@Incognito

I'm cought in a catch 22. Can you please help me out? It goes like this: If I dont care about a women, I just keep her as just a plate. All good.

But If I develop feelings for a woman, because she is very good to me, I enter a serious relationship with her.

But as soon as she sees that I cought feelings, she gets colder and the relationship goes to shit.

So how am I even supposed to be in a serious relationship with someone I have feelings for? Or am I just doomed to spin plates forever?

If it's a problem for you to not have feelings for a girl, then go ahead and have feelings for them. You don't need our permission and we're in no position to stop you. The challenge is in learning to moderate how often you express those feelings as emotional men are seen as mentally weak, and weak men kill female desire for them.

Study the book. Fear of failure is the only thing holding you back, but don't forget that failure is as much apart of the learning process as success. You can do it.

@Incognito I don't have much experience with this kind of thing. There's a few guys here that are from conservative/muslim countries that might be able to give better advice.

I would suspect your main problem is strong social stigma/conditioning triggering ASD. AWALT is AWALT regardless of where you live.

I would make sure you are maintaining a strong alpha frame. Not having loads of boyfriendy dates and dragging out the sexual escalation for multiple dates.

Then just treat as ASD/LMR.

Give as much plausible deniability as possible for the encounter, to avoid triggering too much ASD. And so she can rationalise or easily lie about it later.

When you are in the bedroom and they throw the boyfriend line, just say no you're not their boyfriend. If they shut down then you just freeze out. Go off and do something else and deny them the attention. They may break frame, they may not.

You need to have the attitude of - this is how I do things, if you're not going to do it, I'll find someone else who will.

But yeah, you gotta be willing to walk if she doesn't play ball.

@Incognito

Hello guys,

I really need some advice, or examples on how to pass a specific shit test.

Generally I have no isue with this, but what women love to do is to give me a shit test when we are on a verge of having sex for the first time. And this is almost always some form of "tell me you are my boyfriend!"

And I just cant think clearly, my mind is blank and cant thing of anything to say.

So what would you do/say?

Consider investing into a reliable ready reference you can pick up and study to better prepare yourself for engaging the opposite sex. I'd suggest that you get yourself a copy of Doc Love's "The System: The Dating Dictionary". Doc Love, who until his passing was also known as Tom Hodges, wrote a weekly advice column that's archive is mirrored on several mens focused sites and a podcast. His media is a bit pricey, but it's a solid foundation a guy can branch out from in RP aware circles. I'd suggest you review his advice column to decide if his view on dating and relationships is aligned with what you aspire for yourself. To save yourself a search, give this scribed link a gander to find out if his book is something you'd like to add to your library. It should also be available on libgen.