Quick field reissuesWent one two dates with a girl, and we had a lot in common. Both liked the same books, ect. The only catch was this girl had SEVERE anxiety and depression. You could tell by her body language alone, but she also made reference to it a couple times in conversation which confirmed my suspicions.

This immediately made me nervous, because while I wanted to get laid I also didn't want to ruin this chicks life or something. I got more nervous and less physical in my interactions. As I did this, she further withdrew in her body language. The conversation was great/intellectual but not sexual at all because the signals I was getting clearly said that wasn't safe territory.

The day after date 2, she texted me that she wasn't interested which honestly was a relief. However, it also made a very important point in my mind - even with a girl who's life is a wreck of anxiety, depression, weird hang ups and cultural repression of sexual instincts wants to feel the mythical "tingles". I let her set the frame of the interaction by tiptoing around her issues, instead of being bold and intentional.

I'm relieved that I don't have to potentially deal with the drama and shit that would've come from trying to form a connection with a woman like that. I've also learned a valuable lesson.

@johnjim424 your whole thread is about sports and how you always dont' get what you want. If you go to college, go for academics, do you have the grades? Are you smart? If not, don't go, learn a trade.

Haven't talked at all about that, so what were you going to major in ? Poly Sci? Ya, that will get you a good job, sarc.

Figure out what you like, what you are good at, and lastly, what you can make a living at. Focus on that. So, is that college or a trade? Can you pay off college on that salary in a few years? Can you get jobs easy (growth) area? That's what you need to look at.

Make a plan, you don't go to college or post high school without a plan. Kids today are just wandering trying to figure it out, while paying $30k+ per year in tuition and such. Dumb.

Make a plan, then figure out what you need to accomplish it.