@carnold03 I agree, had the same thoughts on it. Just went the "That's fair" and got a swift "maybe there are some fast trains' text back (there's not)
Matched with girl. Setup date plan and got her number within 5 texts. On text I try to schedule to meet in my city - she lives 3+ hrs away. She seems really interested and said before that she wants to go and would wanna come here even, I said "I think you should" She replies "hahaha it's just a long trip, and I'm not sure how I can get there and also get back in such a short time" which I totally think is totally valid it being 6+hrs
I'm thinking with abt just replying "That's fair" and see what happens. I thought abt offering to let her sleep at my place, as its the only solution and ideal scenario anyway. but not sure abt that in case we don't vibe on date, and if I'd do that I think wanna call her not text it?
What do u think is the best way to seal this?
Tell her "that's fair" and leave it at that. Your idea to invite her to crash at your place will let her know how interested you are and this early in the game, that tends to kill a chicks interest fast. Besides, most hookup apps I've been shown give users general locations for the other party in relation to their own. She knew it would be three hours one way to your city and still chose to waste your time thinking she was going to meet you.
Do yourself a favor and study the book I suggested to you three years ago. It'll help you to better filter out the females only out to waste a guys time. Try to mix things up with more actual face-to-face conversations with females, even if it's just the cashier at the store.
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@carnold03 Any specific reasons for boxing>muay thai ? other than it being easier/faster to learn
Which martial arts would you recommend?
Haven't practiced any martial arts before, but because I've practiced mindfulness, I thought maybe Kong Fu or Karate would be good. However I think that the "coolest" MA is muay thai maybe, and my friend who practiced it recommended it as well. My plan is to start with that, however if someone is knowledgeable on the subject, feel free to share thanks in advance bois
Boxing. If you find a training hall or gym with good trainers, you'll get a solid grounding within a few months time where most other martial arts will require years of training.
Which martial arts would you recommend?
Haven't practiced any martial arts before, but because I've practiced mindfulness, I thought maybe Kong Fu or Karate would be good. However I think that the "coolest" MA is muay thai maybe, and my friend who practiced it recommended it as well. My plan is to start with that, however if someone is knowledgeable on the subject, feel free to share thanks in advance bois
@carnold03 I'm not in college, nor am I in the states. Doing extra A-levels part-time atm. I'm considering what kind of job to go look for. Would like something social with co-workers too, but might just go for barista @ a local coffee shop. Do u have pdf/epub copy ?
Yo. Started new semester = new half year class with new people. Went home with girl after class to do homework, after that we went to her room after and after some time + tension she initiated, and I tried to escalate but she asked if we could just b friends. I said that I'd rather if we could b more than that, but friends was ok (since we're same class didnt wanna outright refuse), but we ended up making out for some time, but she had to go n I followed her halfway to the bus (my home direction anyway) we held hands n' when I said bye and left she called my name to make out in the middle of the road. Next class no teacher and we had alrdy decided to do it together. we met up at school but she said she was tired and wanted to do it at home (without directly inviting me) worst part I was not on my game that day at all, and also tired and should've went home or stayed at school to finish (but didn't) and even asked if we should do it at her place, she seemed tired and conflicted too. we touched and cuddled abit but didn't kiss and tension had definitely deescalated. we finished schoolwork pretty fast and I said she could sleep and I'd just go home. next class she was absent n i thought I'd try reaching out via text to gauge her interest which was completely ignored until hours later with just "no" prolly bad move, was purely impulse). anyway this story was just to give some context. what should i do next/monday? obv. didnt text her further, but should I try and defuse and stay as friends - although I'd rather get back to where we left it day 1 since we get along pretty well. but yea, how to handle this?
If you're really in college and still have the time to pursue females, then I'm disinclined to believe your studying a S.T.E.M. major related field and can only conclude that your diploma will have no discernible worth or value for you in the labor market when you graduate. Finish out the semester as best you can to preserve your GPA, update your resume, and start looking for a full-time summer job come around March. Work during the day, spit game at night, so you can do your sport f_cking while building up a nest egg for yourself while all the dumb kids come out of college with student loan debt. Use the summer break ahead to decide if you're going to go back and waste time, change majors to something with actual value, or keep working and make real professional progress with your life while scoring tail.
As for the female classmate, forget her. The female to male student ratio is insanely in your favor. The chicks increasingly outnumber the guys on college campuses, but that also means more chances of meeting crazy c_nts. If she's inconsistent in her behavior towards you, move on, focus your attention on another chick instead, but remain passively friendly towards the classmate in class.
Beyond that, consider investing in a reliable ready reference you can pick up and study to better prepare yourself for engaging the opposite sex. I'd suggest that you get yourself a copy of Doc Love's "The System: The Dating Dictionary". Doc Love, also known as the late Tom Hodges, wrote a weekly advice column that's mirrored on several sites and a podcast. While his media is a bit pricey, it's a solid foundation a guy can branch out from, but I would also suggest you review his advice column to decide if his view on dating and relationships is aligned with what you aspire for yourself. If you've already found you'd like to read his book, save yourself a search and give this scribed link a gander.
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