@thespectator

Managing a slutty girl

I'm traveling/living abroad and pulled my hottest girl yet 2 months ago. I see her every 1-2 weeks, we fuck every time. This 22yo girl has more red flags than a Chinese military parade so I know I shouldn't try to LTR her:

• Only likes rough sex, doesn't like to cuddle
• Does erotic/tied up photos
• Has a tongue piercing and a small tattoo on her chest
• Openly talks about sleeping with other guys, agreed when I said she's going through a slut phase
• Says she has "sex tapes"
• Told me a dude she was staying with in a foreign country (who cheated on his fiancée with her) is coming to visit her in a few months
• met up with a wealthy dude who paid for a trip but didn't fuck him because he was beta

I'm also pretty sure she has assburgers and there's worse shit she hasn't told me yet.

My question is how to make her obsessed with me because I want to keep this going as long as possible. She barely texts and responds slow, says she's busy for most days, but always shows up.

I only text for logistics. Usually, we meet for drinks and then go back to my place and she spends the night. Last time I took her on a trip out of town for the weekend.

I'm still meeting other girls regularly. Am I right in thinking the only answer here is to keep doing what you're doing, fuck her good, and find other girls to get her off my mind?

She's not mine it's just my turn type of shit? Any other advice? Maybe I'm catching oneitis here

Unless you're a pimp, it's really not possible nor in the best interests of your mental health to invest into managing a whore.

You probably have developed one-itis, but hopefully you're expressed awareness is enough to get you to tamp it down and reign it in. Beyond that, it doesn't read like anything I could chime in would help. Keep treating her the way you have thus far. As long as you maintain a heavy wallet and heavy balls, she'll likely always be down to f%$k. She counts on that consistency, so keep banging away.

When the time comes and you decide to stop riding the dragon, consider investing into a reliable ready reference you can pick up and study to better prepare yourself for engaging the opposite sex. I'd suggest that you get yourself a copy of Doc Love's "The System: The Dating Dictionary". Doc Love, who until his passing was also known as Tom Hodges, wrote a weekly advice column that's archive is mirrored on several mens focused sites and a podcast. His media is a bit pricey, but it's a solid foundation a guy can branch out from in RP aware circles. I'd suggest you review his advice column to decide if his view on dating and relationships is aligned with what you aspire for yourself. To save yourself a search, give this scribed link a gander to find out if his #book is something you'd like to add to your library. It should also be available on libgen.

@Kloi

Took myself to an AA meeting last night because Tuesday night into Wednesday was the closest I came to grabbing a drink in the past 10 months.

While I'm not 100% sold on the 12 Step Program, I recognized just being around and hearing people's stories helped rationalize some of the shit I was dealing with.

I've seen a few users mention there's not much RP content on addiction, specifically drugs which is my specialty, I went ahead and made a private tribe for anyone suffering from any form addiction who wants to quit.

For more on what I specifically went through this week: putting down my dog of 13 and a half years. First death I've gone through sober and it opened up Pandora's Box on a ton of shit I guess I never internalized because I masked them with narcotics.

My condolences to you on the passing of your pet dog. Such a loss is one I can sympathize with and it's good to read that you've a group of actual people you can fall back on in these times. Give yourself the time you need to mourn your dogs passing. Take some solace in knowing that all dogs go to heaven. Cats, not so much.

@aym4ne

Found her secretly chasing richer guys - should I keep her around for sex or cut her off?

Been seeing this girl casually for a while now. Sex is fire, energy is good when we're together, but recently I found her Threads account (she assumed I didn't have one). She's out there posting thirst traps, flirting with bikers, and clearly chasing guys who look richer or more flashy.

I haven't confronted her. She has no idea I saw any of it.

I never planned anything serious with her - no long-term intentions, just casual. But now I'm wondering:

Should I keep her around strictly for sex and detach emotionally, or just cut her off and move on?

Personally, I'm more inclined toward keeping her around for casual sex, as it'd require lots of energy to find someone else, since I'm not interested in building a long lasting relationship anyway, but a part of me feels disrespected.

How would you handle this? Looking for straight takes.

There's no take to really have on this as it's a non-issue. You're not her husband and she's not your wife. The only thing that's changed since you two started banging is that you've confirmed she's pursuing other guys which means she lacks the traits indicative of loyalty.

Which is just as well, as you weren't looking for a chaste virgin to take as a wife and she wasn't looking for her prince charming to sweep her off her feet. If you enjoy the lay and she's otherwise pleasant company, add her to an inventory of plates, and bang away. However, if you're humoring exclusivity of any kind, you should definitely look elsewhere.

To aid you in that, consider investing into a reliable ready reference you can pick up and study to better prepare yourself for engaging the opposite sex. I'd suggest that you get yourself a copy of Doc Love's "The System: The Dating Dictionary". Doc Love, who until his passing was also known as Tom Hodges, wrote a weekly advice column that's archive is mirrored on several mens focused sites and a podcast. His media is a bit pricey, but it's a solid foundation a guy can branch out from in RP aware circles. I'd suggest you review his advice column to decide if his view on dating and relationships is aligned with what you aspire for yourself. To save yourself a search, give this scribed link a gander to find out if his #book is something you'd like to add to your library. It should also be available on libgen.