haven’t posted here in a while, but this past year changed a lot for me. I hit income levels I never thought were realistic, improved my looks, got in better shape, upgraded my lifestyle, and overall became a much more attractive option than I used to be.

Getting attention from women has never been easier. But what I didn’t expect is that the same things that attract women can also create anxiety once they actually start caring.

I recently had a relationship end with a girl I genuinely cared about. From my side, I was loyal and never would have cheated. But from her side, she seemed to feel like I had too many options, that she was replaceable, and that I could never really love her specifically. Eventually it felt like my value became a threat instead of reassurance.

It made me realize looks, money, options, and lifestyle get you in the door, but they don’t automatically make a woman feel safe, chosen, or secure.

Curious if anyone else has experienced this: becoming more attractive/successful made dating easier, but made serious relationships harder because of competition anxiety.

@Jocbro

What causes women to ghost a "High value male"?

For context — I’m 6'2, fit, make close to seven figures, drive a supercar, own my house, and I’m often told I'm handsome (can verify all of this if it sounds like BS). I get that all of that’s superficial, but it’s what women typically say they want in an “ideal man.”

Still, I’ve got dozens of texts (unprovoked) from girls saying they had an amazing date and wanted to see me again… only to ghost or cancel right after making plans.

It’s not like I’m retarded socially or talk politics — first dates are light, fun, and easy.

I’ve even had one girl (later found out she was bipolar) confirm second date, then disappear the next day.

I don’t get it. Intimidation seems too easy an answer — and I doubt most of these women are meeting guys who check more boxes.

That thinking is entirely dependent on the assumption modern women are working down the same exact checklist you are. Unfortunately, while females are generally understood to make terrible decisions, with what you've said over the years it might be time for you to actually consider that they maybe seeking radically different criteria than yourself.

While you may possess traits many men may otherwise see as good, it doesn't necessarily mean modern females in our spiritually demoralized-spiritually lobotomized society will see the man you are as embodying the ideals they've been indoctrinated to seek. Being malleable, or easy to manipulate, is something modern women are encouraged to seek in all men, whether high value or not, and that's one of many traits you seem to lack.

Unfortunately, the traits seen as ideal for modern women to seek in men are some red pill men are actively discouraged from developing, if not abandoning should they realize they have them. This is why so many commenters in RP aware circles encourage hedonism, it distracts you from engaging in any critical analysis necessary to understand the evil of clown world and who rules it. A man who seeks the truth is the most dangerous in a society that openly peddles lies to obscure the truth from sight. Eventually, you will understand this, and come to see gatekeepers as obstacles to be hurdled, or destroyed, if not actively ignored as they are nothing more than the half-witted agents of the diabolical.