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Hey guys, need some help, really appreciate any feedback.
Basically, I (25M) just broke up with my 5 year LTR (25F), who loved me like crazy and would always support me through all my lows including my worst points in physically (health), and even helping me financially when I had a huge problems with my business.
Recently, things have been going better for me, and I have become greedy in the sense that I started cheating with other girls including a really hot 9.5/10 girl. And because of this added with a busy schedule of work and trying to make more money, I just provided lesser and lesser time and attention to my girlfriend. This caused her to become extremely angry, lonely, sad and tired, leading to more arguments and basically her questioning the loss of passion and if I even still love her. Because of all this, I got extremely tired of maintaining the LTR and agreed to some of her viewpoints that we might be on different paths, leading to our breakup. (1 day ago)
After the breakup, I've gone no contact and immediately continued to bang the 9.5/10 chick, but I'm thinking if what I'm doing is beneficial to my life in general or not. Basically, I'm not sure I can train and guide another girl like how I've trained my 5 year LTR to be submissive and to be loving to me anymore. This is because I probably won't be having as much time as before, and I'm worried that letting my current LTR go might be a crucial mistake because I mostly value my career.
Some extra points:
- my LTR had been upset that I told her the truth straight up that I wouldn't able to marry her in the next 2 years
- I've actually known her since high school, but we got together 5 years ago, and I'm basically her first real boyfriend
- she's overall a joyful girl as long as I give her time and attention, has shown to be kind and appreciative towards me
- during arguments she becomes rather masculine and violent, which I have managed to tune down over the years. but still happens.
- she texted me one day after our breakup saying that "she thought she was worth fighting for" even though she was the one who kind of initiated the breakup, albeit I was the one who withdrew alot of attention for no reason due to work and side chicks.
Overall, I feel like I may have been at fault because I provided her with very little care and attention out of the blue after the increased workload and also the increased amount of side plates. And the recent 9.5/10 side plate may have made me more interested in banging her, leading to less attraction to my LTR. I believe I may have messed up, but I know I might be able to salvage the relationship easily by just meeting up with my LTR and bringing back a positive mood, as that usually works somehow. But I'm not sure what's the play here, and what's the most ideal scenario for me moving forward. (side note: my LTR has been busy with her own career, and is close to hitting the wall, not being as fit as before and slowly turning unattractive for me. I have lost alot of attraction and am not sure if I can regain it. However, I appreciate her that she's actually trying to work towards a future and to have a family and kids with me.
I'm so stuck and lost in what I want myself, and I really need some guidance from men in here who are just more experienced, because I really do not know what is the most optimal thing to do for my own good. Please help me to make a decision. Thanks in advance guys.
Consider investing into a reliable ready reference you can pick up and study to better prepare yourself for engaging the opposite sex. I'd suggest that you get yourself a copy of Doc Love's "The System: The Dating Dictionary". Doc Love, who until his passing was also known as Tom Hodges, wrote a weekly advice column that's archive is mirrored on several mens focused sites and a podcast. His media is a bit pricey, but it's a solid foundation a guy can branch out from in RP aware circles. I'd suggest you review his advice column to decide if his view on dating and relationships is aligned with what you aspire for yourself. To save yourself a search, give this scribed link a gander to find out if his book is something you'd like to add to your library. It should also be available on libgen.
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@Vermillion-Rx I confirmed it. I really got a married woman to go get drinks alone with me. I’m picking her up at work and then dropping her back off there at her car. There’s no fucking way. I can’t believe this. I’m going to tear her up.
You're not autistic, you are just obtuse
I am Maxing Out on Autism, Did I Fuck Up?
So back when I was managing, I hired this woman who’s 26. I’m 22. She moved out of the area and to the place where I used to live because her husband is military. She kept saying when she gets there, if I’m ever down there we should meet up. I didn’t want to say yes to it because I knew she was married but I always wanted to because she didn’t wear her ring all the time and she never backed away when I’d touch her.
I just hit her up and told her I was back home and now we’re meeting up later for drinks.
Am I playing myself or will she actually show up alone for drinks?
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Hey guys, need some help, really appreciate any feedback.
Basically, I (25M) just broke up with my 5 year LTR (25F), who loved me like crazy and would always support me through all my lows including my worst points in physically (health), and even helping me financially when I had a huge problems with my business.
Recently, things have been going better for me, and I have become greedy in the sense that I started cheating with other girls including a really hot 9.5/10 girl. And because of this added with a busy schedule of work and trying to make more money, I just provided lesser and lesser time and attention to my girlfriend. This caused her to become extremely angry, lonely, sad and tired, leading to more arguments and basically her questioning the loss of passion and if I even still love her. Because of all this, I got extremely tired of maintaining the LTR and agreed to some of her viewpoints that we might be on different paths, leading to our breakup. (1 day ago)
After the breakup, I've gone no contact and immediately continued to bang the 9.5/10 chick, but I'm thinking if what I'm doing is beneficial to my life in general or not. Basically, I'm not sure I can train and guide another girl like how I've trained my 5 year LTR to be submissive and to be loving to me anymore. This is because I probably won't be having as much time as before, and I'm worried that letting my current LTR go might be a crucial mistake because I mostly value my career.
Some extra points:
- my LTR had been upset that I told her the truth straight up that I wouldn't able to marry her in the next 2 years
- I've actually known her since high school, but we got together 5 years ago, and I'm basically her first real boyfriend
- she's overall a joyful girl as long as I give her time and attention, has shown to be kind and appreciative towards me
- during arguments she becomes rather masculine and violent, which I have managed to tune down over the years. but still happens.
- she texted me one day after our breakup saying that "she thought she was worth fighting for" even though she was the one who kind of initiated the breakup, albeit I was the one who withdrew alot of attention for no reason due to work and side chicks.
Overall, I feel like I may have been at fault because I provided her with very little care and attention out of the blue after the increased workload and also the increased amount of side plates. And the recent 9.5/10 side plate may have made me more interested in banging her, leading to less attraction to my LTR. I believe I may have messed up, but I know I might be able to salvage the relationship easily by just meeting up with my LTR and bringing back a positive mood, as that usually works somehow. But I'm not sure what's the play here, and what's the most ideal scenario for me moving forward. (side note: my LTR has been busy with her own career, and is close to hitting the wall, not being as fit as before and slowly turning unattractive for me. I have lost alot of attraction and am not sure if I can regain it. However, I appreciate her that she's actually trying to work towards a future and to have a family and kids with me.
I'm so stuck and lost in what I want myself, and I really need some guidance from men in here who are just more experienced, because I really do not know what is the most optimal thing to do for my own good. Please help me to make a decision. Thanks in advance guys.
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Read the sidebar. Become more attractive and stop doing unattractive things.
Hyper-Sexuality and Mixed Bipolar 1
I recently changed bipolar meds due to insurance. I was on Depakote but now im on Lamotrigine. Live in the states so can’t get a prostitute. I’m finally realizing that my desperate need to have a girlfriend was to have sex. I keep trying to think back on my relationships and I can’t even remember one thing I enjoyed doing. I hate dates, I hate being seen in public with women that aren’t that attractive, I hate being forced to meet family and meet their other girl friends.
I just really love sex. I used to fuck 4x a week with my ex and it’s crippling me having no access to sex right now. I’m so desperate right now that I have reached new levels of perversion. I started offering matches on tinder or bumble $250 to $500 cash just to skip to fucking because im tired of getting “Oh you’re a good guy, I can’t fuck on the first date with YOU” or all the BS about them not having time to talk or needing to look at their schedule before we can even go on a date.
How are you guys that do monk mode or have been in a dry spell even handle this? I’m going insane thinking about sex and trying new vags and shit. My ex was loose but moist as fuck, shit was magical. I’ve been obsessed about trying different pussies ever since.
How the fuck do I deal with this?
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