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Switching between “alpha” and “beta” behaviours creates inconsistency because it reveals emotional reactivity. When things feel good, a man is calm and decisive. When uncertainty hits, he starts over-explaining, over-giving, or seeking reassurance. That’s not strategy; that’s fear leaking through behaviour.
Women don’t analyse this logically; they feel the instability. They don’t know which version of you they’ll get, and that kills polarity over time.
As we already know alpha isn’t being cold or dominant 24/7. It’s emotional self-control. Warm when you choose, silent when you choose, decisive regardless of outcome. No mood swings based on her responses.
If your behaviour changes based on validation or fear of loss, it’s not character, it’s performance. Masculinity is consistency under pressure, not switching masks.
Could you provide examples of the difference you've observed in alpha and beta behavior, and how you believe childhood trauma would influence their decision making?
Read MoreThanks for posting, but I'm removing this for rule 6:
No examples from fiction or lyrics.
Fiction, pop songs, daytime television freakshows, and reality tv do not present useful examples of typical human behaviour, and thus cannot be learned from.
Discussion of overarching popular culture themes, however, is on-topic and makes for an interesting analysis of the shifts in cultural thinking.
Use of fiction or other controlled narratives (reality tv, etc) should only be used as an example of the author's psychology, not the character's.
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@Typo-MAGAshiv Wow lady, you actually got to feel like a man! I take it back, being a tranny can sometimes work after all.
Switching between “alpha” and “beta” behaviours creates inconsistency because it reveals emotional reactivity. When things feel good, a man is calm and decisive. When uncertainty hits, he starts over-explaining, over-giving, or seeking reassurance. That’s not strategy; that’s fear leaking through behaviour.
Women don’t analyse this logically; they feel the instability. They don’t know which version of you they’ll get, and that kills polarity over time.
As we already know alpha isn’t being cold or dominant 24/7. It’s emotional self-control. Warm when you choose, silent when you choose, decisive regardless of outcome. No mood swings based on her responses.
If your behaviour changes based on validation or fear of loss, it’s not character, it’s performance. Masculinity is consistency under pressure, not switching masks.
Read MoreWhat will make you special to this guy who is tough and in control of his life, who can stand up to others and the state to carve out what he wants?
What makes you someone he will drive out for at 2 am because you lacked the organisation to buy enough snacks at the grocery store?
Miss, movies about this sort of guy are fantasies, designed to put the money your dad put in your account into the movie company's account.
For a start if you chase him, you will find that actually he and his his life are not as together and sorted as you thought or he would have achieved more than a few low key felonies and some scars in return for a the years of uncertainty and the risks. The reason he is not in jail is that actually he is just a small fish that the police hope goes away. For everyone one of the successful guys (who have really competent wives and really hot girlfriends already), there are about 200 guys like the guy you will find -trying to make ends meet while carrying the load of a record and some bad habits.
Anyway you go gurl. You will at least briefly put a smile on the face of some guy who has not had as much luck in life as he might have hoped.
Read MoreI really hope this guy gets this deeply self centred woman out of his life without too much cost.
Everyone else can see it, except her. She is the problem.
If you choose to make problems where there are just little bumps in life, then you are really not a good partner. You smooth his life and he smooths your life. The simplest most basic way you can do it is try to take the bumps in our life in stride, so they do not become your spouse's problems. She does nothing for him but create angst. She is a huge burden for him. I hope he gets free.
Bukowski was a bit of a mess. A drunk who had a poor work history and toxic, sometimes violent relationships with women who we would suggest any man vetted out. Its very much the life that we would suggest a man who got in control of himself and his destiny, should aim to avoid.
Bukowski saw flickers of great beauty. He was an outsider (as many men are today) yet he never gave up on his genius. In spite of all his personal shortcomings which held him back, he showed us some of the beauty he saw and with some feeling that rings true.
Like all of us he was a mix of greatness and failure, perhaps a more polarised mix than most of us. But for men today, marginalised and often lacking fulfilment, who feel they still have something more to give, deserve to find something more from life and from love, he still has a relevancy and meaning as the lines you quote above show.
I had better check out the movie you suggest.
Read More...and I just had to manually add the word "sexism" to my phone's dictionary.
It had the word "misogyny" by default, but not "sexism". How odd.


