28F

Right on schedule! "LoOkInG tO sEtTlE dOwN!"

independent

How's that working out for you? You go, gurl!

matrimonial set up

I suspect an Indian woman, likely 2nd or 3rd generation from the immigrants to the US or Canada or the UK, who like many such women love the western party life from 16 (or younger) up through the Epiphany Phase, who then try to go back to the tradition of their culture and have their parents arrange a marriage.

Yeah, much like how men of the West have caught on to the shitty deal offered by post-Epiphany, leftover women, men of Indian descent are leery of women suddenly interested in "traditional" marriage after the "Party Years" are over.

all stopped talking to me after a couple of months

LOL!

1) she's likely annoying or otherwise insufferable

2) men have wised up

when I contacted the last person deliberately to know the reason for this type of behavior he said he is looking for exclusivity in marriage [emphasis added]

Yeah, men don't want to spend the rest of their lives paying to rent something other men got to use for free, back when it was more fun and better quality.

I lived a modern lifestyle

Cock Carousel Rider detected!

deleted dating apps from my phone, blocked all the casual and serious links

Cock Carousel Rider confirmed!

learned wearing saree

LMAO. I fucking nailed it on the Indian woman. Tag @ogrilla99 you'll enjoy this one!

In case he doesn't see the tag before the post gets archived and comments disabled, here is where he wrote a bit about this topic and also here.

The person I was in college and the person I am now are completely different

Sure! In college, you were a fun slut.

Now, you're a used-up slut who pretends to be a prude. A tradthot, though you don't fit our tradthot flair.

We met in college. We were both virgins when we met

Considering there were no virgins in high school or college back when I was there in the late 1990s and early 2000s, and women have only become even worse since then, I doubt she was.

But OK.

She resented that I was addicted to weed and porn (I have since quit both)…

Neither one of those are addictions. Did you go through painful withdrawals when you stopped?

Neither of the parts I responded to are all that important, but just rabbit holes I wanted to go down for a moment.

[the rest overall, broadly]

Read @pofkaf's reply. Except for the bit about "it sounds like you have mismanaged your money, so your wife acted to protect herself in case something went awry" he pretty much nailed it. For my part, it reads like you managed the money just fine, but she worried too much and acted out of her neuroticism.

Your marriage probably isn't salvageable, but you never know.

The biggest thing is, you need to make yourself more attractive. That means fixing your physique and fixing your mentality and behaviors.

Go to the MRP subreddit and read the sidebar.

The Big Three books from that sidebar: "Married Man Sex Life Primer" by Athol Kay, "No More Mr. NiceGuy" by Dr. Robert Glover, and "When I Say No I Feel Guilty" by Dr. Manuel Smith.

Those three books will help you (and any man) more than just about anything besides hitting the weights.

Once you've read and digested all three of those, I recommend the first two books in Rian Stone's "Praxeology" series: "Praxeology Volume 1: Frame" and "Praxeology Volume 2: Dread". They're available on Audible, and I've listened to both during long commutes multiple times. They're truly great, but you need the foundation of the Big Three first to get the most out of them. The author, Rian Stone, is one of the moderators at the MRP subreddit and is among the Senior Endorsed Contributors at this one. He doesn't bat a thousand (no one does), but his work is damned good.

While you're reading this stuff, you might also want to check out a particular post on the MRP sidebar titled something like "the beta's guide to divorce" or something like that, and also consult an attorney about protecting your assets as much as the law allows.

Good luck.

Oh, and a small tip: if you find yourself getting angry enough to want to kick a door or anything else our effeminized soyciety might consider "violent" or "abusive", just leave the house a while. Go hit the weights if your gym is open and put your anger into your workout. If the gym is closed, take a brief, brisk walk through your neighborhood. Either way, come back home once you've calmed down and gotten a grip on yourself.

Hi brother. You're not learning the basics again. You are slowly changing the dynamic. You need to have your own sovereignty. This is something rarely talked about.

Now, the spergs are going to tell you about laying down strict boundaries and being strong willed. This is the key to resentment. The change you need to make is inward. This is knowing what you want and simply going after it yourself. So the train your on leaves regardless of her direction. You're there to encourage her and collaborate with her. You're not there to fix her problems or be her pack mule this is the difference between leadership and being a sucker. Most of the male population are weak simps in their relationship. This is how you show you're subtle power and leadership. It a simple mindset change. "Everyone is entitled to their emotions. I let them sort them out on their own as a functional adult".

It's not your job to emotionally regulate your partners bullshit. It's your job to regulate your own. This is leadership. Now of course be there with warmth and strength in emergencies, but everyday non emergencies are hers to manage. Just because she drops it doesn't mean you have to pick it up.

There are three entities in a relationship: Me You And the collective We

The we is the overlap in two individuals lives. If either of you don't do autonomous things. The focus on "we" will start to form disconnection. This is the cause of divorced and breakups. My parents are in their mid seventies and still in a loving marriage. Both of them have a great time together and also their own separate lives apart.

You're going to get a lot of shit advice to rule with an Iron fist. This is insecurity disguised as strength. If you don't trust this woman, do yourself a favor and dump her. Otherwise let her have a night out with her girlfriends. If you're her hypergamous best option, she isn't going to fuck that up. You want to keep her around with your attractiveness and strength.

Of course you need to game her. Stay flirty, light and know how to have fun. This is maintenance of you and your relationship.

And reinforce your boundaries. Don't Defend, Explain, Excuse or Rationalize (DEER) your boundaries. Just inform her briefly. That doesn't work for me. Or here's what I want there is no please, what do you think or is this ok. These are non negotiable and quick and strong statements shut down questions or getting you into arguments or losing the point of your assertation of boundaries.

I would recommend the YouTube channel of Rian Stone. He has some great content for stuff like this.