@Typo-MAGAshiv

I wouldn't say i am extremely socially awkward

if i am in the zone, i will chat up people and i have been told by my peers that i am quite social

right now, i am going through a really stressful time in my life, and one of the ways i thought could help me break out of it was to revive the redpill mindset within me

which is exactly why i came here - i know the truth is not for every one & tons don't even take action but i am willing to risk some part of me to change my life, which is why i believe in redpill

in this stressful time, ofc my socialization level has gone down - but that is normal i think, anyone else on this place would feel similar

yes, sadly i can't work out due to knee / spine injuries - my main insecurity is not my social skills but my body i am skinny fat and my belly is kind of embarrassing in tight shirts

i admit having a slimmer belly and a more stronger body would have given me tons of confidence

i will, God Willing, learn swimming soon and have started very basic physiotherapy ( just two exercises )

and i will try to find physical outlets to make myself more confident, more happy, more fit

i will not hit on my co-workers and that is why i want to learn daygame & nightgame - so that i can meet girls who are strangers and then take it from there

thanks for your participation !

@Lone_Ranger

It may be that he doesn't have a social circle?

ok, i would like to ask - what kind of social circle is a PhD student supposed to have ? don't take as a rhetoric question, i am seriously asking this as a question

I am not a loner, but i suspect you have been treating me like i don't have any social skills at all or as if i have never talked to or flirted with women before; either of which is certainly not the case

I don't want to get into this, but i have been told by many peers that i am one of the most social people around

its just that i struggle with converting contacts with women into non-platonic contexts, is all

and i have enough calibration to NOT throw around pickup lines to walking strangers - come on, who does that !

regardless, i would appreciate if we can just focus on the following point;

So if OP can build his social circle, develop social skills, the women part of his life will build naturally. Plus he will have the added benefit of a social circle and newly found networking skills.

what constitutes as building a social circle ? what constitutes as women coming into your life as part of the social circle ?

this is all i want to know about - i will appreciate if you will focus on just the social circle part and not the other topics

thanks

@Lionsmane8 @yaxir Great template for you to follow. I had to figure it out over time in the 80s myself without a resource like this.

Biggest skills to master to make the rest work smoothly:

Engaging people in a noncommittal enough way that they feel free to disengage if they should want to. No sense of social pressure or obligation for them to stay engaged. The content and manner of your engagement ideally makes them WANT to engage and feel comfortable doing so.

Reading the indicators of DISinterest accurately, and smoothly disengaging people with no social pressure or awkwardness when you sense they want to end or not start the conversation.

Watch relative unknown stand-up comedians, and if possible attend a stand up workshop or class. This can help tremendously with engaging and bantering with people, and reading the room and individuals.

@Lionsmane8 Thanks for your interventive comment

All I do is game strangers, and that's what he shoukd do. The learning curve is steep, but he'll come out of it solid.

this is exactly what i want to master. I have the utmost respect for @Lone_Ranger and i appreciate his effort, but i do not want to date 'too close to home'. Where i work or the people i closely know, can cause issues.

I want to become bold enough to flirt with strangers

Plus i come from a culture where dating was taboo. My learning curve is going to be steeper than those who were bought up in a more (for the lack of a better word) 'Western' culture.

and yes, as you say - i do want to come out of it solid !

will all due respect to everyone guiding me, may i ask you - how did you learn to game strangers ( especially women, who didn't know you before you started a conversation with them in the street )

thank you