READ THE SIDEBAR BEFORE POSTING!
@adam-pretty much and it is sad but it is what it is
Cultural forces are messing up whatever is possible of natural biological harmony
I would suggest strategizing. You can draw genuine desire from a woman, for a period, but you can no longer invest in her long term, courtesy of feminism. Long-term investment in a woman was only possible when the whole society actively disproved their exiting.
The cup is already broken.
1
3
While all 3 of you are right about it being incumbent on the man to take the kind of sex he wants, OP @OPStolen has been complaining about the lackluster sex with this chick for several months now.
I read between the lines that he's tried, and she's declined, but he puts up with it because of other factors (whatever value she adds to his life besides sex).
If I'm wrong about that, then yeah, he definitely needs to try to guide what he wants in the bedroom.
But if she gives him any "I'm not like that anymore" BS, it's time to move on.
It's really a cost benefit ratio. Do you get more out of one girl or more out of 5?
And to be clear here: it's rare to find a woman with whom you get more satisfaction than keeping a rotating harem.
But they exist, and they aren't going to put up with being part of a rotation for very long if they want monogamy.
1
3
Yeah for sure
It's really a cost benefit ratio. Do you get more out of one girl or more out of 5?
Of course she is thinking something similar although differently. Do i want this one guy or do I want to keep searching for an upgrade/date others
You really have to look at the overall. I knew a guy with 300 bodies and he was sick of it. It's contextual. People crave human connection and what you want out of it depends on what you have and what you want
(obviously while following praxeology and not being a retard about human nature)
1
2
@Vermillion-Rx I've been saying that shit for years.
Not to mention, she has a vote and her standards too.
I've done the harem thing, but as I got more serious with one, I ended up dropping the others because I didn't think I needed them anymore and it was the cost of keeping the one I really wanted.
If you can't be or just don't want to be monogamous, then don't even try.
1
2
You have a point
I'm not happy about either point. You're damned if you do, dammed if you don't
The only solution appears to be just being happy with yourself and doing whatever the fuck you want
1
3
the idea you can have a main chick just tolerate side chicks forever is far fetched
You probably have a point there.
I mean, heck, they don't even tolerate being the sole woman forever, even if no side chick is involved, so...
1
2
Yeah man I mean why would they hold up their side with Briffault's Law and solipsism?
I mean hell,
"Hey babe I'm with side chick"
Her: okay
Her: *invites guy over because fuck why not she knows you're busy*
It's just not gonna happen the way any guy thinks
She's not gonna be okay with it. Even if she "is" it will be used against you at some point. There is no sane counterpoint to it. It's fundamentally an unfair relationship arrangement