@retired_beta

AMOG Fail?

Went to the bar the other night to chill and as I was walking to my car after it closed I inserted myself into a set of 2 girls (roomates) and a guy outside his car parked next to mine. Started chatting with both the guy and Girl A who was pretty receptive. It became clear after a few minutes that the girls weren't that into him and were only sticking around because of the prospect of drugs at his house and also they lived in the same town so it would've made for a cheaper Uber ride from his place to theirs.

At first, I recognized this dudes game was pretty trash and he didn't know how to pass any shit tests. But I didn't really know what the plans/logistics were at this point so I decided to stay cool with him throughout the interaction. I knew I looked liked the better sexual option comparatively, so I started to chat up the more talkative Girl A and passed some of her shit tests. The dude chimmed in a few times and got a few disgusted looks which I don't think he picked up on so I tried to subtly to wing for him without seeming like I was placating. Quickly stopped after I realized that he couldn't be helped, so I decided to still stay cool with him but in a more neutral way.

After, I switched my focus to Girl B who was more chill and honestly, better looking. I semi-isolate and let her tell me about her life while I slowly escalated until they decided to get ready to leave. The girls waited in the car while me and dude talked for a minute. I asked what his game plan was and which chick he was going for (got a vague response) and he agreed to let me follow him in my car in to go back to his place for the afterparty.

This is where things get funny. He drove in a circle around the area while speeding and was obviously trying to lose me. He parked on the side of the road so I got out to see what the situation was. When I got to his car he let who I assume was his fellow beta-friend in the car. I'm sure this was already his plan from the get-go and in his head, he didn't need some AMOG stepping on his toes. At this point Girl A was verbally displeased ("I think I'm just gonna go home") but I didn't really have any cards to play here, as everyone was in the car except me and clearly the dude didn't want me involved anymore so I just decide to peace out, then they leave.

I think what I should've done is gotten Girl B's contact information when I had the chance in case they wanted to ditch the guy later. I also should've kept a closer eye on the dude's impression of me instead of assuming we were on the same team. At least this way I could've saw the obvious betrayal coming and planned accordingly. But all-in-all it was a good learning experience.

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AMOG Fail?

Went to the bar the other night to chill and as I was walking to my car after it closed I inserted myself into a set of 2 girls (roomates) and a guy outside his car parked next to mine. Started chatting with both the guy and Girl A who was pretty receptive. It became clear after a few minutes that the girls weren't that into him and were only sticking around because of the prospect of drugs at his house and also they lived in the same town so it would've made for a cheaper Uber ride from his place to theirs.

At first, I recognized this dudes game was pretty trash and he didn't know how to pass any shit tests. But I didn't really know what the plans/logistics were at this point so I decided to stay cool with him throughout the interaction. I knew I looked liked the better sexual option comparatively, so I started to chat up the more talkative Girl A and passed some of her shit tests. The dude chimmed in a few times and got a few disgusted looks which I don't think he picked up on so I tried to subtly to wing for him without seeming like I was placating. Quickly stopped after I realized that he couldn't be helped, so I decided to still stay cool with him but in a more neutral way.

After, I switched my focus to Girl B who was more chill and honestly, better looking. I semi-isolate and let her tell me about her life while I slowly escalated until they decided to get ready to leave. The girls waited in the car while me and dude talked for a minute. I asked what his game plan was and which chick he was going for (got a vague response) and he agreed to let me follow him in my car in to go back to his place for the afterparty.

This is where things get funny. He drove in a circle around the area while speeding and was obviously trying to lose me. He parked on the side of the road so I got out to see what the situation was. When I got to his car he let who I assume was his fellow beta-friend in the car. I'm sure this was already his plan from the get-go and in his head, he didn't need some AMOG stepping on his toes. At this point Girl A was verbally displeased ("I think I'm just gonna go home") but I didn't really have any cards to play here, as everyone was in the car except me and clearly the dude didn't want me involved anymore so I just decide to peace out, then they leave.

I think what I should've done is gotten Girl B's contact information when I had the chance in case they wanted to ditch the guy later. I also should've kept a closer eye on the dude's impression of me instead of assuming we were on the same team. At least this way I could've saw the obvious betrayal coming and planned accordingly. But all-in-all it was a good learning experience.