All factor into it. You can't reduce it to "my SMV needs to be x and shell fuck me"
Good answer. I was going to point out that the question presupposes there's one right and thus hackable answer. Too much reductionism before morning coffee for me.
@Typo-MAGAshiv I mean I was already headed back to hers by the time she started her man hating rant so my job was to seal the deal.
Also I knew the "I'm not gonna kiss you" was a shit test because as soon I got into her room we were making out aggressively. It's not really that I don't spin plates, it's just that I just have no more desire to be cycling through more than 1 or 2 girls that I'm not all the way into which unfortunately is what plate spinning mostly consisted of for me. I've had much more success with the hottest girls of my life this year not focusing on plate spinning. Then again I also did a lot of self improvement so could be that as well.
But I see your perspective, I'm honestly in the same mindset as in I'm not necessarily looking or desperate for a relationship right now BUT it is my main goal as I'm tired of the game. So if I meet a girl that on paper meets my criteria I will pursue it a little more seriously. There were other things apart from looks with this girl that made her fit that criteria. But regardless thanks for the advice.
Agreed she is a bit weird.Read More
Where did I mess up with this girl?
For context I'm a bit over my plate spinning days and now I'm looking for something a bit more steady and long term. I met a girl who ,physically, was my type and someone who I wanted to see again. Details below:
I met this girl at a bar in my city. We were vibing a lot (even her friend told my friend that she's surprised that we have good chemistry/ we look very good together). As we were vibing I asked for her IG,she gave it to me but for some reason she was playing hard to get about accepting me as a follower and following me back. I assumed she was just joking around cause I've had this happen before. Eventually the bar was closing and I ask if she wanted to get food. She said yes, we walk out the bar and she talks to her friend for a bit, her friend then comes to me and demands to take a picture of my ID before we leave. After that I knew I'd be at least going home with her because she left her friends to be with me.
Anyway we end up getting food and I drive her back to her place. This is where things took a turn. On the walk to the car, even though we were holding hands, she keeps going on about how much she "hates men, blah blah blah, men suck, men say the same thing" and I'm just surprised cause I just met her. I then try to kiss her before we enter the car and she jokingly says "nope I'm not gonna kiss you" in a way where I felt like I would get it later. After a while of complaining about men, as we park in front of her apartment building she says "you know I hate that I'm actually starting to like your personality".
Anyway we go to her apartment lobby and as we're waiting for the elevator I try to kiss her again she says "idk why but I'm not gonna let you kiss me". At this point I'm just like wtf? Why is she playing so hard to get. Eventually when we get into her room we start making out on her bed aggressively but then she stops and goes to her bathroom. I think heard her pop some pills but it could've been something else. She comes back and we lie down and eventually she babbles for like an hour about different things including men again and she falls asleep before I can make a move.
I assumed I wasted my time so I start to fall asleep and almost as soon as I'm asleep she wakes up and starts making out with me very aggressively. I start fingering her, eating her out etc. and eventually she grabs "it" and starts pushing it in. As I'm going in she stops me and says "I have something to tell you, I'm a virgin". I didn't really react negatively I was just internally surprised. Personally I think she's either inexperienced or actually a virgin cause she was definitely inexperienced when we were doing stuff on her bed. We do a couple more make out/fingering sessions and she babbles some more but I then leave in the morning and she gives me her number.
I text her a few days later and she basically didn't respond and she never accepted my follow request.
Idk, where do you guys think I may have messed up or is this girl just crazy? I did like the non-crazy parts of her personality so I wanted to see her again. And she was really hot and supposedly a virgin. A bit bummed it didn't work out.Read More