It seems like theres an impossible frame battle to win sometimes due to the state of society. It feels like I'm expecting her to be a "Manson girl" with how radically different my views are from society's. She listens to me, but we butt heads sometimes due to worldview. I

Right.

You have fallen into the trap of "make it work with this one girl".

That is the trap you are in, and the feminist world gives her massive choices and options while you are trapped into "try and make it work".

You see the problem with all this right?

Solution: don't care so much if she's got whatever the fuck worldview she likes. If she leaves she leaves.

t makes her anxious to have a relationship with someone that has such different views from the societal norm. It makes her anxious to live as a fully feminine woman in a culture that craps on that. She's always needing lots of reassurance from me that this is an acceptable way of living.

well, good luck with that

She also has some issues with opening up and fully trusting men due to what she sees online.

right - and not your problem.

Changing her worldview would take a lot of burden off of me in terms of how much reassuring and coaching I have to do.

It's probably impossible

Our relationship is excellent apart from this so I want her to be consuming media that will mold her more into a traditional woman who's confident in her femininity. I think she'd be much happier this way, but she feels too much societal pressure.

Societal pressure..... or she's choosing to pay attention to a part of society that pressures her?

It seems she needs strong, moral, feminine role models in order to feel like she has permission to live this way. She is willing read and watch anything I want her to.

I doubt reading a book will change any of this.

Do y'all have any books or content you think a young 20s girl should be reading? And dont just say the Bible and cookbooks lol. I need something that will undo years of feminist programming. I basically need to teach her how to be a woman. It also needs to be fun for a woman to read, so dont reccomend The Rational Male...

Yeah, I doubt this is possible even if the books exist.