@Tempsyy Get as strong as you physically can (the most important advice). Learn game, read everything the in the red pill archives. Analyze what the meaning behind a girls message is. Understand that a girl is not playing checkers with you, she is playing chess. She is your enemy and only through knowing how to maneuver on the battlefield will you defeat her and earn her respect. You have to understand her, her intentions, what she is actually showing behind the facade. You have to know that they will lie about a lot of things to throw you off the fact that they are a slut. It's a jungle out there and the worst thing you can do for yourselves is to believe that a girl cares about you is telling you the truth. Always start from a place to non belief. They are trying to beat you by cucking you (if they can) and you have to stop yourself from getting cucked. You do that by developing discipline, gaining strength and then drawing boundaries for disrespect. You do that by learning the games that they have been playing since an infant, defend against it and at times attack on your own if you can. The anxiety is not bad that she gave you, it's a sign from your body to wake the fuck up and stop getting played. Your body is telling you hey, something's wrong here you okay up there in your brain? Wake up it's saying.

It's a fight between you and her and if you are not adept at fighting with other men mentally, you will get chewed up until you learn. You have to learn to be a master manipulator, learn how to fight with your mind or you will continually lose. It's a fight and you're losing and your body is trying to wake you up. You need to get to work studying, learning game, learning how to be political, learn how not submit and instead make her submit.

Long time lurker, first post. Need harsh truth from you guys.

Met this girl, Giulia. Older (25, I'm 20). Smart, deep connection, good sex. Started during intense pastry course. Lived close, saw her every day. Became my main emotional support. My mistake, I know.

Problem: she was textbook one-itis for her ex, Thomas. Used "buying weed" as excuse to see him. Always created drama.

The cycle was fucked:

She meets ex, fucks up (cheats emotionally, physically). Comes crying to me, full of guilt. I play the "good guy", comfort her, "forgive" her. I become her emotional tampon. This shit drained me. Anxiety, no sleep. My mission (top pastry chef) was suffering.

I tried setting boundaries. Told her to cut him off. She promised, then broke promises. Classic. I broke it off, went no contact. She showed up at my work, crying, begging, kneeling. Said she loved me. Weak moment, I let her back in on "probation".

We met again. Same shit. Good morning, but then back at her place... the vibe was poison. I felt my power drain. We had sex. It was shit. Full of anxiety. I realized I was her validation machine, not her man.

My action: Cut her off completely. Blocked everywhere. Deleted number. Total ghost. It hurts like hell, but the mental clarity is already returning. I’m on a strict self-improvement protocol now: early mornings, cold showers, gym, focusing 100% on my mission. Rasated my head to reset.

My question: I know I let my empathy fuck me over. I played the savior instead of the prize. How do I prevent this emotional drain in the future? How do I build a stronger frame so a woman's chaos doesn't become my own? Trying to get back on trp, would love to have some posts or guides linked to me.

Looking for raw feedback, not sympathy. Hit me.