How am I supposed to not compare myself to other guys my age and younger who had a silver spoon (wealth) handed to them on a platter and basically have it made in their lives early in terms of confidence, looks, and financial stability because of their mommy and daddy?
And yet you are not comparing yourself to the homeless, the clueless, the utter losers, those in prison and the dead.
How am I supposed to demonstrate my value to women when rubbing elbows with these guys and I’m the outsider of the group?
Well, you do have to get good. You have to not be the outsider. Why should a woman want to be involved with someone who whines and complains (ie a loser) when they can have a winner?
Why complain about any of this? Are you hoping someone will rescue you from this somehow? Not going to happen. YOU have to get better, YOU have to compete for female attention. We all do. Fact of life.
, and suddenly you see tons of guys who are seemingly valuable because their parents literally placed them in that place thanks to their money. Looks, social confidence, etc all because of their parents. They never had to work a day in their lives or bust their ass, it was literally handed to them.
LIFE IS NOT FAIR OR EQUAL. Get used to it.
Any words of advice?
Sure: quit whining. If you can't compete in a particular environment, choose another. Most women in most places in the world don't value wealth. They like it, but they fuck charming hot guys. Are you a charming hot guy? WHY NOT?
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Mid 20s here
How am I supposed to not compare myself to other guys my age and younger who had a silver spoon (wealth) handed to them on a platter and basically have it made in their lives early in terms of confidence, looks, and financial stability because of their mommy and daddy? How am I supposed to demonstrate my value to women when rubbing elbows with these guys and I’m the outsider of the group? Like, do women even appreciate an accomplished guy who had a rough life and pulled through shit? I have a feeling that’s a no, but you guys know better than I do so I’d like to know
Like, if you’re a person who went through a lot of hell and trauma in your life and busted your ass to get where you are now; and you move back to your mother country to live with your kind and enter a social circle similar to the one where you were in the states (financially, not culturally), and suddenly you see tons of guys who are seemingly valuable because their parents literally placed them in that place thanks to their money. Looks, social confidence, etc all because of their parents. They never had to work a day in their lives or bust their ass, it was literally handed to them.
How are you supposed to demonstrate your value to women who know these men, who already seem like they have it all. With the concept of propinquity, it makes it even harder for me mentally since they know these guys for a good number of years. Similar question to this but totally different scenario
I don’t feel envious of who they are as much as I am not wanting to be compared by women to these other guys. I know for a fact if shit hits the fan, they nor their male friends like them won’t be able to hold themselves together. I don’t dislike them either, they sound friendly (talked on the phone with them). The women in question all have some sort of attraction to these guys but refuse to pull the pussy trigger because of being from different religions than they are; though I don’t have any doubt in my mind that there is attraction. I suspect they’re orbiting them not necessarily for a relationship/sex/ but for them to introduce the women to other men like them who are of the same religion as they are (ie mine) on top of attention via friendship.
I feel like I’m just rambling but there’s a deep desire for comfort from other men to get the message straight. Like what am I supposed to do to demonstrate my value far beyond of me focusing on me, being social, and good on all fronts? There’s this pressure of trying to impress people inside me not just because they’re coming from rich or well off families but rather them having a lot more propinquity in terms of years knowing these girls and setting a solid foundation of being the hottest shit (physically and socially) on the side of the country.
I haven’t moved back to said country but I’m familiar with this clique because someone I know is friends with them (but nowhere near as well off) and offered to introduce me to them if I ever visit the mother country through a group face call. As you can imagine, after digging through their social media and hearing about them from my friend, I feel like I’m just going to be put at the bottom of the barrel because of how popular, close, and well off these guys are.
Any words of advice?
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