Random Thoughts - Random Saturday Edition:

Women these days have been complaining about “men not approaching” them.

There could be many reasons for this, but let’s first clear a few things up:

1. They don’t want “men” to approach them, They want the RIGHT men to approach them
2. When they put out signals of approachability, men could read this as “she is desperate”
3. Their body language can be VERY subtle. I am an expert at this and don’t always catch it (I found this out by talking with women I dated and them saying “I was giving you all these signals and you ignored them”
4. Most men have been shot down at one point or another. I have seen absolute BEASTS among Chads get pushed away. That’s on women. They used to do this as a sport. This is the result.

Now, for the main point (observation).

I once told my daughter that some girls rely on being “bitchy” to boys. They do this because if they let one loser get away with being too flirty, it can signal to every other low level guy to give it a shot with her. She will quickly become swarmed with low quality suitors - which can make good men look at her with suspicion. Why are all those losers around this girl?

That’s what I said, and I stand by it.

So fast forward through the past 30-40 years and look at all the movies and entertainment content. The most beautiful women are almost always portrayed as untouchable, unapproachable, and perhaps a bit bitchy. Sure there are exceptions (every 80’s teen movie), but there is a pattern there.

Fast forward to 2020 or so. If you are an average girl, and you have seen this behavior your whole life, AND you are told that YOU are the prize, the high value woman, the “KWEEN”, how else would such a girl act? She wants to have the same options as those pretty girls. Who wouldn’t. And as a man I can perfectly understand this.

BUT….

The bigger issue is that the less attractive women want to appear aloof like those pretty girls, and the key element is to REPEL THE LOSERS. That’s the whole point of being bitchy. It keeps away the average guys, the introverts, the insecure or shy guys, or boys who don’t have the patience.

Guess who DOES have the patience?

Bad boys, players, and fuck bois. That shit is like a dog whistle to them. And so they push past the bitchiness and pursue. And it works! Once could argue that this dynamic is most pronounced in Black America, but I digress.

So you have tens of millions of girls who have spent their early years trying to “repel the losers” and “weed out” the weaker men, and now they are alone.

Most decent men are not going to play such games. And I am not talking about Chad and the top 10%, I am talking about the men who are in the 7-9 range. They too have learned, and one lesson above all for such men is - you will get the behavior you tolerate. So to reward bitchy, spoiled, entitled or otherwise off putting behavior is a recipe for disaster.

Add to all of this the habit of too many women (adults btw) posting men’s mistakes on social media and you have a prefect recipe for disengagement.

The bottom line:

Women:

• If you are a women who is an 8 or lower, you cannot pull of the bitchy thing. You are not self aware and men can see your stupidity. You get a pass from 16-20 years old as you try to sort things out, but after that you are an idiot and any man who gets you deserves what you do to him.

• There are other ways to welcome men into your life without being bitchy or a pick-me. In fact there are countless other options. How about start by being polite but dismissive with the men you don’t like, and being a bit more obvious with the men you do like. This is just one of many options.

Men:

• Do not approach women in public. Perhaps on a whim once in a while is ok, but don’t feed this shit. Hold the line. Women are waking up to their stupidity - do NOT reward it now. We have made such progress!

Happy New Year men. This year is going to be interesting.