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This girl I've been talking to and been on one date with seems like she's trying to string me along. Is this a good response to her saying she's busy this next week after asking her out again?
No worries, you don't really seem interested in this at all so I'ma spend my energy on someone who is. Nice talking to you though
I have other options and I kinda want her to understand that without sounding too hurt or upset. What you guys think
How to lead women in the workplace?
I couldn't find any similar posts about this subject. I have recently gotten a new job at a factory where I need to lead 20-30 women. I am only used with leading men. With men it's easier because you can be more direct with them, don't have to watch your tone and you know that they know that we're all working as a team. What I've learned now is that being too direct and tonedeaf is "too strict/intense" and that they as a group will get moody and work slower. So it's a matter of balance (practicing the carrot more than the stick). However, I also need to constantly remind them of simple tasks that they should be doing anyway (Always put this part on this part, always clean this part) but they only do it when I am watching/around. The current team leader also struggles with this so it's not my number one priority but I don't like the fact that they get moody when I simply tell them what to do. So yes, caring about what these women think of me is pretty relevant to my job. And the fact that I am new and still need to learn much means I can't simply outperform them and lead by example (yet). Any tips? I might already be going in the right direction because I am so new so it's unrealistic to expect respect so soon. I couldn't find any similar posts about this specific subject.Read More
Gf of four years and I broke up. It was an amicable break up. She wasn't stingy who's stuff is whose. My question, Do I keep the lingerie I bought for 'us'?. Is it beta to keep/ask for the lingerie I paid for? All the lingerie we used was purchased by me. I obviously have no use for it. I simply don't like the idea of her getting fucked by another guy when wearing lingerie I paid for with my money. If she want lingerie, she can buy it herself of her new guy can.
@lrvilla20 So you’ve got some options here:
Get with the girl and actively maintain your discipline
Tell the girl you can’t do anything serious right now
- Play it out as you are
I’m not big into the whole retention thing, but it doesn’t seem like a good long term plan to reject chicks because you want to retain. In fact, that’s kind of weird. You can be a personally productive dude and still go out and plow chicks, you just gotta find out what works for you. I think you’re using it as a half excuse to not have to invest in this chick, but I could be wrong.
Either way my man, you’ve said you enjoy your time together so I’d personally opt to just roll with it and enjoy the experience.
How to avoid catching feelings for a girl?
Recently I’ve started seeing this girl just as I started uni. We’ve been on a couple dates and each time we’ve slept together. Trying to avoid going down this route as when I’ve got the opportunity for regular sex and I’m consistently releasing I turn into half the man. Literally walk around with my head down and I’m super neurotic. Its awkward as well cus the girl is staying on the same floor as me in the same student accommodation. She’s very my much type and ive enjoyed the time we spent together. She seems keen for a relationship but i know that my discipline will go to shit and this has come just as I’m starting my first year of university/college where I’m going to need all the energy and vigour I can get so I can go to the gym, train MMA and do well with my studies. Also I just want the social skills that retention gives me as there’s loads of social opportunities which I don’t want to miss out on cus I’m fucking a girl and spending the days after hiding away from the world.
Feeling very conflicted right nowRead More