@FrancoAP

Should I still focus 100% on my career?

Just wanted to comment; I am deep into my PGY-1 General Surgery residency. I work on average 90 hours per week; but sometimes I cross the 100 hour benchmark. I am somewhat tired, 30 years old.

I did manage to fuck a medical student that rotated in my service; only after she left my service obviously.

Now I am technically still a student; so my focus should be still to master my degree; no? I mean, it's kind of discouraging to think that after everything I have been through I must still focus on getting good evals, scoring decently on exams, gain proficiency.

I am this close > to risk developing oneitis, mostly because my lazy ass won't talk to different women; albeit it's hard to get to know more women, bc I spend SO much time at the hospital. Alas, finding time to keep my body in shape is hard as fuck. I mean; I am now doing strength training on my after-call...It sucks lifting weights on no sleep :(

tl;DR : I am a surgical resident, PGY-1, my focus should be still to master my craft ; no? I am technically still a student; so spending time hooking up should be still on the backgroung

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@Durek_The_Bald

Don't know who this is, but he popped up in my feed. Thought it was an interesting listen, and that he touched on some (probably) important aspects of the mental schemas that were imposed on the millennial generation growing up.

I remember a few years back someone around the time returnofking.com was active pointed out the dramatic observable differences which the media presented to Anglo-American middle class generation x youths and millennials regarding relationships with parents, kin, dating, and sex. The writer very clearly contrasted the then recently released Superbad against the previous decades release of American Pie and even went as far back as American Graffiti.

After watching youtube clips to scrutinize scenes the writer mentioned I found myself agreeing with the writers point. I'm disappointed I can't remember who wrote it so I could link to it for others to consider reading.

@Redpillpusher

Is it Worth it

Hey y'all, here's what's going on.

A few days ago met this lady at a bar during a weekend festival. We exchanged numbers and, because she didn't seem interested through phone communication, I deleted hers only for her to hit me back, apologizing for the delay and letting me know she was actually an active participant in said festival, thus making sense to me why she was so interested in person yet sporadic via text.

We were supposed to meet 2 days ago but she rescheduled to yesterday only for me to state that time wasn't good. I called yesterday to follow up, expecting her to make up some BS, thus allowing me to terminate further communication. On the phone, however, instead of the initial date she suggests a new 1st date: the "No Kings" protest against ICE in Chicago this weekend.

We've never discussed political views (she's obviously far left while I'm moderate) so, I can conclude that her dating fellow far left liberals is important & this is her way of sniffing out the weaker wristed men she (thinks) she desires.

I played it cool and said "it's possible" to which she replied stating she'd send the details. This was in the afternoon and she didn't, nor did I remind her. I didn't because I know that if I attend I might either get into a debate (or altercation because these type lack common sense and control) with a protester or get drawn into a conversation with her at some point where my true colors will be revealed.

My question is this : if I decide to go and none of these events occur, from experience how long do you think this thing between us last? She grew up in a small, conservative town before moving to Chicago and is a small time actress and model (actual one, not Instagram) so it is safe to say she's so far left she's almost a foul ball. Have any of you moderates or conservatives ever had a relationship with these type past 2 months? Or is it not worth it in your opinion? I specifically ask regarding her because it's clear that she just isn't content with having her own views and me having mine. She even went as far as changing the date venue from her favorite Ramen spot to a protest in semi cold Chicago weather. I don't want to have a LTR with her and especially not kids, just a good time for as long as I can until my time is up. I have no problem deleting her # & moving on based on your advice, this would be my 2nd time deleting. I just don't have time dealing with openly mentally unwell people. Long gone is the time when they'd let you be with your own views, nowadays far left liberals are offended by the differing thoughts in others heads.

I can't say if it's worth it or not for you as that's a personal valuation, but you clearly prefer engaging with mentally unstable females. If they've demonstrated to be the easiest option for getting your penis wet, then I can't begrudge you that, and won't dissuade you of riding that dragon. However, I'd recommend you study the book, so you know when the party's over and bail before things get dangerous for you.

@IDoCeramicHoles

This is gonna be long. It’s not ChatGPT generated, that you can probably tell because of my English. I’m not a native speaker and I’m typing this with chaos in my head.

I am 25 years old. Last year February, I ended a toxic relationship of 5 years where she never let me be physical with her. Few months before the breakup, due to my repressed sexual feelings, i cheated on her with a women i met online. The guilt after that was insane and I knew coming out of the relationship is my only way of peace. It was hard and finally the breakup happened. It only took me few days to get over that breakup.

That was my first relationship and I was an incel that time. After getting over it, i only had one thing in mind. Build the self esteem i never had (due to abusive childhood). Fyi, I workout and I have an athletic body with abs, but I understood the hard way that abs are not enough for self esteem. A friend recommended me the book Models by Mark Manson. Then i discovered redpill. With the new information i have, my world was changing. I started making approaches in gym, workplace, cafes etc. And within a very short time, i started to get success. I went on dates with few women, rejected some because I thought they don’t align with me (the old me wouldn’t have done that) and had s*x with few. Then one day, at the cafe at my workplace, this chick was in front of me and I approached her. was able to get her instagram and i texted her at night and my text game also succeeded. I landed another date.

Here is where my life took a turn. This chick was the hottest among all the women i have been with after the breakup. This made me forget everything i have learned and i fell for her hotness. But this was the perfect trauma bonding i needed. Just after the first date (no we didn’t have sx), she started showing me mixed signals. She would ask for meeting and when the time comes she wouldn’t even bother texting. This pissed me off and i would call her back. Then she’ll be like she’s busy or with her friends. Few weeks of flakes but the needy me still stayed. We went out 2 or 3 times more. Then after getting pissed off constantly. I confronted her telling that I value integrity and she doesn’t have it and also told that i am cutting her off. Then she played her mental health game on me and i fell for that too. She explicitly said that she wants this to work. Listening to this, I stayed again. Her actions didn’t change. I can’t recall a single day for the next few weeks where she had shown integrity. I was so devastated thinking my game was very bad that i couldn’t get her (yeah we never had sx).

We started to not talk after few days (ghosted basically). And a month later, she called me telling that she’s done with the work and leaving (we met for the first time when she came for an internship in a company in the same building where my company is located). So we met and bid farewell. She told me that it’s her birthday next month and she would surely invite me because she’d coming to the city I am in for celebrating it. The needy me fell for this again. She’d message here and there like 2, 3 times. I was in this emotional roller coaster of being chosen and not chosen like a lot. This was literally killing me.

On her birthday, nothing happened. Yeah she came to my city. I got to know that because of her instagram story. I tried to accept the reality and move on. But i couldn’t. A month later, i messaged her again. She said she’d call me back and never did. Few more months later, the needy me messaged her again. She didn’t show any interest and said she’s finishing graduation in few months and got a job in some other place. This time i accepted the reality for real. I never messaged her again. I unfollowed and blocked her.

Then i took a break from meeting new women because this whole incident hit me with existential crisis. I didn’t make any moves for few months. Then one day randomly at the gym, i met this girl and i got a date. It was not planned at all. I mean i didn’t want to chase women. But this happened. Obviously she was not as hot as the other girl. But still things were too good to be true after the previous incident. We started taking things seriously. The s*x was so good. But few months later, she started to show her anxious attachment patterns to me. I felt like this is another trauma bonding. Now it’s been a year since I met my girlfriend and 1.5 years since I met the other girl who shattered my soul.

The story doesn’t end here. I accepted my life - my girlfriend is not the perfect girl i needed but i made peace with it. Here and there the other girl’s thought were bothering me.

One random day, i was going through my blocklist and found her there. I was like “okay I’m never gonna see her again, her chapter is over so let’s unblock”, and I did). The upcoming month (two months ago today), i got a call on an afternoon when i was with my homie to go for lunch. The call was from instagram and it was this girl again. I was like fck, after 1.5 years, what does she want from me. I even thought she may have placed the call by accident. So i didn’t pick the call. The call hung up and she called again. I picked the call and she asked me if I still work here. I said yes and she said that she is in the building. I was like fck me. I took few steps back and saw her with some dude (not dating for sure, he seemed like an incel). I came to her and to my surprise, she hugged me. I was having trouble understanding and comprehending what’s going on. Few of my coworkers were near and they all saw this. It was an ego booster for sure. Anyway, I asked her what happened to her other job plan. She said she joined there and couldn’t handle the work pressure and toxicity’s not even for a week. She’s has this classic victim mindset. It’s like she vs the universe. And she said she got a job in other company that’s not that near me but still in the same city. I knew this is where i have the choice to go back to my pattern or ignore her. I didn’t say anything much and told her that I’ll see her later (my body was saying no, but my mind was saying this is my second chance - keep in mind that i am dating another girl now).

I didn’t text her or anything. Just a day later, she texted me and suddenly started showing interest and even commented on my posts in instagram). I started to get confused again. So i chatted with her. But this time, i consciously didn’t try to win her over. Two days of chatting where it would take her an average of 4 hours to reply back to a single text I sent, i knew she’s not mine to fix and i stopped talking. I didn’t say anything about this incident to my girlfriend. Now you guys will think the story ends here, NOOOO.

Even though I stopped talking to her, the internal conflict in me was disturbing me. One part of me was saying “I lost the second chance too”, the other part was saying “I don’t want this person’s energy in my life”. So last week, after a tiring day at work. Her thoughts started overpowering and I found myself suffering again. You wouldn’t believe what happened next. The next hour, this btch texts me again. I was like “what the hell is wrong with my life, am I like manifesting her back to my life over and over again when I’m asleep???”. I didn’t reply anything that night. Next day, i asked why she messaged. What she said next made me feel like getting fcked in the ass so hard that I wouldn’t walk for few days.

So basically she got her way into the company I’m working now. Bro she got a job in my company. F*ck. What is she upto. This happened last Wednesday and her joining date was Monday (today). I instantly got depressed hearing this. I knew she coming to my firm would make me regret working here every single day. I took the rest of the day off and talked to a friend about. It didn’t help. I did long meditation sessions and shadow work preparing for the disaster.

I made a promise to myself that no matter what happens I wont perform and self abandon by acting superior around her if i see her. So today happened and she came to my office. I saw her and shook hands and told her “see you later”. Saw her few more times again and just like i thought. Her pretty girl game was working. The incels i knew in my company who have zero game were trying to put her on pedestal. She was really enjoying the attention. As i already expected, i found myself shaking my hands and lips. Even though my life wasn’t that good, I had this confident guy persona in my office. But today, anyone who saw me could sense that i was feeling not at good about myself. So here I’m, feeling helpless and don’t know what to do next ranting my situations here. If you made it this far, thank you. Any advice is greatly appreciated. Admins, I have never posted before and I don’t know if I have broke any rules in this sub. But I need help, please don’t remove my post.

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@SeasonedRP I appreciate the effort of the response, but still find the underlying assumptions fatally flawed.

Part of the problem, lies in the American Right's cultural aversion to consider culture and economics through a CLASS lens, as if doing so is tantamount to willfully stepping onto a nearly vertical slippery slope into full-on acceptance and practice of Marxism/socialism/communism-->bad and anti-American.

Even those individuals you name, who may give public lip service and financial donations to Left leaning social causes, often have economic ulterior motives mixed in. This notwithstanding, their position at the apex of power and control over the large numbers of workers in their businesses and organizations, places them squarely in the Bourgeois class, completely apart from the working stiff proles who actually perform the work.

Working and middle class people support the right.

Because they are most blind to the above structural reality. I find it breathtakingly absurd hearing working class folks, particularly blue collar, enthusiastically supporting the likes of Elon Musk and Donald Trump, with a sense of personal kinship which in reality holds 0% reciprocity from his end.

FWIW, even people working at the ground and lower levels within organizations like Environmental groups that take large grants from the likes of Soros, will take the money, but harbor no illusions that these apex benefactors exist in any way as "One of us." Wealthy people, whether donors or board/upper management class, don't bother to pitch through left coded channels to left leaning audiences, any "Greetings, fellow working class stiffs!" bullshit, as they're much quicker to see right through such a farce.