@AFTSOV I’m reminded of the time an LTR was saying bye to a university friend, who was going on a trip. She stepped closer and touched his arm, I forget what was said but he looked at me and we shared a look. The look expressed the line she had crossed in regards to her level of respect for me, in my eyes. I turned up the dread and handled the situation, but a few years later there was a social occasion in which he was going to be there. I hadn’t thought anything of it, but she brought it up. She said that her entire group of friends had discussed it, and she was checking that I wasn’t uncomfortable seeing him. I had to laugh because it was entirely obvious a line had been crossed by the fact everyone had talked about it, and the disrespect had continued unbeknownst to me.

AWALT, in that you can take them out or you can keep them locked up but you’re just caging something that can fit through the bars. Deal with it when it arises accordingly in line with your own standards, otherwise you’ll be encouraging loose behaviour. That’s because like a child they’ll always test your boundaries. Where you draw the line in the sand is entirely subjective. Whether the woman adheres to your standards is again, entirely subjective. If a plate adheres to those standards they become an LTR, no?

@AFTSOV A) do you even know he's an ex?

B) what exactly are your expectations here? That she never says a word to another man ever again? That's incredibly unrealistic.

C) disrespectful would be if she ran to him and jumped into his arms. A basic "hey, how've you been?" is just manners.

I believed that according to the red pill, that if a woman goes to say hi / hug another man, then she is not yours, it's just your turn, she's a hoe whore, and she doesn't respect you as a man

Maybe according to a few idiots who take these things to ridiculous extremes and can't function in the real world.

The only part of that paragraph that's true is "she is not yours, it's just your turn". Everything else is insanity.

Does she chat with them every day? Are they texting buddies? Do they stay in touch via Facebook or other social media? Do they stay in touch at all?

If so, then THAT is disrespectful.

Running into each other in public and saying "hey, how's it going?" is just being civil and having manners.