@Gyaunsi67

What exactly is my girlfriend doing?

Hi! I have a girlfriend and we have a sexual relationship.

Last week, I got into a real brutal fight with her one and only long time best friend who is male. He brutally beat me up in the fight in front of her which left my face suffering bone fractures. The fight happened due to him hating me and I don't know why. I feel like there is no reason. He's so strange. They were best friends before I met her. They are the same age while I am 3 years older than her.

Due to his gym habits, her best friend is muscular with six-pack-abs and big biceps and he is also physically stronger than most people his age such as when it comes to lifting, pulling, pushing, etc. He is also physically robust and strong due to constant manual labor. Also, he is a high-level hardcore MMA fighter while my girlfriend is a hardcore MMA fan.

But here's the weird part about my girlfriend.

After he brutally beat me up, she often hero-worships his MMA fighter identity in front of me, brags to me how amazing of a warrior he is, and how stronger and braver and more fearless he is than me. When I politely disagree neutrally and try to offer a logical explanation why, she often trash talks me about how her male best friend will destroy me easily like how rival NFL fans trash talk each other.

He is literally her idol and she thinks that he is the strongest, most badass person she ever met personally or knows in close proximity.

In front of me and after he brutally beat me up for no reason, she often hero-worships him(like how an overly enthusiastic little boy fans over his favorite male superhero) by saying to me that he has the face of a strong mythical brave legendary heroic young warrior chivalrous knight champion male. She was talking about his facial structures and his face's physical appearance when she said that. She wasn't referring to his personality or skills when she said that.

Honestly, she already hero-worships him these ways before I even met her but doing it after he brutally beat me up? Strange.

Seriously, what the fuck is happening and why is she acting like this to me?

Also, she said this to me:

“Babe, you are my boyfriend but my idol hero and warrior demigod is him.”

And then I was like “What the fuck?”.

What's wrong is that your slut girlfriends pair-bonding ability is completely atrophied, which is just as well. Be sure to DNA test any children any female in the future claims you fathered. Demigods have a habit of siring bastards.

Beyond that, consider investing into a reliable ready reference you can pick up and study to better prepare yourself for engaging the opposite sex. I'd suggest that you get yourself a copy of Doc Love's "The System: The Dating Dictionary". Doc Love, who until his passing was also known as Tom Hodges, wrote a weekly advice column that's archive is mirrored on several mens focused sites and a podcast. His media is a bit pricey, but it's a solid foundation a guy can branch out from in RP aware circles. I'd suggest you review his advice column to decide if his view on dating and relationships is aligned with what you aspire for yourself. To save yourself a search, give this scribed link a gander to find out if his #book is something you'd like to add to your library. It should also be available on libgen.

@universitythrowaway

Is she trying to get me to be a provider?

Went on a date with a girl I met at a bar. Got drinks, paid for it. Went bar hopping. K-closed, kino, hand holding, etc. suggested to listen to music at her place because she lives alone. But she had her friend over so she said she can’t.

Now a week later I suggest a second date. This time cooking food at her place with some wine. She shit tests saying “hmm cooking where exactly”. I tell her at her place as long as she keeps her hands to herself.

She replies saying she doesn’t think we’re there yet. And it’s too early to invite me to her place.

Not sure if she’s interested in fucking but just takes a date or two more, or just uninterested and using me as a provider or for long term prospects.

Either way I’m planning to leave her on read or just a quick acknowledge message.

This is a non-issue. A chick you met at a bar, and showed too much interest in turned you down, twice. She gave you the out so take it and move on with your life.

Stop wasting our time hoping we'll validate your ego. Study the book so that you're actually prepared to engaging females.

@Machiaspinner

Is it just a matter of time untill this plate will break

Hello everyone

I've been seeing this girl for about two months. She lives in another city (1h by car) where I have some friends, so I only go there once a month. She's 21F, around a 7.5/10, and the first dates went really well , she showed interest, escalation was smooth.

On our second date we made out, but I had to go back to my city. She later came to visit me, I invited her to dinner, we hooked up and she spent the night. I saw her again when I went to her city, we slept together again.

The issue started when I told her I had a “surprise” for her. What I meant was that I was going to give her a very good time in bed , and I did , she complimented me at bed but who cares she can say this to everyone . She later mentioned she was “waiting for the surprise,” and I got the impression she was expecting something material, which I’m not doing.

Then she reached out again, saying she wanted to come to my city, but she kept pushing to know exactly what we were going to do and if it gonna be more interesting than last times , almost like if my plan didn’t impress her, she wouldn’t come. I told her to come and discover, but she kept insisting. After that she sent me some sexy picture in the lingerie she was wearing last time , and asked me if i miss the red cold , i liked the picture and told her i like red color and looking to see what she gonna wear next time in order to not seem needy .

Looking back, the problem is that I positioned myself as a provider. She’s a student, and I paid for all the dates and now she’s pushing for more. She does show some qualities for an LTR, but since it would be long-distance, I’m questioning if it’s worth it especially that she is hypersexual.

So now I’m wondering: Should I see her one last time and close it properly, or should I just walk away and consider this plate done (She is the only plate i sleep with i have now ,but i'm seeing other girls , scarcity...) ?

Some guys come through here claiming to be banging overseas, while many don't. Whether they are or not isn't the point. What you might consider long distance for yourself, another guy might at worst see as just a mildly tedious commute, as such, 'long distance' won't apply in this situation due those variables. In time, you might be able to realize more convenient fornication opportunities, but I don't imagine you achieving them with this chick without some serious headache.

For now, you should study the book and limit how much time a month you spend on her. This female being a college student usually means that she's both sexually more experienced with guys than you are with females and earns a low-income, so whenever you take her out her empty purse shouldn't be a surprise.

That you value your professional time and energy differently than your personal time and energy is the problem, which is why so many guys position themselves as a provider. Unfortunately, the situation is that your game is inferior to this females ability to manipulate men. Your willingness to spend time communicating with her remotely, expend energy traveling by car to spend time with her, and your eagerness to host her at your place not only revealed your level of interest, but also made her aware that she's got no competition for you.

That she's been willing to travel to your place suggests that so far you haven't done anything to kill her interest, which is good, but you should definitely listen to your gut and continue engaging other females so as to create abundance through stacking plates. I'd also suggest that you seriously reconsider how you value your personal the time and energy differently than how you value the time and energy you spend at work.

@Nattynutty

Stating she won’t go back to mine before we’ve had the date.

I met this girl at a party a month ago. She took me back to hers and we fucked.

Two weeks later we went on a date to a cocktail bar were i acted as if sex was the last thing on my mind and she became super keen to go back to mine. So we did and we fucked.

I set up a date with her to go for a fancy dinner and then go to an arcade for this weekend but she called me to say she needs to know what time we’re finishing to so that she can go to her parents house right after and that she won’t be coming back to mine.

Do I: A. Cancel my reservations and tell her on the day theres a change of plans we’re going back to mine. B. Cancel the date and soft next C. Go through with it and see if she changes her mind whilst we’re there

Advice would be greatly appreciated

Option "A" removes any doubt in her mind that your goal is primarily sex, not a relationship. Option "B" allows you to maintain the mystery. Option "C" implies you're cool with not getting laid and willing to defer to her parents, which I doubt you are. Of the options you present, only two are viable.

You could go with option "D", cancel the reservation, and date so you're free to resume looking for more single girls. With the holidays being both next week and the time of year people break up, it shouldn't be too difficult replacing her or to begin stacking plates.

Consider investing into a reliable ready reference you can pick up and study to better prepare yourself for engaging the opposite sex. I'd suggest that you get yourself a copy of Doc Love's "The System: The Dating Dictionary". Doc Love, who until his passing was also known as Tom Hodges, wrote a weekly advice column that's archive is mirrored on several mens focused sites and a podcast. His media is a bit pricey, but it's a solid foundation a guy can branch out from in RP aware circles. I'd suggest you review his advice column to decide if his view on dating and relationships is aligned with what you aspire for yourself. To save yourself a search, give this scribed link a gander to find out if his #book is something you'd like to add to your library. It should also be available on libgen.

Stating she won’t go back to mine before we’ve had the date.

I met this girl at a party a month ago. She took me back to hers and we fucked.

Two weeks later we went on a date to a cocktail bar were i acted as if sex was the last thing on my mind and she became super keen to go back to mine. So we did and we fucked.

I set up a date with her to go for a fancy dinner and then go to an arcade for this weekend but she called me to say she needs to know what time we’re finishing to so that she can go to her parents house right after and that she won’t be coming back to mine.

Do I: A. Cancel my reservations and tell her on the day theres a change of plans we’re going back to mine. B. Cancel the date and soft next C. Go through with it and see if she changes her mind whilst we’re there

Advice would be greatly appreciated