Except it's a lie, and we all know it. Hot women don't outnumber hot guys. It's just they use makeup, pushup bras, spanx, hair extensions, plastic surgery, filters, etc etc etc to hide what they really look like. Those supposed 10s on the street in Miami? Most of them are absolute ogres without the makeup, and even their bodies are from a surgeon, not the gym.

Hot guys are rare because they're actually hot. If they're built it's usually because of working out every day and eating only chicken, eggs, and protein shakes for years. If their face is handsome it's because it's real, not the product of makeup and fake contacts and lip fillers.

The number of truly natural, good looking women is probably about as rare as the number of good looking men. But she thinks just because she can get some Tijuana surgeon to give her fish lips and pump her ass full of someone else's fat, that she's now "hot" in the same way a man is who had to spend years in the gym and eating clean to get his physique.

I actually hope there was a way she could get her wish. Even starting as Brad Pitt, eating the shit she's eating, and spending her time making mindless tiktok drivel, she'll lose her six pack abs abs and chiseled face. And during the six months before she loses it all, if she does try to date, she'll find stuckup bitches who think because they have a thousand random dudes liking her ass photos that she deserves better than her.

And then she'll stop the experiment early and check herself into a mental institution from the PTSD of spending a few months in a man's shoes, a-la Norah Vincent.

Ok let's kick this off with honest feedback. The first thing is that @mattyanon has some great points.

Your first two paragraphs show your hand. You don't have to list off your qualifications or hers. Just ask the question. Our approval isn't necessary and shows me that you're not operating in your frame, you are performing for us unnecessarily. Let me say this so that it's very clear for all the young guys reading: we are giving you tools to build your own life. This isn't a paint-by-nubers guide on what your identity should look like. That's the reason both you and your girl aren't seeing eye to eye. You both have yet to mature to the point of being full people. You're just spitting online tropes at each other and hoping that your worldviews will somehow align.

Well the bigger problem is that neither of you have an original worldview, or have embraced your sovereignty. You both are performing for an invisible audience, a worldview given to you by people online. This is a harsh reality, but you have to understand my brother that as I said above you haven't fully developed yet.

You're coming to a place where you're going to get a lot of autistic advice. Some guys are going to tell you to control your woman or even try to give her reading materials. Truth be told, You can only change yourself. What you're trying to do right now is fit her into a mold that you didn't even design. That's not leadership.

Now I see a fundamental incompatibility that you're mourning. I've made a lot of mistakes that I've learned from in my 40 years on this planet. One big lesson was not to interrupt other people's journeys. The best thing to do is blaze your own trail and hope that she follows. I honestly think at this point neither of you are going to see eye to eye because both of you are more focused on idealistic views that actually forming a healthy relationship. Sometimes the truth stings.

As I say this, I will also say this is your path. You are free to choose some other advice and try to mold and control her. If you choose that route, you're going to spend a lot of time and energy spinning your wheels instead of being in a relationship that simply is compatible with your worldview. I would suggest that you also take a long hard look at what you want and desire instead of seeking approval from the manosphere.

Being the kind of man she calls attractive is clearly better than being a woman. She is a pretty attractive young woman who says she can't find attractive men. What she means is that even the top20% are not interesting her. Probably its more like the top 5 or even 2 % because if you swipe right enough one of them will bang you when he is bored. This is not the same as being in his attractiveness level.

She is simply a young woman who is healthy, is not ugly and is well groomed. She considers herself a 10 (which she is probably not even if you say that 1 in 10 women are 10's (which is not how most people do it). She considers very few men 10's, just as we consider very few women 10's as to have a very wide top grade bracket is to allow not differentiation between hot, model and super model). Those that she does consider a 10 are way out of her league.

Its always better to be a man than to be a woman at the top because stand out men are more stand out and men are less weak and needy. Its aways better to be a woman in a low grade bracket because some man will always take on a woman who is not a bitch and who puts out and society takes care of women.

She is failing to cash in her power while she still owns it. Let us assume she is in the top 70-80%. She should be trying to get a 70-90% man. Cash in while young enough and she really might get a 90% guy with some weakness like poverty, bad character, low self esteem, great infidelity or advancing years. Or get a top 70 who was solid gold in character and had enough wealth, who also thought he had done well to secure her. The choice is all hers if she chooses to make it. But to hold out for a 95% guy while she falls in value and becomes more used -no chance princess.