Mixed signals? Bordering on oneitis. Should i pursue or just move on?
All events happened within the last 3 weeks.
I see this girl at gym near daily and I'm attracted to her, I wanna sm*sh. I noticed that she was hovering in my vicinity so I tried to start a conversation so I could eventually ask her out. This happened on two separate occasions. Both times, she answered my first question quickly and got out of the conversation asap. [headphones back on & walked away] This suggested that she's actually not interested. I stopped trying after the second time because I don't want to bother/creep anyone at the gym. The following day, she "accidentally" bumped into me and smiled at me. The day after, she ignored me completely.
I went away on vacation for a week. Now I am back & I see her near daily again. I think she knows I like her even though I haven't explicitly expressed it/put her on the spot. I've been trying to take my mind off it and I realized there's really no shortage of beautiful women out here. Trying to focus on my purpose so i can have my pick of them.
I stopped trying to talk to her because it would come off like I'm chasing her after the way the first 2 times went. Now, every time she comes in, it seems like she makes sure I know she's there by walking directly in front of where I'm working out when she arrives. She doesn't really hover in my vicinity anymore. She looks at me when I'm not looking but when I look at her she doesn't look at me.
What should i do going forward? Thank you
You've been thinking about this girl for nearly a month and you've taken no action beyond greetings. Part of me is wondering if there have there been any other women in that same time span you've otherwise could've noticed if this one wasn't on your mind. As for this chick at the gym, either make your move to ask for her contact information and let your interest be known or focus your attention elsewhere.
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