@LampinWhileTappin This is a well mapped out area with LOTS of resources you can choose from to work with.
Assertiveness training. Look into this a bit and feel free to ask any questions that come up.
There are probably psychological barriers at work here too. Maybe you don't give yourself permission to take certain risks or be right or something..? Or that you won't be liked/accepted if you "boss" others around..?
Gents of RP,
In regards to talking with others (men and women):
How do I overcome this? Is it related to voice speed, pausing between words to be more dramatic, body language, story telling, personality?
I doubt my reply will help you, since you already seem set in your career. However, this is for any man pondering what career to choose.
One of the many advantages of the skilled trades, especially in the unions, is the temporary nature of most work assignments.
How do you deal with a micromanaging boss?
I either suck it up for the few weeks remaining on the job, or quit and go sign a book at a local hall and get a new job referral the next day.
How do you deal with a micromanaging boss?
So this month we got a new boss (Cyber-sec department) and he is really bad at both the technical and managerial skills (he got his positions due his strong contacts and relationships). He does not know how to manage people or how to manage IT solutions unfortunately. Anyhow, his style in management is micromanagement and this is really bugging us out, we cannot find a way to work this out professionally.
Whenever something pops in his head he wants that to be DONE NOW, even if you are working on a critical task, he will want you to just drop what you have and work on what he asked you; This has caused us to have somethings backfire at me due to his style of (drop what's in your hand and do what I want NOW). Then he will put the blame on me not being able to work concurrently!
Gentlemen, this is my first time working with such management style, need your input and guidance on this I want to excel at my position but this manager might effect this
@drake offers solid counsel here as it's not your company, but someone else's. However, I think the writing is being put on the wall. Read this book, update your resume, and consider applying to other companies, pursuing contracting, or building your own company.
Three months ago you complained about a newly hired female coworker. Now you're complaining about a recently hired moron of a manager. Given that you've since revealed you're in cyber security, I'm disinclined to see these situations as isolated incidents, but the beginning of a trend. You might want to plan a quiet professional exit before things escalate.
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So this month we got a new boss (Cyber-sec department) and he is really bad at both the technical and managerial skills (he got his positions due his strong contacts and relationships). He does not know how to manage people or how to manage IT solutions unfortunately. Anyhow, his style in management is micromanagement and this is really bugging us out, we cannot find a way to work this out professionally.
Whenever something pops in his head he wants that to be DONE NOW, even if you are working on a critical task, he will want you to just drop what you have and work on what he asked you; This has caused us to have somethings backfire at me due to his style of (drop what's in your hand and do what I want NOW). Then he will put the blame on me not being able to work concurrently!
Gentlemen, this is my first time working with such management style, need your input and guidance on this I want to excel at my position but this manager might effect this
Read MoreWe both joined the company at the same time, we are both new there I am not sure of her past career
If you already can tell she's difficult to work with then supervisors and managers are likely aware. Have you taken your concerns up with them yet?
@carnold03 We both joined the company at the same time, we are both new there I am not sure of her past career
Any material to read to deal with girls with such attitude ? Is The 48 Laws of Power a good one for this scenario
A) That's a book you should read anyway, no matter what's currently going on in your life.
B) it's not tips and tricks for dealing with different types of people, but rather a way to understand how power works, and recognize when it happens to you so you can adapt.
Gentlemen,
I have a project this coming week where my partner on this project is a "bossy" girl. This is my first time working with women on projects. I have worked with her before on a side mission, she is really hard to work with, she wants to take anything that will make her shine or be the first to present a presentation or any such action.
The last time I worked with her I noticed this bossy behavior of her, I will allow her to take the lead if she is worthy to do so, but no she sucks at work and also at presentations. Whenever I tell her that I will take the lead this time for the presentation or we will go with my approach, she gets angry and try to push me to go with what she is suggesting.
I can tell that she is the type who likes to escalate to HR or the manager, you know with current situation women are always the "honest" party. How should I deal with her in this coming project, should be strict or easy going or in between? The project is huge and will have a huge impact on my career.
Any material to read to deal with girls with such attitude ? Is The 48 Laws of Power a good one for this scenario?
If she's difficult to work with, how has she managed to stay employed with the company this long and how many people on the job has she gotten fired out of her past project partners?
Read MoreGentlemen,
I have a project this coming week where my partner on this project is a "bossy" girl. This is my first time working with women on projects. I have worked with her before on a side mission, she is really hard to work with, she wants to take anything that will make her shine or be the first to present a presentation or any such action.
The last time I worked with her I noticed this bossy behavior of her, I will allow her to take the lead if she is worthy to do so, but no she sucks at work and also at presentations. Whenever I tell her that I will take the lead this time for the presentation or we will go with my approach, she gets angry and try to push me to go with what she is suggesting.
I can tell that she is the type who likes to escalate to HR or the manager, you know with current situation women are always the "honest" party. How should I deal with her in this coming project, should be strict or easy going or in between? The project is huge and will have a huge impact on my career.
Any material to read to deal with girls with such attitude ? Is The 48 Laws of Power a good one for this scenario?
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