Quick field reissuesWent one two dates with a girl, and we had a lot in common. Both liked the same books, ect. The only catch was this girl had SEVERE anxiety and depression. You could tell by her body language alone, but she also made reference to it a couple times in conversation which confirmed my suspicions.

This immediately made me nervous, because while I wanted to get laid I also didn't want to ruin this chicks life or something. I got more nervous and less physical in my interactions. As I did this, she further withdrew in her body language. The conversation was great/intellectual but not sexual at all because the signals I was getting clearly said that wasn't safe territory.

The day after date 2, she texted me that she wasn't interested which honestly was a relief. However, it also made a very important point in my mind - even with a girl who's life is a wreck of anxiety, depression, weird hang ups and cultural repression of sexual instincts wants to feel the mythical "tingles". I let her set the frame of the interaction by tiptoing around her issues, instead of being bold and intentional.

I'm relieved that I don't have to potentially deal with the drama and shit that would've come from trying to form a connection with a woman like that. I've also learned a valuable lesson.