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Hey guys need some help/guidance with P.E
Had a PE episode with a girl not too long ago... was the first date and was embarrassing for me even if she didnt seem to mind too much. Ive been doing Nofap because I love the clarity of a 4+ day streak and the heightened T, and have nearly completely removed porn although the impulse is there sometimes. On these streaks Im very sensitive and can't imagine lasting long in bed.
Basically wondering how its possible to have sporadic hookups where you last long if the Nofap energy is what gets you the hookups... Im not really looking for sex cos Im busy (finishing school) but obviously not opposed to it when the opportunity arises
Im thinking these are my options; Learn how to have Non-Ejaculatory Orgasm so I can just keep fucking until she orgasms ||| Beat it before a potential date (problem is oxytocin and lowered T as a result) ||| Deal with the refractory period and go twice ||| Long 30-60 nofap streak to completely "reset" and return to baseline stimulation (Ive heard this online but cant be fucked trying if theres a chance it wont do anything)
Im all ears to suggestions though. Thanks TRPRead More
@Alaxos Holy shit my dude, what are you doing? Stop thinking for one second.
Right. Ditch the girl immediately. Any excuse you try and give me is automatically invalid. If you aren’t fucking her she has nothing to do with you. Just move the fuck on in whatever capacity that needs to be.
Get out of whatever weird pattern you’ve got yourself into. How long have you been at TRP? Read the sidebar man.
Take vitamins, get a blood test for hormone levels, get out and enjoy some real life.
My addiction to pornography and it's relationship with this girl.
I have watched porn and masturbated for 8 years in a row. It was so much damage that I did to my reward system that I was even unable to cry and believed that I was "emotionally strong". Lie. I had my emotions asleep.
I started NoFap a couple of years ago and my rewards system is improving, yet still screwed up. AND I THINK it's affecting my I THINK Oneitis that I have with this girl.
I mean, I don't know if this is Oneitis or my addiction to porn disguised as addiction to her. (Cross addiction, also known as addiction transfer or Addiction Interaction Disorder, is when a person has two or more addictive behaviors. The addictions can include alcohol or other drugs, but can also include addictions to food, gambling, sex, gaming or other compulsive behaviors.)
In my case, my first addiction is pornography and masturbation, I transmuted it to my addiction to her. But I think it's not ONEITIS, this is where I need your help people.
I want to cry every time she stops giving me the chemicals she used to give me, oxytocin and dopamine. However, after I cry, she doesn't give a damn to me. As if my Oneitis disappeared for a moment. The same thing happens to me with pornography, and I believe that everyone who watches pornography. We enter the porn page with great enthusiasm and when we finish watching the video then we do not care about the pornography, we even feel guilty.
The same thing happens to me with this girl. While she is in her group of her choir (in the afternoon) I feel sad and cry. But I'm done crying and I don't care about her.
What do you think, does anyone here have a porn addiction and went through something similar?Read More
The paradox of TRP | Discussion
I have known about the red pill for more than a year, but these last few weeks is when I am swallowing the pill. For reference, I haven't finished any TRP books, so this is a downside to what I'm about to say.
The Redpill Paradox, a concept that I call the fact that; While TRP tells you you must give a fuck about women, on the other hand, the topic revolves around them. It's like having an elephant in your kitchen and they tell you not to pay attention to it while you're feeding it.
I've come to realize that when you REALLY don't care if your LTR leaves your relationship that's when you don't even need a lot of TRP concepts.
This brings me to the following. TRP is an alternative to the maximum you can get from an attribute like SELF RESPECT and self value.
I think a person with enough self respect and self worth doesn't even care when a girl is ignoring him. Many in TRP call you NEXT HER, but simply saying NEXT HER to a girl is already giving it importance. Why not just play their little game and have a chat every now and then? That is, as a friend and nothing more.
This epiphany came to me (maybe wrong and obviously open to discussion) about how much you can enjoy simply with the company of a woman, without having to get to sex.
A study was carried out on emotional codependency and it was concluded that 95% of 10 000 couples have this situation.
In conclusion, I think that many TRP concepts can be left out and shaped a bit if we have enough self-confidence and self-esteem. If we have high self-esteem, high self-confidence, high self-respect then WE WILL NATURALLY PASS the girls' shit tests, isn't that true?
I like TRP. But I think it is a path (referring to The Game) that we must take once we have built sufficient self-confidence and self-esteem. Because basically, if a needy guy with low self esteem starts playing The Game, this would result in situations like fake it till you make it or imposter syndrome.
What do you think?Read More
The less time you spend building rapport before sex, the more likely that she'll have regrets/ASD after it?
Fairly often I get with girls within an hour or even minutes of meeting them. Like I match with her on tinder, meet her at a park, after 30 minutes I suggest going to my place, she comes. Or we match on tinder and straight up invite myself to her place in the 1st few messages.
Then the sex is good, we actually have things to talk about, she laughs and all that. Usually I ask her to hangout again few days later, sometimes they accept, sometimes they flake. Most times after a few more bootycalls or texts, she starts acting skittish and pulling back. Some start acting more quiet (in a nervous/anxious way tho) in person in the subsequent hangouts before ghosting, some just ghost before a 2nd hangout happens.
Is this ASD or what? Maybe I'm tryna see them too soon after the 1st date fuck? How do I prevent this?Read More
@Portobello3610 I don’t live there but this description rings just as true in my european country, AWALT.
The bartender in that environment is very alpha. Just imagine the number of women that come on to him. He picked one slut for an earlier night and now she’s basically alpha widowed and desiring him forever. Her friends probably think it’s cool to get free drinks too. Especially true if younger/broke ass bitches. Grinding on you is just to get his attention. You were just too drunk to see her glances and body language.
A lot of slut women think a blowjob is not sex so a woman thinks she is not cheating trash when she ”only” sucks your cock. To say what exactly went wrong we need more details about that encounter.
@sodium_chloride Allowing yourself to get out of shape is the biggest mistake you made. Up your workout frequency to 5/week. Lift and cardio. Do bulk/shred periods to put on muscle and then lower bf eg before beach 2022.
Workout before you go on dates to feel more confident.
A good way to be less concerned by rejection is to fuck hookers. Just don’t make it your primary food, it’s just a complement.
If you’re on OLD get better photos taken by a pro photographer to maximize your matches. This will allow you to see more women which will lower the loss you feel when any single woman rejects you.
I rarely regret something I did eg get rejected. But I always regret something I didn’t do eg go to a threesome booty call.