I'm pretty sure she violated the boundary I set and got drunk (in addition to lying). Now I need to act accordingly or i’ll appear weak.

Brutal truth: you want to appear strong because you are weak.

I know that hurts, but it's true. She violated a boundary and she knew you would give her a pass because you have given her enough security.

Because we're exclusive, and following past advice from you guys, I've already started collecting other girls I haven't slept with yet. My goal now is to demote her to a plate and use some dread game.

Demote to plate: excellent idea. "You broke our agreement and you behaved like someone I can't be exclusive with. That's fine, we all make mistakes, but things are different: we are no longer exclusive." No negotiations.

Dread: nah mate. This is you trying to train her. This is you painting lipstick on a pig. All that will happen is that she'll give you false promises at best. You're LDR, she's betrayed your trust, she's lied to you. Dread game is for loyal women losing sexual interest. You are dealing with a woman who lies and inches towards cheating. That's not dread time, that's "I shouldn't be exclusive with this girl".

You cannot change her.

She did this.

The end.

How should I proceed to demotion and detaching ( i feel like i have some oneitis for this chick).

Fuck 12 beautiful women then report back.

If you can't do this, work on fixing that.

Exclusivity is only for men with great options.

Be careful where your crypto actually is. Do you hold all the keys to it, or is it held "for you" by a third party?

Large BTC brokers go bust ALL THE FUCKING TIME. Even the biggest.

re. It seems 60k-65k is a good entry point at the moment

That makes no sense. The starting point is 0, work your way up from there.

Have you invested in BTC

Only accidentally, my risk and investment is elsewhere.

It seems like an excellent idea to invest in BTC given that my local currency is crap.What are your thoughts/recommendations given these conditions?Thanks

BTC has two risks:

• Theft / loss of your tokens by broker, hacking, app compromised, or loss of keys.
• BTC crashes.

I don't see anything but win when it comes to getting rid ot the Bolivar.

Inflationary currency causes people to avoid it, which causes inflation.

You're right to get the fuck out of that trap.

Dollar is fairly stable for a long time, but you can't hold physical currency.

Another option is an account at a foreign (eg American) bank. Low interest, but negligible risk.

If the date went as well as you thought, a 2nd date should be dead easy.

I probably could have escalated she even offered to give me a ride home but due to bad logistics and time constraints I didn't take her up on the offer or try to escalate. I kind of regret this now however on the other hand its important to have other priorities in your life so maybe it was an ok strategy as I had important work going on at that time. What do you think? Was it a mistake not to escalate on the first date?

It was a mistake to not escalate in SOME way. but that's ok, nothing's perfect.

Hi [name] how are you? I hope your friends boy is recovering well. What days are you off next week?

Sure, that's ok, but here is a better model, because you are trying to do 3 steps at once here and you don't need to.

Reconnection message 1: Something value-giving but REQUIRES NO REPLY.

Now, I know this is counter intuitive because you want a reply, but hear me out. Value giving because you want to generate attraction. Requiring no reply is easier on her (she can reply any time), easier on you (you don't need a reply), and implies high value (indifference to reply).

Examples (value receiving from femme perspective)

• Hey girl, saw X and thought of you.

Breakdown: "hey girl" frames the dynamic as inter-gender and flirty. "saw X and thought of you". implies you saw something (what was it? why did it remind you of her? is she special? why weren't you thinking of her already?). And that's it. No question, no demand..... you are reconnecting while still actually giving a bit of distance.

When she replies, you do not "hope they are recovering" - that is handwaving and pressuring the sick to be well. If friend is not well, your message lands terribly. Be more open ended and simply ask "How is X doing?". That lets her answer honestly regardless of circumstances. This is how you unfuck modern communication patterns.

Lastly don't ask what days she is free. Women hate that. I know it's reasonable, but they hate it and let me tell you why:

• If she says "I'm free Monday to Friday" it implies low value
• If she says "Thursday" then you might not be free Thursday and she might want to see you
• She is committing to a plan without knowing what the plan is. What if you follow up her commitment with something she doesn't want to do.

I know it's natural to do this, but don't.

The ideal model is "Hey... I'm doing X cool thing on Wednesday, come join me".

That only works for fixed time slots (comedy night, one off event, or you have a rammed schedule), so not always possible.

Failing that: "Hey.... Wednesday evening, let's go to X bar and start a riot" (or whatever is appropriate for your and her dynamic).

Why it works: She commits simultaneously to the date and the event, so she's not committing to one thing without the other.

Why it works part 2: If she can't make Wednesday or doesn't like X bar, then she can simply say "I'd love to, but I can't do X part of your plan, how about Y instead".

Also, you're leading and look decisive rather than dependent on her.

A lot of RP guys will say "don't let her change venue or date or location, if she reschedules tell her to fuck off."

I disagree. If she agres Thursday instead, then great..... "Sure... I've shuffled a few things around, Thursday it is". (make sure to remember what you shuffled in case she asks. and she will ask).

However..... it's ONE change. If she says "oh wait, I can't do Thursday how about Friday" you say "Sounds like you've got a busy week, another time is cool". Then you ignore her for a week and try again. You do not let her dick you around.

Bonus point: you have not specified a time to meet. You do that on the day as a way to confirm without asking any questions....... Thursday comes..... "7.30PM at X place before the big event. Be on time, I'll be early".