how and where do I approach women?
where are some appropriate places to approach women? im guessing bars and clubs are the go to places? What is the proper way to approach and ask out women?
my looks are not horrible and I can easily talk to random people
If you're looking to hook-up with an alchie, then bars and night clubs are definitely an option, but if you're a good looking guy in decent shape, I'd recommend hitting up AA instead. However, if you're hoping to find a gal with fewer consciousness altering chemicals in their system at any given time, you should try the supermarket, the gym, or even a continuing education class. Honestly, the only thing holding you back as far as talking to people whether male or female, is your own comfort in doing so, and your imagination.
While you ponder on what your next move might be, consider investing into a reliable ready reference you can pick up and study to better prepare yourself for engaging the opposite sex. I'd suggest that you get yourself a copy of Doc Love's "The System: The Dating Dictionary". Doc Love, who until his passing was also known as Tom Hodges, wrote a weekly advice column that's archive is mirrored on several mens focused sites and a podcast. His media is a bit pricey, but it's a solid foundation a guy can branch out from in RP aware circles. I'd suggest you review his advice column to decide if his view on dating and relationships is aligned with what you aspire for yourself. To save yourself a search, give this scribed link a gander to find out if his book is something you'd like to add to your library. It should also be available on libgen.
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29 years old and suck with women. In dire need of some good advice. Im ready to do whatever it takes
Im going to keep it short since my story is probably no different than most of the guys in this community. I wasted my teens and twenties on excessively consuming instant gratification (porn, masturbation, tv, and junk food). As I get closer to 30 I realized I did not like where I was heading. In the past couple of months I've been able to lose 32 lbs (currently 168.8 at 5'9.5, looking to drop another 18). I'm 24 days sober of porn/masturbation. I never plan on going back to it. I've quit binge watching T.V.
Professional life: 64k a year salary. Working on a promotion and should be able to break 100k within the next year to year and a half.
romantic life: nonexistent. years of living in a porn/masturbation haze killed any desire to pursue women. I have gone to a few hookers when I was younger.
Going forward with fitness: I understand my physique needs a lot of work. Once I get down to 150 I'll be at a healthy bw for my height but scrawny. when that time comes I plan to adopt a bodybuilding style workout and eat in a small caloric surplus. right now my workouts are mainly cardio and compound lifting a couple times a week.
Going forward with women: This right here is where im lost. One thing I understand about women is to not be delusional about my expectations. Im a "short" minority male and I know that a lot of minority men want to go for the blonde sorority type. I don't have that unrealistic goal. Im perfectly ok with hooking up with some average looking minority women. My issues are where to meet them and how to talk to them in a sexual manner. Im also really shy and I'm not good with strangers. Do you all have any tips on how to fix that?
Redpill is an amazing community and ideology. I was taking the easy way for years and I never truly felt fulfilled. you got to do the hard things in life in order to truly succeed.
Consider investing into a reliable ready reference you can pick up and study to better prepare yourself for engaging the opposite sex. I'd suggest that you get yourself a copy of Doc Love's "The System: The Dating Dictionary". Doc Love, who until his passing was also known as Tom Hodges, wrote a weekly advice column that's archive is mirrored on several mens focused sites and a podcast. His media is a bit pricey, but it's a solid foundation a guy can branch out from in RP aware circles. I'd suggest you review his advice column to decide if his view on dating and relationships is aligned with what you aspire for yourself. To save yourself a search, give this scribed link a gander to find out if his book is something you'd like to add to your library. It should also be available on libgen.
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