Advice Needed: Is there any legit way out for someone like me?
I’m an18 yo 5'6" Indian guy, and I’d say my looks are pretty average or even below average overall. I came across blackpill stuff when I was around 16, and ever since, it’s kind of messed with my head. It’s been almost two years now, and in that time, I’ve felt pretty miserable. At first, I just rotted. Spent most of my time alone in my room, watching YouTube videos and reading posts on those kinds of forums. It became this toxic cycle I couldn’t pull myself out of. And to be clear. I don’t blame women or anyone else for how attraction works I get it. If I were in their position, I might feel the same. But understanding that didn’t make it any easier to deal with how I felt about myself. For a while, I thought the only way forward was to focus on career and stability , basically becoming the kind of person who’s useful, even if not particularly desirable. I figured maybe that’s how I’d eventually find someone who’s okay with and genuinely likes me. Lately, I’ve been trying to take better care of myself so I can actually feel decent in my own skin. I’m primarily aiming to to improve a little where I can and hopefully build some genuine connection i guess? I don’t know if any of this will work. I just feel like I’m lying to myself sometimes. could anyone offer any some advice from their pov? any sort of advice will be greatly appreciated.
It reads like this is fundamentally a self-confidence issue. The black pill doesn't tend to affect people when they've some degree of confidence in themselves. Unfortunately, there's no easy way to overcome the disappointment you're feeling, or building your self-confidence, outside of pursuing and overcoming the various challenges of life to build it back up. During that time, you come to understand what interests, drives, and motivates you. To that end, I suggest that you do the following ridiculously simple thing. Get yourself two sheets of paper and a pen.
On the first sheet write down a list of things that you've been putting off on the back burner due to work, schooling, or just life in general. It doesn't matter how silly, or stupid the task or idea might be, as long as it's not a criminal act just write it down. When you're done, take the second sheet of paper, and re-write the items from the first list starting with what you believe to be the simplest, easiest task, to the most complicated.
As for females, consider investing into a reliable ready reference you can pick up and study to better prepare yourself for engaging the opposite sex. I'd suggest that you get yourself a copy of Doc Love's "The System: The Dating Dictionary". Doc Love, who until his passing was also known as Tom Hodges, wrote a weekly advice column that's archive is mirrored on several mens focused sites and a podcast. His media is a bit pricey, but it's a solid foundation a guy can branch out from in RP aware circles. I'd suggest you review his advice column to decide if his view on dating and relationships is aligned with what you aspire for yourself. To save yourself a search, give this scribed link a gander to find out if his book is something you'd like to add to your library. It should also be available on libgen.
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