@TeaBizzle

How do you handle guys flirting with your new girl at a party? Because she's new (~6 months) I wanted to see how loyal she is and so gave her space and observed from a distance with my mate. If we were properly together I would have stayed in the conversation and done my best to take command of the situation. Later I feel unsettled seeing her laughing, having a good time and borderline flirting with other guy, but maybe this is easy way to figure that she's not loyal.

Curious to get your takes and how you would have handled it?

That really depends on what you've observed of the girls personality and behavior in the span of six months of dating to pin down what's normal behavior for her to think she's ready for you to take to parties. I'm of the general attitude that if a female wants to go with another guy, her prompt departure is in both our best interests. It confirms any nascent suspicions I've developed of her lack of interest and it validates my softly diminishing the amount of time and energy I spend on that particular female.

@TeaBizzle

A Few Thoughts

1. "Mate Guarding" is easy to spot from across a room. I have seen videos breaking this down. Don't do this. It looks weak and desperate, even though it is a natural instinct. Fight that instinct.

2. If you are at a party and other guys are hitting on your woman openly, then those men do not fear or respect you. OR they do not know she is taken. So assume they don't know. Walk past her and slap her on the ass, or whisper in her ear and smile on your way to the bathroom. But do NOT let her or them see you "sweat"

3. When she is talking to other men, you should talk to other women. Just casually, and not too flirty. Just enough. You know what I mean. She should be worried about you, not the other way around. If that's not the dynamic, then you need to fix it or move on - or you will be fucking miserable.

4. Women flirt by nature. Sounds like a test to me. Don't try to " take command" of anything, How about enjoy the party. As I repeat often around here "The best revenge is a life well-lived" So enjoy yourself. That beats everything almost every time. Trust me on this one.

Story Time

Something similar happened to me just a month ago at an event.

Some cocky dude started chatting up my woman (She and I have been dating for a month at that time). After about 5 minutes I walked over to her and interrupted "Hey, forgive the interruption, I'm DD1 (shook hand, looked dude in the eye and smiled), then turned my back to him and leaned over to my woman and signaled her to come close for a whisper thing and in her ear, and I said "Your ass looks...(the rest is private between her and me).

She smiled and blushed big and gave me the best smile you could hope for. I turned to the dude and said "What's your name again? Yeah, good to meet you". Firm handshake, casual eye contact, smiled and winked at my woman and walked away.

(Note: No "commanding", no AMOG bullshit, no complicated ten step process, no insults or negging or other High School tactics. Just straight up relaxed playfulness coupled with an assertive slightly rude interruption.)

Fortunately I am more fit and a bit taller than this dude, so being closer made the difference clearer.

Two minutes later she came slinking up to me quietly (and standing VERY close) as I was talking to another woman and she stood there quietly until we finished talking. (The chick gave me a look that said "oh, you two are together!) and chick excused herself.

My girl leaned in and whispered in my ear "omg you are sooo bad" grabbed my arm and we started chatting.

(BTW, her standing so close to me was a WOMAN's version of the same thing I did. She was marking HER territory without really saying or doing anything obvious. But other women KNOW exactly what the fuck she meant by standing so close. Body language is everything).

I normally don't share shit like this here because there is always some 22 year old edge lord who chimes in with "Bro, you looked Beta AF by doing x y z"

It's to be expected I guess - those your RP dudes need to share their opinions too, and they are not always wrong. I just don't listen to that shit.

I stand by my actions because the results have been about as good as one could hope for. This woman keeps trying to get closer to me even though she has other options. She does most of the work in the relationship - so far - and the power balance is clearly in my favor. And she knows it. I honestly think she NEEDS it to be this way.

And I accept her terms.

Do with this info what you will.