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@mkeehl

Should I date my oncologist?

I'm a 31 yo male and she is 36. She's been treating me for over a year now and things have been strictly professional between us.

I had such bad diagnosis, I'd given up on dating altogether since chemo made me a walking zombie. Now that things are a little passive I've gotteb back into dating.

Anyway, this girl asked me out to take a walk and talk about immunotherapy one time. Then she bought us some food and drinks. I was so caught up in my shit I didn't even see that she was kinda flirting the whole time.

We've been casually exchanging texts over past few weeks. It was regular oncology stuff with a few not so appropriate jokes for an oncologist, but she took it well and responded in kind.

I saw her an hour ago and since we were alone she was very playful and teasy. I don't think I'm imagining stuff since a doc should not be complementing me on my beard and making sarcastic jokes about our "relationship".

Anyway, I've had my fair share of relashionships and I can tell when a woman is into me (at least a little).

The question is, should I take the initiative at trying to make this situation into something serious at least in a sexual way?

It's no big deal to me either way, I can say nothing and move on. She's a nice person and I'm thankful for her attentive treatment.

The big question is this - is it even worth dating your oncologist? I have a 25 fbw so it's not a necessity for me to do this rn.

Btw, my ex broke up with me a year ago shortly after my diagnosis. She said I'd been absent and cold and she couldn't take it anymore. Who tf u kidding bitch, it's my stage 4 cancer you can't take anymore lol.

Thanks in advance brothers

Study the book. You don't need our permission or approval to ask your oncologist out on a date. Best case, she says yes. Worst case, she says no, and passes you off to another oncologist.

While I honestly hope that she sees it as flattering, you should probably ask yourself what's changed in your life that you're now interested in asking her out after knowing her for a year. I don't imagine dealing with stage four cancer has been easy for you, especially as a psychotic ex broke up with you following the diagnosis. Consider taking sometime to assess how to get yourself out of the isolated mental state your cancer treatment has left you in. Regardless, good on you for keeping an eye out for the ladies.

@brazilianxof

Doing stuff "for woman"

So we all say "do for yourself, not for girls". I saw why in my personal life. But what to do when things i enjoy are either solo activities or "at home" ones?

Let's say i want to meet people. I dislike crowded places. When in the gym, i want to workout. So i'll need to do random things for other people, taking with me the "starving dude" vibe. And solo because my friends are all caged by wives. They don't walk two steps without them.

For ex. I was thinking about joining Crossfit, a Dance or Trekking groups for socializing. But i know (we know) it's for woman. How do i enjoy life this way?

There is a video where Bronn and Jaime Lannister are talking about "an army of men without cocks". And it's very reality-check. All we do is pussy-driven.

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Study the book. As a man, you'll never know what strength of discipline and character you have until such a time as you can tell a beautiful woman 'no', and stand firm in your refusal regardless of what attempts to sway you to her thrall she might otherwise employ.

As for activities, try meetup and eventbrite dot com, or the events listings on your preferred social media. There's not much you can do solo, that there aren't groups actively involved into doing socially.

@MeMyselfAndMyBeard

I have to live on minimum living wage for 5 years, what to do with dating life?

Hi, I (38M) lost my programming job (due to a manic period because I'm bipolar) and now I'm drowning in $100 000 in debts (due to former gambling addict). I have no other choice than to apply for debt settlement with The Swedish Enforcement Authority ("Kronofogden") and will have to live on bare minimum living wage for the next 5 years (accommodation paid and $620 for living expenses). My expenses will rougly be:

Housing (rent + electricity + internet): $1140

Food & groceries: $200

Transport (subway card): $100

Fitness & health (Gym membership): $30

Mobile & subscriptions: $40

Miscellaneous / entertainment: ~$250

Total: $1760

I'm a programmer so I earn quite well (~$4000 a month) but The Swedish Enforcement Authority will take anything above $1760 from my salary and put it into debt payments. My hobbies are krav maga, social dancing (WCS), gym and I'm learning to make music with Ableton (with hopes of becoming a music producer one day). My dating life right now is pretty bad, though I can get dates from Tinder (I have quite good facial looks - I'm probably a 6.5 - 7). I'm a bit overweight (178 cm/5'10, 92kg/202lbs, BMI 29) so if I got in shape I'd probably get more dates. I've just started learning daygaming (with the help of Nick Krauser's book) but no luck there yet.

As you can see I will only have ~$250 a month for "fun activities". Is this enough for dating? What should be my focus these upcoming 5 years? Just getting hookups through Tinder/daygame because a relationship is more costly? Or find a frugal girlfriend who is happy with just Netflix dates? I want children one day, but not until my debts are paid, so not until I'm probably at least 43. What are your thoughts?

Mainly that you should consider investing into a reliable ready reference you can pick up and study to better prepare yourself for engaging the opposite sex. I'd suggest that you get yourself a copy of Doc Love's "The System: The Dating Dictionary". Doc Love, who until his passing was also known as Tom Hodges, wrote a weekly advice column that's archive is mirrored on several mens focused sites and a podcast. His media is a bit pricey, but it's a solid foundation a guy can branch out from in RP aware circles. I'd suggest you review his advice column to decide if his view on dating and relationships is aligned with what you aspire for yourself. To save yourself a search, give this scribed link a gander to find out if his #book is something you'd like to add to your library. It should also be available on libgen.

Given your age, if you don't limit yourself to other Scandinavian females, you should be able to do well for yourself in the dating game. If you're a divorced father, you could even bump yourself up to a solid 7 or 8 thanks to pre-selection working in your favor with relationship seeking females.

Thankfully I'm not a Scandinavian and being as you're already middle aged I think it's more likely that you already know what you want to do with yourself, but need encouragement in charting your path. To that end, it may help for you to get yourself two sheets of paper, a pen, and do the following.

On the first sheet write down a list of things that you've been putting off on the back burner due to work, schooling, or just life in general starting with what you've shared with us. It doesn't matter how silly, or stupid the task or idea might be, just write it down. When you're done, take the second sheet of paper, and re-write the items from the first list starting with what you believe to be the simplest, easiest task, to the most complicated.

When you're done with the second list, keep it someplace you won't forget. The challenge once you've got the list done won't be simply accomplishing them, but not allowing yourself to be de-spirited whenever you encounter difficulty, or failure. To not let yourself be defeated. You'll spend the time to troubleshoot and diagnose the problem, resume, or start over. Best of luck to you.