@Mate1212

"you're only goal is sex as a man”.

Men WANT more than sex, but women seem to be incapable of anything but sex in the long run. So if you get to that point, and she hands you a dead bedroom, she is nothing but a HUGE pile of paid, difficulty, stress, annoyance, and threat of destitution.

Hence @Typo-MAGAshiv ’s comment.

I do agree in the dating phase. If I don't smash after the 3 date I'm gone.

Fair enough. I don’t take such a strict stance. I have a half dozen women dangling around at any given time. Some will and some won’t have sex with me. The ones who won’t I mostly ignore. I refuse to be, or be seen as, an orbiter. It’s creepy and weird.

But I can still wait a more than a few dates to get laid because I am patient and have other options. On tap, 7x24

But assuming the only goal of man is to smash. Why can't I accept beeing a cuckold?

Woah dude. That’s a huge leap. But I’ll tell you why.

Because sooner or later you will feel disgust. Disgust for her, the participants, and more importantly yourself. Think very carefully about this. If you have this as a kink or fetish, I would NOT indulge it. Fantasies are often best left in fantasy land.

Because a cuckold would get some.

That’s a bold assumption. I bet this is less true than you think it is. And while I have never been in such a relationship, I am going to bet that any women in this shoes do not lust after their main man. He is for paying bills, so he will get pretend or duty sex once in a while.

In that case, why not just stay single?

But his wife also gets smashed by other dudes.

That’s an open relationship with extra steps. Plus it sounds one-sided.

I would NOT like such a scenario.

Still true men refuse to be a cuckold.

Most would agree. It cannot possibly feel good in the long run. Relationships are a challenge under the best of circumstances. Why add this mess to the mix?

Men don't want to rais kids from another men.

Most men. Correct. But there are way too many stepdads out there. I was raised by one, and I was one (first wife, ended real quick).

10/10 Would NOT recommend.

The doing to the stage of kids is sex. So I guess the true goal of man is to get as many woman pregnant as possible and only invest his resources in these kids.

Biologically true. But civilization has tried since the beginning of time to regulate this. Look around at the tribal cultures around the world that purse r-selection strategies. Women cheat and sneak around, men fuck who they can, and the women collectively raise the kids. No one knows whose father is whose, but it doesn’t matter because inheritance is not a factor.

(See r/K selection theory - en.wikipedia.org/wiki/R/K_selection_theory

If you want to live a tribal, primitive life, there are plenty of places like this across Africa and Asia. In fact, large swaths of South America are like this.

Entire civilizations are made or broken on how they address this single concept. What man wants to fight or die for a society in which you don’t even know if your child is really yours?

In some countries, women’s cheating is so rampant and pervasive, they have made paternity/DNA testing is illegal (hello France). Who the hell wants to protect such a place as a man? Sure, the military is fun and all, but my fighting spirit just ain’t gonna win the next war.

Pick your poison and proceed accordingly.

Good luck

@Mate1212

Walking away is your biggest power as a man. I've walked away in the past a couple of times. It always hurted even though it was the right thing to do.

Maybe it took longer than it could have. But I always did. Whether it was disrespect from here side, or other opinions of the future together. I've always walked away before getting cheated on.

But It always hurt. It scratched on the "psychological health". Higher bpm when I thought I'm about to end it or I couldn't eat days before ending it.

Older brothers, will this ever stop? Will I ever be able to walk away from a LTR without going through bad / negative emotions?

Some didn't hurt, and some took really long. Where everything was how I wanted it, but she had other plans for the future ( hedonist treadmill / career and I wanted the American dream (stay at home mom)).

Telling yourself that you're strong, when you express sentiments to the contrary isn't a good look. Acknowledging your weakness, as frustrating as it might be, is a necessary step on the journey to realizing the strength you seek to develop in yourself. Own your faults and failings. It's the only way to ensure they can never be used against you. It isn't weakness to process ones feelings of disappointment after a failure, refusing to learn from them is. Learn from the lessons gained through past failures you've endured so that you don't repeat them and can become the man you imagine you might one day become.

Sexual liberation is war. You're a soldier born into a war your parents didn't want you trained or equipped to fight. Now you must hurdle the gatekeepers who obscure this truth from sight.

Next course of action? Started hooking up with a girl early ~5 months ago very consistently and often, staying the night daily she was only sleeping with me claiming best she's ever had, and that she loves me I've been lying saying I am exclusive to her, but to be fair, seldom was I hooking up with other girls since I had her as my consistent "One Special Girl," started treating her like such is where I went wrong, more purple pilled tactics, frame slipping, started caring about what she wore out, and to where, she was selling me the dream very well. Halloweekend I went full blown beta and was supposed to sleepover at hers and got very upset and essentially crashed out while drunk because my driving scared her and she wanted to wait to see me til I sobered up. wake up the next morning not remembering what I did, it was bad. Yelled at her to kill herself said I'd never see her again in front of her friends, etc. Apologized profusely, but she still wanted space. Said I'd give it to her, and she told me her timeline of forgiveness wouldn't be within mine and that we should focus on ourselves. Accepted defeat. "Focusing on myself," and went out essentially on a double date last night and posted everyone except the girl I was with out of sheer coincidence and she did detective work to see that there was indeed another girl there. It's a birthday outing and I can lie and say she was their friend She messaged me "so much for focusing on yourself" and even edited it to fix a typo. Blocked on socials, but not on iMessage. respond with a question mark and call her back within an hour. Sound like a beta just typing this, but the sex was good and she was very invested. Often driving hours back and forth to see me. Opinions? Focus on myself; work, gym, other girls and this one will crawl back with time, if not who GAF. I'm definitely the prize here btw.

Walking away is your biggest power as a man. I've walked away in the past a couple of times. It always hurted even though it was the right thing to do.

Maybe it took longer than it could have. But I always did. Whether it was disrespect from here side, or other opinions of the future together. I've always walked away before getting cheated on.

But It always hurt. It scratched on the "psychological health". Higher bpm when I thought I'm about to end it or I couldn't eat days before ending it.

Older brothers, will this ever stop? Will I ever be able to walk away from a LTR without going through bad / negative emotions?

Some didn't hurt, and some took really long. Where everything was how I wanted it, but she had other plans for the future ( hedonist treadmill / career and I wanted the American dream (stay at home mom)).