@notdoingcoke

LTR making jokes about texting other guys, whats the least nuclear course of action

Long story short this girl I been dating for a few years is cool. submissive, buys me stuff, cooks, blah blah- she has her own issues that reveal she's pretty broken anyway (daddy issues, not used to "good men" etc) so I just play the relationship day by day. She is madly in love with me, I dont care about having her forever or marrying her.Any time she says she loves me I just say "I know". I only tell her I love her when we fuck every now and then and she loves it. im pretty reserved emotionally

We were chilling outside and she stars discussing getting a new apartment. we're both smoking some weed and the vibe is cool. Then she says "I was about to say something but I didnt want you to get mad". I tell her spit it out and she says "I was gonna say 'I'll be texting you AND other guys when I get my new apartment'". Now upon hearing this, I didnt say anything or make a face, I really was just like "thats how it be". But in my head im utterly confused. What causes women to say these retarded ass statements? its more funny than upsetting to me, cause its like she's digging her own grave. Anyway, she goes on to say she just likes to get a rise out of me, cause im so "nonchalant" but I've been cheated on before and have heard enough "jokes" and given enough benefit of the doubt with women. So as soon as I heard that I mentally checked out and started thinking bout spinning plates again. I already didnt want a relationship nor do I put much stock in them. I dont appreciate jokes like that coming from women cause at the end of the day, these hoes be for real. Saying that under the guise of trying to get a rise out of me is retarded but I dont expect her to be logical. it'll just get her tossed to the side. Anyways she's just started a new big girl job working in a hospital (I know) so I dont feel like playing it safe and giving her that benefit of the doubt. rather be done with it all

Let me know what yall think. I've already started to open my options some more. Im beginning to think this chick is really just too far gone, as smart as she is. I dont care to be tested in that way, especially not after being with her for 3 years. My solution is to just keep fucking, getting free food, blah blah. she's starting to gain weight anyway (still looks good but all her family is fat so I dee that in her future) so it may be time to sell low. Im going to branch out my options and keep raking in the benefits, but I'd like some more input just to further solidify my mind with good information

Consider investing into a reliable ready reference you can pick up and study to better prepare yourself for engaging the opposite sex. I'd suggest that you get yourself a copy of Doc Love's "The System: The Dating Dictionary". Doc Love, who until his passing was also known as Tom Hodges, wrote a weekly advice column that's archive is mirrored on several mens focused sites and a podcast. His media is a bit pricey, but it's a solid foundation a guy can branch out from in RP aware circles. I'd suggest you review his advice column to decide if his view on dating and relationships is aligned with what you aspire for yourself. To save yourself a search, give this scribed link a gander to find out if his book is something you'd like to add to your library. It should also be available on libgen.

With what little info you've shared, this strikes me as possibly being a high fired shit test more than anything else. Thing is, you pot heads have more important things to concern yourselves with than relationships. You should take some time to sort out whatever is going on in your life that triggers you to use marijuana. If you're also consuming alcohol, deal with that as well. Run a search, ask around, there are plenty of guys working their way through their substance abuse problems, so there shouldn't be any shortage of organization or books they share personal experience with should such a journey interest you.

@notdoingcoke

Is it better to explain a random breakup?

I've been with my girlfriend for about 2 and a half years. We're both 18. I enjoy being with her for the most part, but I feel like this relationship is kind of stressful for reasons I don't feel like getting into. It's nothing insane that deserves an immediate next; I just think it's best for me to not deal with women as a whole for a year or two and just work on myself. I know she's not special, or anything I won't be able to experience with another woman, but I feel kind of bad because there's nothing really wrong about this relationship. The stress I experience is a byproduct of my own thoughts and I won't escape them when I have to deal with somebody else on a daily basis.

Anyways, my question is: should I be honest with her in this situation, since she's not truly at fault here? I feel like me saying "this won't work out" and dipping is kind of a big fuck you gesture. I just need to take time for myself.

If you want to take time off, cut the GF loose, and just do it. While on your retreat, consider investing in a reliable ready reference you can pick up and study to better prepare yourself for engaging the opposite sex. I'd suggest that you get yourself a copy of Doc Love's "The System: The Dating Dictionary". Doc Love, known otherwise until recently as Tom Hodges until his recent passing, wrote a weekly advice column that's mirrored on several sites and ran a podcast. While his media is a bit pricey, it's well worth the investment, but I would also suggest you review his advice column to decide if his view on dating and relationships is aligned with what you aspire for yourself. If you've already found you'd like to read his book, but find money is an issue for you, you should be able to find copies through torrent sites, but I won't say where you should start on that endeavor. Given his passing, it's entirely possible that his site will soon have a sale and afterwards his media will likely be more expensive.