1y ago TheRedPill
@deeplydisturbed Wow, great points 1 through 4. Helps me to get a completely different perspective on it and change strategies, thanks man, will apply
1y ago TheRedPill
@TeaBizzle She isn't yours. She isn't loyal. If you want that, get a dog. While she may not be actively looking for something new, women are always playing the field by nature. And when she is so should you. Well, you should be anyway.
1y ago TheRedPill
How do you handle guys flirting with your new girl at a party? Because she's new (~6 months) I wanted to see how loyal she is and so gave her space and observed from a distance with my mate. If we were properly together I would have stayed in the conversation and done my best to take command of the situation. Later I feel unsettled seeing her laughing, having a good time and borderline flirting with other guy, but maybe this is easy way to figure that she's not loyal.
Curious to get your takes and how you would have handled it?
That really depends on what you've observed of the girls personality and behavior in the span of six months of dating to pin down what's normal behavior for her to think she's ready for you to take to parties. I'm of the general attitude that if a female wants to go with another guy, her prompt departure is in both our best interests. It confirms any nascent suspicions I've developed of her lack of interest and it validates my softly diminishing the amount of time and energy I spend on that particular female.
Read More1y ago TheRedPill
@adam-l Thanks man appreciate the input. At the same time I don't want to be the guy going off at other guys for talking to my girl. If my girl cheats sure I'll be mad at the guy, but even more mad at my girl, and then in a way at myself for choosing her. Not gonna hate on other guys for taking a shot coz that's what I do too, it's the girl who's not being loyal.
@TeaBizzle you'll never be her only option. As long as you're her best one, that's fine. "The glass is already broken" anyway, enjoy it while it's your turn, and don't neglect to build up your other options for when it's over.
And don't "test" her at parties. It's like testing a dog at the butcher's. Have fun with her, or don't go at all.
@adam-l Alpha fucks, Beta bucks is not true. If the strategy was just to get the seed of the alpha while maintaining the loyalty of the beta then why do majority of women develop feelings for the man they're having an affair with? If the theory was true she wouldn't develop emotion for him and would maintain her love for the beta because that will maximise kids chances of survival.
What it really is is monkey branching, she's just going for the upgrade.
My understanding is this is the position of David Buss, one of the OG evolutionary psychologists who contributed to the alpha fucks beta bucks theory but now speaks out against it.
She's just hoping she can lock down the alpha as a new mate.
1y ago TheRedPill
How do you handle guys flirting with your new girl at a party? Because she's new (~6 months) I wanted to see how loyal she is and so gave her space and observed from a distance with my mate. If we were properly together I would have stayed in the conversation and done my best to take command of the situation. Later I feel unsettled seeing her laughing, having a good time and borderline flirting with other guy, but maybe this is easy way to figure that she's not loyal.
Curious to get your takes and how you would have handled it?
2y ago TheRedPill
Inviting multiple plates to my party - tips? My dream is for me and my mate to have a party at mine and we both invite a good few of our girls, but this seems super risky and dangerous, but so fun at the same time! Any tips and tricks? What to expect?