Context: 22M, moved several hundred miles away for college and got a good job after graduating recently. Have been with current LTR for 4 years and have a decent relationship. Very low n-count, submissive, cooks, cleans, treats me well. I maintain good frame and am several SMV points above her.

I have recently been considering moving back to my home state later this year to spend more time with family and friends. I enjoy living there much more in comparison, this past year I've been working 60+ hour weeks and hitting the gym hard as there's not much else I enjoy doing here. I feel like I would be giving up a lot of time and experiences staying here the next few years solely because of my LTR. I wouldn't be losing much career-wise. Going forward with the move would mean cutting my current relationship off.

I'm weighing my options and it seems like I'm giving up a great option for LTR and kids/family. That is my ultimate goal, I know this is a long ways off but I don't see myself spinning plates at age 35 and above. No oneitis, I've been with a handful of other girls. It is rare to have a girl with a known history, comes from a good family, and isn't completely brainwashed by the current society.

I'm against marriage for the most part and would only do so if I could protect my assets 100%, i.e. completely separate from the state in a state without common-law. I understand prenups do not work and all the issues surrounding marriage as well. I could certainly find another LTR like this later on and vet her properly, there would be more unknowns though. Looking for some honest input from older members that have seen similar situations play out.

Girl who started as a plate over a year ago, became FWB, after about 6-7 months. My n-count isn't insanely high, but can safely say there's not a lot of girls like her. She actually posesses the ability to self reflect, take critique, and work on herself. She started therapy after I told her (brother died in childhood etc), started going gym and lost weight/more fit after becoming plate. She's not the most beautiful girl ever, but is pretty, very submissive, does what she's told in the bedroom, public sex, says her pussy belongs to me etc. Cooks and bakes for me, occasional massage. She's been exclusive to me the entire time, while I've had ONS since, but no one that I wanted as plates. I'm currently very busy, and rather not spend much time chasing/meeting girls, however that might change summer 2027

She sometimes complains about not seeing me more often, but hasn't really pushed for exclusivity, although I know what she wants

I would say I'm 50/50 about LTR'ing her, as I'm basically exclusive to her right now - can't be bothered with almost every other girl, they are just so fucked and stupid in comparison (haven't told her this). My main dilemma is - I can see myself building a life with her, she's studying medicine (doctor), and has great maternal + "wife/LTR" qualities, and actually works on bettering herself. But at the same time I don't feel like I'm ready to be exclusive, I still want to explore more, but that probably won't happen before next summer (2027) where I'm planning to study psychology - which is like 90% girls. The effort/reward chasing girls will shift a lot, and I wonder if I still want to be in an LTR then

TL;DR: FWB with great girl for 6-7 months, started plate little more than 1 year ago. Unique/rare personality, very submissive - overall no complaints about how she behaves/acts. My circumstances will change when I start psychology uni life, with so many good options all-round. Same time I don't want to let her go as I really like her. But also me being non-exclusive for 12+ months already, it being 30+ months by the time I will start uni, is quite long, and I'm thinking, that it might be a lot to ask? I don't want to ruin her chance of finding a partner in her prime years, in case I decide something else by then

So I'm wondering, do you have any inputs? Is it tol long, do you think?

Background post for the curious: www.forums.red/p/asktrp/324362/caught_feelings_how_much_to_disclose/7864982/

Good for you! Seriously. Not every interaction has to end with immediate sex. And I think you have the right mentality. Game theory talks about "outcome independence" which basically means, don't worry about rejection. Even she rejected you, so what? You'll never see her again, and she'll live on in your head only if you let her.

You also didn't think too much and let the moment pass. You decided to flirt, then immediately threw out a line, and see where it went, not caring which way it might go.

And you're right, the more you do this, the quicker you'll get over your LTR. When I've had bad breakups, just hanging out with my boys at a bar or club and chatting up a bunch of women would lift my spirits enormously, even if I didn't go home with any of them. I enjoy flirting, and if even 1 or 2 women responded enough that we had a fun conversation, it at least helps me realize I'm still desirable, and that there are tons of hot, fun women out there that I don't need to dwell on my ex.

Keep going, and you'll be fine.

PS. That girl is keeping you around for in case she breaks up with her current bf. This is a good thing. She sees you as potential, just that the timing isn't right. If you're still interested, consider this time as extended flirtation. That is, don't become her subservient nice guy friend that she can vent all her troubles to every day. Don't constantly hit on her either, and exhaust her when she clearly can't say yes right now. Just keep friendly but not too frequent communication going, enough to remind her that this fun, sexy dude is out there whenever she's ready, and wait. In the meantime, keep pursuing other women. If you end up dating someone, even for just a few dates, let it drop casually to make her understand that time is not on her side, if she wants you she needs to make a move before you're permanently taken. Eventually, it'll be your turn.

Another thing to add, if you are in America, this girl is dangerous to pursue. My guess is that even if she's interested in you, she will not go against the hive, who is already primed to view you as a douchebag. Let's say you hook up with her, maybe even plate her, but eventually, unless you marry her, you guys will break up. What happens then?

A girl as crazy as sending you dick-shaped cookies (seriously? They took the time to bake something, for someone they ostensibly don't like? That's weird) means you run a serious risk of her declaring after the fact that she never consented and was pressured into sex with you. And her hive will agree with her. And you know where that goes...

No girl is worth being expelled for, or catching a sex offender label for the rest of your life. Things are already risky in modern college dating even when the girl is relatively normal. Sticking your dick in crazy takes on extra risks in a college environment where the rule of law doesn't apply (seriously: university sexual assault boards were specifically required to be created as conditions of federal funding when the powers that be decided the cops were not arresting enough rapists in college, of which they knew there must be many because other feminists were screeching about the epidemic of rape on campus).

It's probably best to pursue other women who are not already primed to view you as an asshole and don't have stalkerish tendencies. Such girls will weaponize their disgust in a flash.