When she says she's "never done this before" but she's a professional (tee-hee!)
O I am part of the last generation to grow up without the internet being a regular part of everyday life. Because of this many of us were "sheltered" and "ignorant". I have come to realize these were gifts.
I never got into porn. When married, neither my wife nor I had ever seen anyone of the opposite gender naked, were both virgins. We had very little idea of how sex worked, and my wife didn't know women could orgasm. Laugh if you want, it's hilarious, I know. But honestly, if I could go back I wouldn't change a thing. For many reasons, ignorance is bliss. This is why I'm raising my daughter in a sheltered way. I hope she grows up just as sexually ignorant as we were, gets married, and gets busy figuring it all out.
Anyway, stuff like this isn't funny, just makes me sad. It's absolutely nuts to me that ~95% of women getting married have previous sexual experience. It's a set-up for failure. I guess this is your daily warning never to wife up a non-virgin.
If you're raising children, should they ever learn about sex and the human body, it should first come from you and their mother, ideally with simple to grasp visual aids. You'll have to revisit that lesson several times a year, because if they're in any way engaging with the wider society, be it school, day-care, church, even other relatives, they'll need to be informed before those outside your household poison their minds.
To that end, I suggest you consider getting yourself copies of "The Facts of Life" and "The Human Body" both by Johnathan Miller. They're both illustrated pop-up books intended to help parents teach their children about human reproduction and the human body, respectively. I still own editions published in the early 1980's by my mother, so while I can't speak on the differences in recent editions, we're likely close enough in age that when I say those books were both incredibly helpful to inform me as a child on the topic of sex and the human body before those outside my family home did you might be inspired to consider them as valuable investments in your family library yourself. I've no doubt that if you and your wife are able to secure copies, they will be invaluable tools in helping you to educate your children.
I'll eventually post more specific details later for everyone to the books tribe as I always do, but I hope you jump on this if you're able.
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