@Theotonic_knight

Girl enthusiastic on date, very slow on text

Hi all,

I've (27) met a girl (22) a week ago at the pool. Approached there and talked for 1-2 hours. Went on a date few days ago in a bar. It was solid - strong eye contact, she began escalating on me getting touchy, getting close to me and signaling for a kiss. She took a selfie with me. After the bar she put her hand around mine while walking. Drove her back to her place and we hugged for prolly 15 mins before she got out. I decided not to eacalate (was it a mistake?) as there was no possibility for sex (she had a roommate). Got a text if I got back home. So on paper, everything is good. She was slow on text (3-5 hrs) before the date, however, she continued like that aftewards. 3 days later I propose we meet to which she says she can't that day and that we should meet later that week. To which I respond "alright" and left it that way. Got needy tonight asking that she didn't mentioned which day she's free. No response yet. Still going out with other girls, however this really bothes me. What's your take with these slow responses, does she play games or goes out with multiple people?

While it's good to read that you're interested in this girl, your lack of communication discipline will be a problem going forward.

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@Saltycroc

It's easier for me to approach men than women.

I've always been fairly confident and have always spoke to pretty much everyone around me. Im popular at my gym and talk to pretty much anyone. I have no problem going up to guys and making friends with them easily.

For some reason, it's way way harder for me to approach women with the same energy. My brain and social skills kind of just turn off when it's a girl.

This is so weird because I have absolutely no problem going up to random guys and starting a convosation.

Ive started cold approaching, which has made me realise I have this problem.

How do I fix this/get out of this weird mindset that I have.

www.youtube.com/watch?v=NtwiAkUj5Go

By considering that there's absolutely nothing wrong in realizing that the juice isn't worth the squeeze.

Interacting with other males, either online or in-person, will usually lead to more benign outcomes with no stress. You ask a few questions, you get a few replies, maybe a suggestion of a book to read and you continue on with your life.

However, with modern females this isn't possible as most are educated to see males as enemies at worst and competition at best. Whether that's good or bad, you'll have to decide for yourself.