What is noteworthy here: she is only just experiencing stage 1 of the dildo of consequences.

Stage 1: Trauma (she realises that she is a worthless whore) Stage 2: Regret, because she knows that the money will soon run out, or is already gone. Stage 3: Rejction Because no woman wants to be her friend and no man will consider her as a mate. Stage 4: Lonliness. Life is quite long. It gets lonely.

She is still on stage 1. She has not yet realised that no man will ever want her, and no woman (who is not a whore) will want her anywhere near her life. She probably thinks that she can 'reform' herself, go to church etc and start again. She is clearly clueless about what is coming down the track.

She still has to go through the next 3 stages. It would be good if she checked back to update everyone about the next stages.

Hi! I have a girlfriend and we have a sexual relationship.

Last week, I got into a real brutal fight with her one and only long time best friend who is male. He brutally beat me up in the fight in front of her which left my face suffering bone fractures. The fight happened due to him hating me and I don't know why. I feel like there is no reason. He's so strange. They were best friends before I met her. They are the same age while I am 3 years older than her.

Due to his gym habits, her best friend is muscular with six-pack-abs and big biceps and he is also physically stronger than most people his age such as when it comes to lifting, pulling, pushing, etc. He is also physically robust and strong due to constant manual labor. Also, he is a high-level hardcore MMA fighter while my girlfriend is a hardcore MMA fan.

But here's the weird part about my girlfriend.

After he brutally beat me up, she often hero-worships his MMA fighter identity in front of me, brags to me how amazing of a warrior he is, and how stronger and braver and more fearless he is than me. When I politely disagree neutrally and try to offer a logical explanation why, she often trash talks me about how her male best friend will destroy me easily like how rival NFL fans trash talk each other.

He is literally her idol and she thinks that he is the strongest, most badass person she ever met personally or knows in close proximity.

In front of me and after he brutally beat me up for no reason, she often hero-worships him(like how an overly enthusiastic little boy fans over his favorite male superhero) by saying to me that he has the face of a strong mythical brave legendary heroic young warrior chivalrous knight champion male. She was talking about his facial structures and his face's physical appearance when she said that. She wasn't referring to his personality or skills when she said that.

Honestly, she already hero-worships him these ways before I even met her but doing it after he brutally beat me up? Strange.

Seriously, what the fuck is happening and why is she acting like this to me?

Also, she said this to me:

“Babe, you are my boyfriend but my idol hero and warrior demigod is him.”

And then I was like “What the fuck?”.

What's going on.... I dunno man, but a few things:

Everything got harder post covid. A lot of dating has moved online. Even the IRL girls are online at least some of the time (either Tinder or facebook / insta / whatever).

It feels very different out there now.

I think.... not certain... but I think it's because girls have such insane options online. They can flirt with top 0.1% guys. And after that, the real guys just don't look that good anymore.

It doesn't occur to these girls that they can't all marry the same top 0.1% guys. They are caught up on the flirting and the hoping, and they do not want to drop their standards to real guys.

At least I think that's what's going on.

What to do about it, for you:

Looksmax, obviously. Don't aim for good. Don't aim for great. Aim for fucking fantastic.

Don't do OLD if it doesn't work for you. It's a massive time and energy and emotion sink if it doesn't work quickly and easily.

Cashiers/waitresses/etc: don't bother with anyone working a job. They flirt for tips, they give numbers to avoid conflict.

Do continue to push for dates. It's a great way to call her bluff. If she doesn't go for it, just cut her out. This is how you avoid timewasters, I think you're good at this, but you could do better.

Do try to understand how women say no and why they are not overt: they don't like to say no, they don't like conflict. Sometimes it's to string you along, sometimes they just don't know how to say no, sometimes they are being conflict avoidant. It is unfair on men to expect men to do all the work, and then fail to even be clear about what they want. But that is the world we live in. Try to understand where they are coming from so that you learn to shrug it off faster, avoid wasting time, and avoid the mental struggles you have with women whereby you are confused they seem to chat for ages while being reluctant to go further.

And by "try to understand" I mean to understand ..... for your own benefit, not theirs. If they don't go for a date, cut them off. Just say "ok, no problem"..... two more texts to see if she changes her mind, then stop responding.

These girls are mostly between 27 and 33, and not HB8, mostly HB6-7, some single moms so none of them super

Ok.... some issues to unpack here.

Women fucking suck from 27 to 33. It's their worst age. Something in their heads flips and they suddenly do a life reevaluation and decide that men owe them everything.

Not much you can do about this, but try to include women outside this age range.

The "cute/average" ones are the worst because they know they're not the hottest, but they actually get most of the offers. Most guys go for "least hot girl that would be fun to fuck", in order to maximise their chances. But the problem is that almost all guys do this, so little miss "cute but not perfect HB7" gets a lot more interest than poor miss HB9 sitting in the corner with her perky tits all neglected.

Fix this by going for hotter girls.

Single moms: take these on merit. Usually single moms are worth vastly less to date and simultaneously have sky high demands. Her needs have gone up, so her demands go up, even as her value has plumetted. Try to understand this dynamic, because otherwise you'll think "I can't even get a single mom".

Suggestion for you: understand that single moms are usually stupidly demanding ("I only have one free night per month so you have to take me out and show me an amazing time before providing for me and my daughter and no, don't expect sex"). If one comes along that just wants fun then great..... but don't expect them to be dateable or easier.

In conclusion: be hot, raise your standards, understand how and why passive rejection happens, forget cashiers and waitresses, and understand that single mom HB7 is much harder work and has much less value than neglected "too hot to handle" HB9.