@Boulevard It's actually deceptively hard to "not be a weirdo". And also hard to tell someone "how to not be weird". There's not some kind of checklist I can hand you on how to have a conversation without being weird. Having a checklist would make you more weird, not less.
Social norms are something you're supposed to just get. The entire reason social norms exist is to help people gauge other people and weed out weirdos. If you are socially awkward, the other guys at a party don't want to talk to you and they think you're strange, the girls at the party think you're creepy, and the way you walk and talk and carry your body makes people uncomfortable, that makes you less fuckable. Your kids are going to get your genes and also have trouble picking up social norms and acting non-weird. Women are biologically programmed to avoid guys like that because they don't want to have weird, socially awkward kids who are going to have trouble getting laid and passing her genes on to the next generation.
The best advice I can give is for you to talk to people. All the time. Everywhere you go. If you're in line for a coffee, talk to the people in line next to you. Put your phone away and just engage strangers in conversation. Men, women, old ladies, college guys, whoever is around. You're not looking for dates or sex or friends. You're just talking with a stranger for 30 seconds while waiting for coffee. Do this a billion times with a billion people, and each time, it gets a little less weird. Actually watch other people and how they talk and move. Listen to what they have to say and ask questions, be interested, learn stuff. The best way to learn how to talk to people and not be a weirdo is to practice. Especially with strangers you're not going to see again, where it doesn't matter at all.Read More
@Boulevard There's nothing special about either sex.
What do women do for you that you can't get anywhere else? Two things: Make babies and have heterosexual sex with you. Everything else in the world, you can do for yourself or anybody else can do it for you - even another man.
And what can you do for a woman that nobody else can do? Same shit. Get her pregnant and sate her desire for heterosexual sex. Everything else in the world, she can do for herself or someone else can do it for her regardless of their sex.
The goal is not for you to become some kind of unique male who has things that no other human can have or do. That's silly. The goal is to maximize your outcomes in the sex and relationships game.
Women just have to sit there and guys try to have sex with them. You don't have that luxury. For you to have sex, you need to be hot, successful, social, interesting, useful, and have good game. Not because this makes you uniquely male, but because this gets you the results you want.Read More
@CainPrice Thank you for this, i think this is exactly what i needed to get going. I'm printing this and putting it on my wall.
That being said what advice would you give specifically for male. This is good advice but any sex can use it to get better. I'm having a hard time pin pointing what i can give that a female can't give. I know that straight female are attracted to male. But like what's my role? What do male have that female dont have?
Does this eventually leads to me realizing that there is nothing special about being a male.
Physical. Work out, eat right, groom well, dress well. You should be at the gym six days a week lifting weights and not eating crap.
Professional. Make lots of money, save most of it, invest some of it, excel at your job. If you're still a kid in school, ace school and get the credentials you need to make lots of money.
Social. Talk to people everywhere you go. Make friends and connections, both social and professional. Learn how to interact with people without coming across as a weirdo who does weird-ass things like asking about male value on the internet.
Utility. Learn useful skills. Always be reading about or learning about something, besides your job and the gym. You should know how to cook, work on your car, build and fix shit - generally, you should be pretty self-sufficient at meeting your needs. Obviously, unless you're studying to be an electrician or plumber or other extremely skilled trade, don't do major shit that will hurt you or fuck up your residence on your own. But if you can't cook a chicken breast, iron your own shirt, build some Ikea furniture, hang a picture, or change a tire when you get a flat, or whatever else interests you, learn it.
Interest. Do interesting hobbies, even if they're not useful. If you've never been anywhere or done anything or experienced anything, you're going to be that guy who just stands there dumbly while everybody else has shit to talk about.
- Game. Learn how to talk to women in a way that leads to sex instead of trying to be their friends. Banter, flirt, be confident, and actually try to fuck instead of just being nice and friendly and hoping women give you a sign. And act like you expect the women to say yes. Like women say yes all the time. Like it's just normal and ordinary for women to go home with you.
I'm realizing that female have innate value, they have value only for existing. That being said where is the male value? If someone could point me to a book that talk about it it would be great. I would like to have more value, but i dont know what to do first.