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Seriously indicates you:

1. Don't have social skills down to a sufficient degree of being able to engage their attention and make plans (close) based on the conversations you have with them
2. Game (when and where to escalate to indicate interest as a man and signal you are not her friend) is weak

So you can't walk before you try to parkour over a group of "hot" girls

Post full of pedestalizing women and doom spiraling over steps you haven't even gotten to yet

Like starting up a video game and masturbating over the final few bosses before you've barely played the first two chapters

There is really no practical advice that anyone can give you on this post because you are quite not even figuring out that you are fumbling basics and thinking so far into the future that any advice targeting high level skills is going to be wasted in this post

Fix your basics. You're still here two+ years later because you're tripping over basics like crazy

This may not sound helpful but I think most guys go through this in one way or another. They get a busy work life and they get a bit older with a bit less energy to spare. Being a bit older can make the hottest most available girls in their late teens to 24 a little less available unless you are very high value. All this comes together and a guy thinks "I am spending too much energy on chasing small possibilities"

You probably have a fraction of the free time you had when you were a student. You probably meet less single and bang up for it sluts that are your age or a bit younger than you did when you were 18. This means that looking for casual lays will start to take a larger chunk out of your free time than it did.

To some extent this is life. The solution is probably to be more targeted in how you look for women if you have less time. The approaching game is a numbers game and if you are going to play it, try to hunt where the game is plentiful. (This really is the best advice to any hunter of animals and it also applies to women) Seek places where there are lots of sluts up for it. Or maybe find more targeted ways to approach women, to do as your friends do and maximise your success rate when you are hunting.

I'm struggling to put all the pieces together. I'm such a kinesthetic learner that all this stuff overwhelms me. I try not to mentally masturbate and go out and practice, but it seems hard to be consistent. I feel like I'm suffering from decision paralysis and information overload, to where I'm thinking about every step and getting anxiety about the decision, or what if she leaves and I have to make a move, and I hesistate. I still have a ton of fun when I'm out, but can't help but think about how I can improve. Some form of outcome dependence.

I'm naturally attractive, but my closing rate is so low, and it's always been my problem. Either I care too fucking much, and the girl gets turned off, or not enough, and I miss an easy lay-up.

Last month I went on a trip and saw some of the most beautiful girls I've ever seen in a party setting, so no clothes basically maxxed out looks, and I've come back completely disheveled. I had so much fun overall but I didnt get laid, I approached but nothing came of it. I don't know if its the setting or the time but all these women now seem to think that theyre gods and im not necessarily complaing about it. It is what it is but I dont know what to do. On one hand it seems this way on the other I still see regular guys with these chicks and it sometimes makes me think is it social situation these guys are in like social groups are the only way to really connect with these high smv women. The crazy part is a lot of my friends pull, but they never approach. It's actually so weird they don't get approached or anything really but I guess either social game, or they maximize their opportunities when they go out. I approached for all of us the whole trip and it felt like a losing game, most approaches were actually good, but I feel I need to take the next step, maybe improve my physical and verbal escalation.

It feels like you're constantly being assessed, like looks, status, frame, even social media, but I want these hot girls, I need to turn conversations more exciting I have no idea how to be challenging and I think thats where im going wrong. Heavily relying on my looks and I dont get nearly as much iois as I used to.

It feels like a clock is always ticking, not that im scared of getting old, but that I'll have less time as it gets eaten up by bigger priorities(many of these things are good). This all doesn't help that as I enter my 30s Im struggling to find a place for women in my life, the time the energy to get them. The activation energy, if you will seems so high that I'm losing my peace. I barely have time for any leisure any more with work which is fine but im becoming increasingly neurotic toward women, my libido is high and it almost feels like I have a sex addiction without the sex, a bottomless pit, a never ending sense of gluttony like itll never be enough no matter how may women, maybe it's the fierce competitiveness in me to always want to do better. That being said I actually like my life more now and seem to have found some meaning but the feeling still exists.

How can I finally be a challenge and conquer this hold I've had over my life?

I'm sorry if this post is incoherent and jumpy, but I couldn't even figure out exactly what I'm trying to articulate. I took some time to think it through and read a lot of the recent asktrp, and now I'm even more confused.