Me and the boys went to the nearby city to a club. I'll be honest, I'm not the most attractive nor the ugliest, but I have the most balls and a will to try approaching even though some of my boys laugh when I fail, but fuck 'em.
I had 3 sets of girls, I failed every one of them (didn't have a good convo, didn:t get a number). At least, I talked to 6 girls and that's a big achievement for me. Also, I used the same opener for every set.
1st set of girls I went to, talked, introduced myself, but I lost interest and they also did since they're way older than me.
2nd set of girls - 1 was attractive, but didn't say a word. The uglier started talking to me and was pretty bitchy so I left, she showed no interest. It may be her insecurity that blocked me from talking to them, since she was 3 points below from the girl next to her.
3rd set of girls - I went with a buddy and I did all the talking. They were the most attractive set, as I started the approach, the prettier one said: "No, just no". She didn't even give me a chance to talk at all, while the other chick didn't even look at me, not even once. Tbh, when I approached them, they were slouched, looking down, maybe they were annoyed, angry, depressed or just drunk.
The problem is, before these approaches, last approach was long ago and IG I fell off the practice. The opener was cheesy: Hey "random female name" I know you. Basically I pick a name then I talk to her like I know her, "are you her", "wdyd here".
I thought it would be a good test, a chick which really liked me would just smile and answer "yes that's me". But, as I said, I don't think the opener matters that much, all that matters if the chick likes me right away.
Also I didn't have as much confidence as I do now, and that plays a part. Maybe I was unlucky, I think if I just found maybe more of them I'd atleast get a number from one of them.
Serious question, are there no females were you live that you could talk to? None at all? It's just social media sites and night clubs miles from your hometown where you can find females?
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I've done nofap and tbh it didn't help me nor transform me in any way and I also think it's not healthy to not masturbate for 3 months.
The body itself will do the process while asleep but still it's unhealthy.
I know the porn is bad and I want to completely remove it from my life. The problem is what to do when horny?
I can't always and forever do push-ups or something to not think about it like others say.
Guys here say find LTR but it's not as simple.
Give me reasons why it is so bad and with what should I replace it.
The specific reasons which prompted you to do nofap several months ago are unknown to us. When you showed up, I doubt any of us were particularly interested enough to ask what those reason may have been. If you've since forgotten, you should probably reflect on your past to remind yourself as to what those reasons were and ask yourself if your situation has in anyway improved. Maybe consider keeping a journal to help you keep track of these things in the future.
You've been asking questions for several months now. Some of us here have offered you advice that, if not useful, outright comical, or retarded, but should've otherwise provided you some ideas you could use to better understand your situation and begin to lay a foundation from which you could move forward to success. I'm wondering, did you consider any of it, or did you just dismiss it, and resume doing what you were doing only to come here to vent like we're a testosterone friendly reddit clone.
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If you're the sort who needs to be told to do something, let me suggest you visit No Fap read their getting started book, if you haven't. Check out their forum, and invest the time to help determine if their support group is a worthwhile investment.
There's a no fap tribe here with some content in it, but it's seldom active.
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I see the point to it, and at the same time I don't. Problem boils down to I don't do it, I'm supposed to have more energy and be a better person and find a good girl and I don't Then it happens that for health reasons I bust it without a girl which is bad and I go to the beginning. How do y'all balance it? The best way is to be the best version of yourself and always be capable of finding chicks, but it's a long path to it.
Have you taken these concerns up with others on the nofap forum, or are we the only people you discuss such matters with?
Is it worth explaining after this?
Is it worth explaining to a chick which flaked multiple times that my intentions are only to go out rather than texting? I think no, but it's setting standard, or should I just ignore her and ghost her? Since If she doesn't like me from the start she won't later so what's the point of texting.
If this is the same girl you mentioned last month, then as frustrating as this experience has been for you it's good to know that you're finally coming to understand that she isn't interested in you romantically and that there's nothing you could possibly do to inspire her to be interested in you. Hopefully, you find this useful moving forward.
Can't maintain a girl after the 1st date
Everytime I meet a new girl it's just a loop (it varies sometimes I can pull rly well sometimes not at all). We see once, max 2 times and then she's gone. I do some stuff like kissing, makeout, cuddling, but that's rly it. Can't even pull a lay since some of them aren't 1 night hoes. It's like they're taking advantage of me bcs they're bored, but wont give the final prize if u know what I mean. I don't know if it's an external problem or internal. I think it's a specific characteristic in me so they disqualify for me; it's just I don't know what's rly the source of problem. Appreciate the help!
It's a lot better to find out that the girls you're dating aren't a match on the first date, than after a decade of marriage with children like most men tend to. While you haven't provided enough information to tell if the problem is on your end, there's, or most likely both, you seem observant that I'm confident given enough time you'll figure it out.
In the meantime, consider investing into a reliable ready reference you can pick up and study to better prepare yourself for engaging the opposite sex. I'd suggest that you get yourself a copy of Doc Love's "The System: The Dating Dictionary". Doc Love, who until his passing was also known as Tom Hodges, wrote a weekly advice column that's archive is mirrored on several mens focused sites and a podcast. His media is a bit pricey, but it's a solid foundation a guy can branch out from in RP aware circles. I'd suggest you review his advice column to decide if his view on dating and relationships is aligned with what you aspire for yourself. To save yourself a search, give this scribed link a gander to find out if his book is something you'd like to add to your library. It should also be available on libgen.
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