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It's okay. Some times relationships don't work out

Some times you realize what you need and by the time you realize you were with someone who was not compatible with you and it's all falling apart all of a sudden you realize that you found some more of yourself

You have to be the captain of your own ship and prioritize yourself as a man

It's hard to realize and accept that you may have chosen someone out of your own shortcomings

Sometimes you just have to lose people on the way to finding yourself. Wish them well if they at least tried.

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Such a beautiful melody for such a bitter piece

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Not all relationships affect you forever but the ones that do – do.

Haven't found a better song for it

Often times the one who got affected becomes resilient in the right direction and the one who did the affecting goes on like that forever in the wrong direction

Not always, but often is the case if you have any inner strength and good support.

Stay resilient. She can keep going downstream while you adapt.

@SwarmShawarma

A) lol

B) I'm having some recent financial hardships myself

see) the pic

@SwarmShawarma

I think what we're getting at is that someone needs to do the "manipulating" in the relationship, and if it's ever going to have a chance, it will have to be the man.

That said, I've seen men that unconsciously prioritize their cool over their efficiency no matter what. It gets problematic when there are children and too many needs pile up.

@SwarmShawarma This might seriously get you some money, particularly if you can add details of a false profile of the sort of girl people hit up on Tinder because she looks "like she might".

@adam-l

I think what we're getting at is that someone needs to do the "manipulating" in the relationship, and if it's ever going to have a chance, it will have to be the man.

Almost all human interaction is manipulation.

It just beehooves the man to be aware of it and to decide what he's ok with.

Woman gives you a BJ then asks for a small favor? Sure, why not.

Woman tries to make you feel guilty because you took a nap? Nah.

@adam-l benevolent dictator's one of the 10 greatest skills

@SwarmShawarma

plough through

Holy shit, you actually said it correctly instead of your usual "plough trough".

Have some fcks to celebrate cleaning up your act!

@adam-l I mean those breakup/s that I have had to plough through hard and they were to my knowledge normal.

I can imagine that a man getting entangled with a woman that un/consciously manipulates (+100 to chemical bonding) by a man that bonds too strong (-100 to self-control) is as bad as the stories I was reading/hearing at the time. After all I have never consider offing my self.

Sure I get where you are coming from. But a man in such a relationship is probably horribly gaslit, manipulated and self guilt tripped.

I can see where you're coming from but I thought it deserves an addendum.