2w ago The Hub
I've recently started going out more often, from Thursday through Sunday nights, to bars/clubs. I've noticed an increase in situations where other men try to subtly communicate higher status to me. They scratch their nose when they look at me or after they talk to me, block me with their body when I'm at a VIP table (not mine, but usually at a particular table that I partially pay for), pat me on the back as if I'm a child, and ask 'How's your night?' despite using these tactics. It feels like everyone is playing a 'role' and trying to communicate higher status through any means necessary, such as body language, pretending to be friends with someone they don't even know, pretending to be excited, and so on.
What are your thoughts on this?
2w ago The Hub
@Typo-MAGAshiv I've had the opportunity to learn social dynamics in these high bandwidth settings by observing people, practicing, etc. But when it comes to actually building real connection with others, nada.
5mo ago The Hub
@First-light For sure, but easier said than done! I think I'll give the friend group a 4 year hiatus as I chase my dreams and goals.
2mo ago The Hub
I am a 28-year-old male, and recently, I've started improving my appearance with a groomed beard, a neat short haircut, a good shirt, jeans, stylish shoes, and a gold watch. Lately, as I've been going to bars/clubs, I've noticed that guys are trying to push me, taunt me, make fun of me, etc., and compete with me more than ever before. It feels as though I'm simply going out to vibe, enjoy the night, and perhaps chat up a few girls, when suddenly, there's a horde of aggressive dudes vying for my attention. Thoughts on what's going on?
2mo ago The Hub
Recently, I've noticed that one of my male acquaintances, who initially introduced me to games and similar activities while behaving like a mentor, has suddenly started acting strangely. He's begun competing with me and randomly appearing at the same bar or club I frequent, attempting to undermine my confidence and make me feel inadequate. Any thoughts on why he might be doing this?
2mo ago The Hub
@Typo-MAGAshiv It's mindblowing to me. Because my success does not affect him in any way.
1mo ago The Hub
I’m currently working at an early-stage company where the entire team has specialized expertise in Area A, whereas I’m the only person with expertise in Area B. Suddenly, it became clear to the entire organization that the company will only succeed if we do well in Area B, and Area A is basically useless. However, the CTO has been preventing me from being creative and having autonomy, trying to micromanage everything I do. Once, the CEO said frantically, “My biggest fear when hiring you was that you might leave.” The CTO had an angry face during the video, staring at me as the CEO said this. I've been waking up feeling drained and like a zombie on a daily basis, unable to go outside, live my life, etc., because I'm being micromanaged by someone who doesn't even understand the work—micromanaged on my own ideas, my own vision, etc. Thoughts? The CTO is getting paid three times more than me, yet he wants me to mentor and upskill him.
Read More2w ago The Hub
I've recently started going out more often, from Thursday through Sunday nights, to bars/clubs. I've noticed an increase in situations where other men try to subtly communicate higher status to me. They scratch their nose when they look at me or after they talk to me, block me with their body when I'm at a VIP table (not mine, but usually at a particular table that I partially pay for), pat me on the back as if I'm a child, and ask 'How's your night?' despite using these tactics. It feels like everyone is playing a 'role' and trying to communicate higher status through any means necessary, such as body language, pretending to be friends with someone they don't even know, pretending to be excited, and so on.
What are your thoughts on this?