3y ago The Hub
When I talk with my friends I always get excited and just tell them everything on my mind, and that sometimes can get ugly or at least saying things that are not necessary.
I do hate why I am doing it, it feels like I am doing it unconsciously. What to do to fix my speaking behavior?
A few thoughts:
- First seek to understand, THEN to be understood.
- When you lose enough friends and find yourself isolated, you will change your behavior.
- If you think about the other person, you ask more questions than making statements.
This is a phase. You are probably smart and have a lot to say. You will get this out of your system - or find people who want to hear what you have to say.
I call those people "real friends"
3y ago The Hub
Do women priorities one of these (Looks, physique, height)? Or that's different from a women to another? The reason I asked this, is that I tend to dress normally and currently growing my hair, such that I'm in a phase that my hair looks a mess it's in the middle neither long nor short, will that reflect on a person's hygiene?
@LampinWhileTappin I told her “I take that as a compliment”. Then she said “But to be successful I guess you do have to be a little narcissistic”. Nothing but a shit test
Those three things you mentioned are all about physical attractiveness, which comes last in the list of the traits that women find attractive. But among those, it depends on the woman.
Out of 10, a woman who is
6.5 or less will value height most
5 to 7.5 will value physique most
7.5 and higher will value looks most
Masculine and intelligent are the best facial features to have. I don't know which between these two is more important.
@LampinWhileTappin generally looks>height >physique in my experience. It’s like a 1-10 scale though. If you’re a 5 looks then you need a higher /10 with physique and height. If you’re a 5/10 height you need a higher /10 on looks and physique. Think of Tom Cruise. He’s 5’7.
3y ago The Hub
@Jocbro That's what I had in mind, it is a shit test and you replied well, I thought this might were you failed and that's why she acted this way. But no, you passed that shit. Could it be that she's threatened by your success, such that she feels she cannot function or compete at your level?
@LampinWhileTappin if I had to guess, it’s that she isn’t looking for a short fling. She is a senior in college so she is approaching the wall. I think since I have perceived high value, she doesn’t get the comfort from me that she would an average guy. She felt that she would always have to compete for my validation.
This could be over analyzing but I’m confident that this is subconsciously what was going on.