@First-light

Basically my house mate started dating an Iranian girl. She ended up bringing her friend over to stay the weekend. Soon as we locked eyes I knew it was on.

Lots of IoIs but escalating was difficult. We got back to mine, alone. She was much more receptive. But it was odd. She didn't mind me touching her inner thighs and touching her pussy. But kissing was too much for her. Go figure.

I went to escalate further and she shut it down - saying her friend told her I'm a player and that she should stay away from me. That was some LMR I wasn't able to push past.

She came back another weekend to stay. We all went out drinking. I just treated it as a bit of light hearted fun. She ends up grabbing me and kissing me. Starts screening me hard. Nothing sexual happened in the end but it got hot and heavy (in private).

She then tracks me down on Instagram, DMs me and gives me her phone number unprompted.

I've got a bunch of spare tickets to some music events I bought 6 months ago with no-one to go with. She likes similar music so I invited her to come with me - no expectations, I'd just rather go with someone cool than go alone so I don't really care.

She agreed. Said she might struggle to get home, so wants to stay at mine. Which could be a green light, but she may also decide she wants to sleep on the sofa, I don't know.

She's really hard to read.

@Bozza I am only an outside observer of dating today but I think you are right, there have been changes in the SMP, while underlying human nature remains of course unchanging.

Some of the changes are a result of women getting too much of what they want with swiping left and right on OLD to the point they are sickened by what they can do to themselves after getting run through by the same sort of high value low commitment players time and again and some of the changes are driven by men having changed their game through more red pill type thought and learning to push women's buttons and women reacting to this.

Overall, I suspect that women are not on average quite as quick to let their buttons be pushed by the classic tells of male high value in return for zero investment from the man of things like; time, thought, emotion, money. There is less free and easy good timing than there once was. Western women are also getting more into money from men than they once were. This is a result of prosperity and easy money falling in the lower end of the white collar sector where women have previously thrived.

I think one can see it in popular culture. Girls no longer "just want to have fun" Girls want more value transfer and emotional support than they used to as well as the fun. When older women talk to younger ones, you don't so much get "well you have to kiss a lot of frogs before you fid your prince" or "you go have fun girl" There tends to be a lot said about how relationships "damage" women when they end badly and women are just more wary of what they can do to themselves by slutting (though the blame it on the men of course).

The movie industry is always a good indicator of mainstream liberal thought. Sex just doesn't come as easy in movies as it did. In fact it has got harder for characters (particularly male characters) to get sex since the early 80's. Sex (and love) is a lower priority for characters than it used to be. Women are simply less sexual than they were when they had no worries, enough money and less excess body fat.

I think it is time for a slight recalibration of the tone of some of the advice handed out for starting sexual relationships with women. Otherwise men are getting advised on how to get inside the underwear of good time sluts who they meet through OLD, bars or fairly cold approaches and thinking they now have the keys to how to "handle women".

@Mate1212

how do I find out what's best for me? When I do it a lot I'm just "normal". When I do nofap, I'm kind of more energised but super thirsty and down for everything with 2 legs

www.youtube.com/watch?v=NtwiAkUj5Go

The idea behind Nofap is that chronic masturbation is a problem, because it's a form of addiction. That instead of consuming some drug that provokes a chemical reaction in your body that affects your mind, you masturbate to reach that end. You strike me as a young man who's doing nofap not because you see your masturbation habit as a serious problem you need to get under control, but because it's a way to fit in with other guys who get their information mainly from the internet. Thing is, the best way to find out what's best for you, is to actually do new or different things than you're doing now.

To change things up, before you do your next nofap challenge, set goals for yourself to accomplish. Take a few minutes to sit down with a few sheets of paper, a pen, and focus on firmly figuring out what interests, drives, and motivates you. On the first sheet write down a list of things that you've been putting off on the back burner due to work, schooling, or just life in general. It doesn't matter how silly, or stupid the task or idea might be, just write it down. When you're done, take the second sheet of paper, and re-write the items from the first list starting with what you believe to be the simplest, easiest task, to the most complicated.

When you're done with the second list, study the book, and get to work. The challenge once you've got the list done won't be simply accomplishing them, but not allowing yourself to be de-spirited whenever you encounter difficulty, or failure. Basically, to not let yourself be defeated. You'll spend the time to troubleshoot and diagnose the problem, then start over. In order to understand what the red pill's really about, you're going to have to do more than skim the surface and cherry pick the ideas that appeal to you. You're going to have to push past the hedonist gatekeepers to fully understand 'the bigger Red Pill picture, that it's not just about women.'

If you need help, ask. There's no shortage of #books we can recommend that may help you achieve your goals. Best of luck to you.