@RuralDatingWoodsman

No Second Date, Decent First Date, Shit test? Or Not Worth My Time.

Hey boys. I met with a nice woman the other day. 5'3, fairly well put together, owns her house, decent feminine job. We definitely had some chemistry, but between eating in a fairly fancy dinner spot and my failure to really make her do any work I feel like the whole dynamic ended up pretty shitty.

She ended up saying that she didn't really feel a connection after ending the night with a kiss. It was a nice kiss, she came back for more after I pulled away so there must have been some connection?

I felt like maybe I didn't escalate enough so tried pressing it on text (big fail) only to probably come off as weird or creepy. Over the date I didn't really ask her anything to make sure she would be right for me and instead we just talked about stupid shit like jobs and tv shows. After I sent that cringe message, she sent me something back saying she still might want to meet in the future (maybe the message wasn't that cringe?)

So... I deleted the dating app after getting that message from her. About a week ago. I felt like I blew it from pushing harder after she said she didn't feel it. We never exchanged numbers but I did find her facebook because she gave me her last name.

Would it even be worth my time to try messaging her? I feel like I did like her but I don't want to be playing these games from the start. I've thought that if she reaches out I'll message her but just want to hear other advice. She's a baker though and I want her to bake a cake for my birthday, but I don't want to come off too strong anymore I guess. ALSO, after she told me that she didn't feel the 'sparks' she told me it was because she just got out of a relationship she didn't know if she should be in, and she wasn't sure if she wanted a relationship or something casual. Can anybody translate what that means.

Thanks Kings

To ask us if she's worth your time when she's already told you that she felt no sparks is daft. Her interest in you just isn't where you need it to be to make anything happen beyond a courteous hello or goodbye. Move on and steer clear of her bakery so as to not be seen as creepy later.

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