@Polar

Hey I have a friend at work who is desperate for Female attention. He is open to lifting, looksmaxing, and learning game. Where do I direct him to go? Im 10 years into TRP myself, and it seems most of the sidebar links on Reddit dont work or direct to archive sites that are anoyying to read. Where should I direct him?

Obviously I told him to get a gym membership, focus eating/lifting/sleeping, and make as many friends as possible to increase his involvement in the world around him. He is on board with it but I dont have the time to hold his hand through all this stuff from square 1.

Maybe you should suggest your 'friend at work' consider investing into a reliable ready reference they can pick up and study to better prepare themselves for engaging the opposite sex. I'd suggest that you point him to Doc Love's "The System: The Dating Dictionary". Doc Love, who until his passing was also known as Tom Hodges, wrote a weekly advice column that's archive is mirrored on several mens focused sites and a podcast. His media is a bit pricey, but it's a solid foundation a guy can branch out from in RP aware circles. Encourage your 'friend at work' to review his advice column to decide if his view on dating and relationships is aligned with what he aspires for himself. To save yourself a search, give this scribed link a gander to find out if his #book is something you'd like to add to your library. It should also be available on libgen.

@Typo-MAGAshiv @qzone I just remembered one piece of cool relationship game advice a few years ago: When in the starting stages of a relationship where she wants you to "share your feelings", come up with a story that's vulnerable but not really yours. I'm reminded of "The Commode Story" from Reservoir Dogs: www.youtube.com/watch?v=SP3BNTi35XI

Pink needed to tell a story to win camaraderie but, as an undercover cop, it couldn't be his. One idea is to repeat a story you heard from a dear friend but isn't too bad or icky, perhaps such as getting beaten up in High School because you had a Paw Patrol lunchbox and your parents didn't have anything else to give you at the time and how that caused you to be shy for a year or so.

Then when she pulls this out to attack you later during an argument: "Are you still crying about your Paw Patrol lunchbox, crybaby?!?!" Reverse Uno it and say you repeated the story from a friend because you KNOW she'd pull something like this.

Thoughts on “sexual harassment” and “reasonable woman/man” standards.

I had a father-daughter day today at the (overpriced) cat cafe today. So we went in with another family who looks like an urban biker gang: The women all tattooed but, in particular, a young woman with a septum piercing. I chatted with the biker-gang-like dad and mom, but otherwise didn’t interact with the septum pierced daughter because she simply made me feel uncomfortable. The feeling, like with most American women, was mutual (they rarely initiate contact with strange men).

I got to thinking how septum piercings on women make me feel uncomfortable. Someone has mutilated themselves and I don’t want to be around them, like someone with slashed wrists. If women can feel uncomfortable because of a man who makes fart jokes, what about men who feel uncomfortable around such women? Biker-dad was ok because this was NORMAL for men, tattooed are a masculine thing, but face piercings, even for men, are extreme but on women, freak show.

As a man, of course, I’m expected to just deal-with-it/suck-it-up, which is what I did. No biggie. I am amused, though, at Y2K how many Spießig women were so uptight about me simply for being a normal man and acted like I had somehow offended them with my existence. One even got offended when I simply was at a vendor event a decade later at a bar and didn’t even interact with her. I chucked: They’re so vulnerable yet so arrogant.

I asked my 9 year old daughter in the car afterwards about it: “They’re weird” she said, or something like that. I was focused on driving us home safely.