Fell asleep

@Bozza you don't b need to convince me she was a bad seed any more that in the first instance, but more datails were even better ngl.

It doesn't change my opinion not to try to find solutions when not f2f.

All problem you try to resolve in calm manner, you do for yourself. It doesn't matter if someone benefits as well, as long u r the main beneficiary.

She was putting a rope around her neck and tightening it each time she did stupid stuff. You could have accelerated that.

The "traditional" thing started rearing it's head She started getting shitty on our date because I didn't pay - "Men are supposed to pay". Frame control brought that in line

"I love you being traditional like that, because I like home cooked food" "that's OK you will learn, let's start with you making me a sanwitch" "here you go ingredients".....

All you could do was to ridicule and move on with topic babout EVERYTHING She was saying to show you will not take ANYTHING she says seriously (ofc before you wanted to bail).

BPD, yeah definitely not normal pushing all buttons at once.

@SwarmShawarma Sound point.

But no.

Look, I really liked her but then...

The "traditional" thing started rearing it's head

She started getting shitty on our date because I didn't pay - "Men are supposed to pay". Frame control brought that in line.

Next date - Oh I've got an infection. Between then we facetimed. She spoke about maybe my condoms might have caused it. "You should throw away your condoms" Why - Frame control sorted this out - but "Oh you're seeing me, why do you need sex?"

In that conversation she said "Can we not have sex?" - Jokingly. "Shall we be celibate?"

But this was the red flag.

I booked another date with her. Bowling. Day of, she says she's having "Issues"/infection etc. Whatever, Bowling is cool.

We go Bowling. Good Date. No Sex.

She's aggressive as anything. Almost called the date off. I arrived late (my mistake) she moans about that. Moans about me vaping. Moans about everything.

At this point im almost like - fuck off. I can;t deal with women moaning when I'm with them, why would I deal with you?

We go bowling, it's good.

Friday. I'm with plate #1

She calls. I Ignore.

I come home the next day. she gets aggy - "Why u no respond"?

Evening, she talks to me, can we facetime. Sure? We facteime. She's sat in the dark. Aggy as hell. "I've got an infection". Wat did the doctors say - they gave me medication.

So shes blown this up wayyyyy beyond needed.

We have a conversation, at the end she says:

"This has put me off sex with protection"

Sure

"And... sex without protection"

"Is it okay if we dont have sex at all?"

Until when...

"I dont know. until I feel comfortable

NO.

I dont mind waiting a little while. But if you thinking I'm paying for dates, doing all of that for no sex - no.

Bearing in mind this girl had slowly and consistently ramped up the "traditional" vibes. "Oh I cant do that"