you two have been dating, this girl's gotten to know enough about you to know that she's not that interested in you. While disappointing, finding this out early tends to be best. I'd simply stop communicating with her and find someone else to date.

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@crazystorypt2 I probably wasn't sufficiently clear: don't "take her out" if you're not okay with just being friends. I'm an old married dude, so when I hang out with women there's no expectation that it's anything other than people who like doing the same thing. In your case, you want more from the relationship, so you have to decide whether you want her in your life "as a friend" (I'm NOT recommending that, by the way: I'm just listing it as an option), or if you want to cut your losses and move on.

I like @woodsmoke 's suggestion, although I'm not sure I'd go all the way to blocking her. Maybe it's a generational thing, but we couldn't do that when I was your age, and it comes across as petty to me. Blocking her says, "I (actively) don't want you near me," while going silent after telling her what woodsmoke suggested says, "I (passively) don't care one way or the other."