Is it better to explain a random breakup?
I've been with my girlfriend for about 2 and a half years. We're both 18. I enjoy being with her for the most part, but I feel like this relationship is kind of stressful for reasons I don't feel like getting into. It's nothing insane that deserves an immediate next; I just think it's best for me to not deal with women as a whole for a year or two and just work on myself. I know she's not special, or anything I won't be able to experience with another woman, but I feel kind of bad because there's nothing really wrong about this relationship. The stress I experience is a byproduct of my own thoughts and I won't escape them when I have to deal with somebody else on a daily basis.
Anyways, my question is: should I be honest with her in this situation, since she's not truly at fault here? I feel like me saying "this won't work out" and dipping is kind of a big fuck you gesture. I just need to take time for myself.
If you want to take time off, cut the GF loose, and just do it. While on your retreat, consider investing in a reliable ready reference you can pick up and study to better prepare yourself for engaging the opposite sex. I'd suggest that you get yourself a copy of Doc Love's "The System: The Dating Dictionary". Doc Love, known otherwise until recently as Tom Hodges until his recent passing, wrote a weekly advice column that's mirrored on several sites and ran a podcast. While his media is a bit pricey, it's well worth the investment, but I would also suggest you review his advice column to decide if his view on dating and relationships is aligned with what you aspire for yourself. If you've already found you'd like to read his book, but find money is an issue for you, you should be able to find copies through torrent sites, but I won't say where you should start on that endeavor. Given his passing, it's entirely possible that his site will soon have a sale and afterwards his media will likely be more expensive.
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