@IllBrain2040

How to regain wife’s respect!

Used to be on the main subreddit years ago. Was successful with women and dated around a lot. Rotated different girls, had a few fuckups but generally knew what I was doing. Had a plate who was excellent. Beautiful, submissive, did anything in bed. Was my main girl I spent a lot of time with. Kept spinning other girls and always honest with her we weren’t fully together. Moved in together during COVID and sex was always great, she cooked, she cleaned, she was always pleasant and kind. I got hooked by her trap and we became official just out of comfort.

Always lifted but Covid kind of killed it. Got skinnyfat and depressed. Gamed a lot. Social circle died with covid. Didn’t speak to any other women except my gf. Developed body dysmorphia. Became a bit cringe. Not one to let myself rot. Did a beginners cycle of TRT. Felt great, lifting again, going out again, chatting to girls again. Really horny, really confident and good game. Drinking, coke, partying. Girlfriend hated hit because she knew how I was, coming home late at night stressed her out. Hooked up with a few women, drink and drugs made me sloppy. Girlfriend got access to my phone and saw that I cheated. Big arguments, a lot of her crying, seemed like such a big deal to her when for me I was just gaming women for self esteem and steroid horny and no intention of leaving her. She accepted this explanation, forgave and we “moved on”.

But wasn’t the same after. Sex wasn’t as frequent and she was less open to old things we did. Bickering happened more often. Slight disrespect that wasn’t present before.

I finished my cycle and did PCT, but fell into a depressed gamer slump again, lost gains, bad posture, skinny and ugly. She respected me even less, I became more of a pathetic coward.

Accidentally knocked her up. Married her because of it. Was larping as some kind of moral conservative at the time and didn’t want my child to be born a bastard, thought it was cringe to have a child and not be married. We’re locked together now because of the child anyway. And she was still a good woman, the kind that wears baggy clothes at the gym and doesn’t speak or get involved when the men are all talking. Wasn’t perfect but better than the current crop of high maintenance girlbosses that were on offer.

Had the baby, naturally, no vaccinations, healthy child. Se immediately switched after the child. Bossy, rude, disrespectful, angry, snarky, hitting and just all around unpleasant. Bedroom completely died. I didn’t want her working while she had the child, because I was larping as a traditionalist and felt it was my duty to provide for them both. So she spent all day at home, watching reality TV and stupid crap and the therapy-talk and “me me me” attitude and nastiness seeped into our interactions.

I let it go for the first few months because I thought it was postpartum or some shit, and didn’t want to stress her out more with the baby. So I took it all and let her be a mean and angry bitch and washed the dishes when he demanded it. Yes honey. I had degenerated into a buck broken cuck and ugly and unattractive and she had no respect for me.

By the time I realised what I’d become I wasn’t able to put my foot down and restore the previous dynamic. She just didn’t like me anymore, and the sweet submissive girlfriend had become the neurotic naggy wife. Lots of arguing, lots of passive aggression, very toxic household.

I eventually said fuck it and left on a “business trip” for 2 months. I went to an island in the sun and lifted and relaxed on the beach and partied with girls. Away from her I felt my health immediately improve, I stood straighter and I spoke more confidently and I returned to some of my old self. Years of pent up game was released on these “travelling” women who were so easy and I hooked up with a lot of girls.

When I got back I was recovered and changed and she could sense and feel it and our relationship was better again. I was happier and healthier, I enforced boundaries and she submitted again. Sex was fun and we got along, and when she started hinting at being disrespectful again would just tickle her or fuck her and diffuse her that way.

But of course the stupid bitch couldn’t keep her nose out and snooped through my shit again. I thought I had been smart about wiping my phone and covering my tracks but she’d found some way into my laptop instead and recovered my deleted accounts and chat backups I didn’t know existed. So everything blew up again when she saw all the different women I cheated with and we got back to stupid loud arguments in front of the kis, threats of divorce, the whole works.

Now we’re back to square one, she’s naggy and angry and disrespectful, it’s a chore and negotiation to get her to have sex with me, we argue all the time. Dread game doesn’t work because coming back an hour too late just blows things up for the whole week. She hides AirTags in my car. We did “couples counselling” because that’s was YouTube suggested to her but which was just lame and she didn’t like it either. We’re in a fragile state. And she’s pregnant again.

Won’t divorce because a) the child, still a traditional conservativecuck and don’t want my children to grow up in a single mother family. b) probably won’t find another woman who’s antivaxx and conservative like her and my SMV is much lower than before and c) divorce proceedings will probably reveal my extensive tax avoidance and I wouldn’t put it past her to turn me into authorities out of spite because that’s just what women do.

What’s the angle now? How can I break her in again because right now she sees me as filthy degenerate loser who won’t stop drinking and cheating and I can’t leave my fucking house anymore without her freaking.

Yes I know getting married was a stupid thing to do. I don’t think it’s irreparable though and I’m back to being jacked, but I can’t undo the “cheating” and she doesn’t have the love heart eyes for me anymore and is sticking around for the financial support. Purely transactional relationship now.

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