@HighBodyCountVirgin

Resources for (mainly indirect) day game? Thoughts on the method?

I want to get into perfecting my day game and am looking for more content and resources that could help. I skimmed through Roosh's day bang (I plan to finish it later), and read some posts from TRP archive. I don't like mainstream normie pickup approaches to day game, because they all focus on direct game, i.e. going straight up to a woman and complimenting her, its more likely to fail, especially in day game.

I like the way Roosh did it, basically striking up a regular conversation with a woman, and throwing out baits to see if she bites, like making a statement about a topic and seeing if she follows up on it. If she takes the most of your baits then you know she's interested and you can tell her you enjoy talking to her and would like to get coffee sometime, then exchange numbers or social media.

Thoughts? And are there other resources you would recommend?

Nothing I haven't suggested already. I'm still surprised Roosh actually took my advice in seeking out to build for himself a group of solid trustworthy male friends. That the journey would lead someone with a Turkish-Iranian background to join the Christian faith I still can't say was entirely unsurprising, as his writing gave off a profound sense of defeat and mental exhaustion.

Keep developing your communication skills, consider investing into a reliable ready reference you can pick up and study to better prepare yourself for engaging the opposite sex. I'd suggest that you get yourself a copy of Doc Love's "The System: The Dating Dictionary". Doc Love, who until his passing was also known as Tom Hodges, wrote a weekly advice column that's archive is mirrored on several mens focused sites and a podcast. His media is a bit pricey, but it's a solid foundation a guy can branch out from in RP aware circles. I'd suggest you review his advice column to decide if his view on dating and relationships is aligned with what you aspire for yourself. To save yourself a search, give this scribed link a gander to find out if his #book is something you'd like to add to your library. It should also be available on libgen.

@moneymakingmitch

My ego got hurt at a home party, trying to better myself

I‘ve been invited to this chicks home party for halloween; she wanted to see me and was implying she was dressed up as a sexy vampire and I can be her edward cullen. I got there and I was having fun with my friends, talking to everyone. I was trying to initiate and isloate the given chick (we matched on hinge) and tried to kiss her. She told me she feels like I‘m mad at her and it would be better to see us in that kind of setting for a different time. In my head I knew this is not going to work and I‘d never meet her again. She then proceeded to fuck another guy at the home party after talking to me.

Rationally, I have no idea why I‘m upset. I literally don‘t know her but maybe my expectations that I thought I‘m gonna see her and potentially fuck her made me hurt my ego. I feel like I got cucked for some reason. I literally have lots of women, even made out with her girl friend later in the club and ended up picking another one up I brought home; but I still can‘t shake the feeling off that I got a bit „embarrassed“. I am usually very stoic and these things would never faze me, but it was so in my face that I kinda got pissed off.

Curious about some insight

Consider investing into a reliable ready reference you can pick up and study to better prepare yourself for engaging the opposite sex. I'd suggest that you get yourself a copy of Doc Love's "The System: The Dating Dictionary". Doc Love, who until his passing was also known as Tom Hodges, wrote a weekly advice column that's archive is mirrored on several mens focused sites and a podcast. His media is a bit pricey, but it's a solid foundation a guy can branch out from in RP aware circles. I'd suggest you review his advice column to decide if his view on dating and relationships is aligned with what you aspire for yourself. To save yourself a search, give this scribed link a gander to find out if his #book is something you'd like to add to your library. It should also be available on libgen.

@Hugo_The_Great

Different types of sluts and can they be LTR material?

This is something I've been thinking about/observing for a while, and I am looking for other people's perspectives/experiences.

It seems to me that some girls are different type of sluts. (Or maybe I'm just rationalizing)

Some are sluts out of insecurity - usually the ones with anxious attachment style, they are looking for love/affection and emotional connection but are inevitably drawn to avoidant types who turn out to be the wrong choice. These girls look for emotional connection, are very pleasing-oriented with a fear of abandonment, which leads to being unable to set firm boundaries, and will use sex to get men interested. They girls can be very loyal/affectionate inside a relationship with an aloof man who didn't boot them after a single night of fun.

Then there are also the 'psychologically healthy' women who are securely attached but who prioritize fun over everything else. I've heard this being referred to as 'down-for-anything' type of girls. These girls are playing the game too, so to speak. If you look good, are fun, run a little game on them & escalate, they will go home with you. These are girls who experiment for the sake of experimenting. Have multiple simultaneous FWBs. And, I can only imagine, have a hard time staying loyal or even getting into an LTR.

Now the lines between these are blurred somewhat and that's confusing to me. Perhaps they are all psychologically rotten. And on some level, they all want to have fun. Which leaves the question, which is which, and; does it even matter?

My personal problem is I just can't respect sluts. They can be fun, especially to fuck. But to build a life with one and start a family? I can't respect someone who doesn't respect themselves. Who puts themselves at repeated risk of STDs/violence/abuse and more often than not bad sex just for a teeny bit of fun/validation/attention. The thing is - pretty much every urban woman is a slut nowadays, depending on your definition.

I'd like a family and kids, but these women just give me a sinking feeling in my gut the moment I start getting feelings for them. And I know it's not rational per se, although the feeling probably originates from some ancient evolutionary programming. I'd never LTR a girl who I'd think isn't 100% committed to me, but the thought of her having slooted around before me just makes me want to eject immediately, and I've come to the conclusion that managing said stress is just not worth it...

www.youtube.com/watch?v=NtwiAkUj5Go

Then study the book and keep dating around as you have thus far. Accept that unless she's your daughter, it's unlikely you'll be able to otherwise make a good marriageable woman, and must find the needle in the haystack. So, let the sluts continue to disqualify themselves from selection as they let their psychosis continue to hobble their ability to pair bond.

@mjames5434

Is it okay that I want only virgins for my future wife? It bothers me so much.

I have slept with women from time to time but only for casual fun (they too and they were all non-virgins).

But when it comes to marriage, I cannot help but want only virgin as my future wife.

I want my future wife as pure as possible.

I sometimes imagine myself being married to a non-virgin, possibly very promiscuous one and I just freak out whenever I think that my precious baby who spent 40 weeks in my wife's womb getting cumcoated all the way along my wife's vagina during the birth, all the cum that my wife had received from numerous men of whose names and faces I even never have heard of or seen. It just feels deeply humiliating and I feel I wouldn't be able to truly love my baby if that's the case. It would feel like my baby is a pseudo-bastard.

I may sound like a paranoid. But I just cannot help.

I also think if I get married to a virgin, the bond would be stronger because my wife would know no men other than me.

Is it okay to have this kind of way of thinking? Seriously, I would just not get married if I have to marry a non-virgin.

Consider investing into a reliable ready reference you can pick up and study to better prepare yourself for engaging the opposite sex. I'd suggest that you get yourself a copy of Doc Love's "The System: The Dating Dictionary". Doc Love, who until his passing was also known as Tom Hodges, wrote a weekly advice column that's archive is mirrored on several mens focused sites and a podcast. His media is a bit pricey, but it's a solid foundation a guy can branch out from in RP aware circles. I'd suggest you review his advice column to decide if his view on dating and relationships is aligned with what you aspire for yourself. To save yourself a search, give this scribed link a gander to find out if his #book is something you'd like to add to your library. It should also be available on libgen.