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@Antelope Man just choose something and live with it. Are you really gonna let some idiots on the internet decide for you? We don't give a shit either way what happens so at that point just flip a coin if you are undecided.
Let me give you a scenario. You make the choice. Shit happens. You live with it. You are happy. Perfect. You aren't happy. Go and do smth about it.Sun still rises.The end.
Marriage as an institution is probably not older than ten thousand years. That's too short, evolutionary. If you are talking about the "natural" way to raise kids, it was more the band, rather than the family. Paternity certainly was low back then, and most fathering was done from the male hunter group, rather than the biological father.
Not that anything similar is possible today, of course, but we might draw insights.
You're side stepping the matter where there needs to be a defined foundation of our understanding of several topics for this discussion to advance. Before anyone can identify or develop alternatives to the known and proven best means by which children can be raised, one must first understand why bastards, marriage failure, and divorce occurs. They must also understand what benefits, and negatives, the involved parties receive from, your words, not mine, "marriage as an institution" that can and/or cannot be replicated in co-parenting situations.
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