Let's do the math on this one. She's mid-thirties, physician making upper range of 6 figures. That means she's a specialist. Most specialty training (as opposed to primary care), requires 4-7 years of post-med school training. let's call it 5.

You might assume that the average med student finishes med school by 26. That's only if they go straight through after college, which is increasingly uncommon. A lot of people spend several years in research, or other stuff before they finally get in. The average age of a med school matriculant is 24-25. Let's assume 24.

So, start med school at 24. Finish at 28. Finish a 5 year residency at 33. She's in her mid-thirties. You do the math. She's been practicing at best for a couple of years. Here's what I suspect happened: she bought the feminist bullshit that somehow being a wage slave working for some anonymous boss's profits was more empowering than being a wife taking care of your family. She knew residency would suck, but it's temporary, and then she'd be a glorious attending, making gobs of money, being the top of the food chain thanks to her expertise, with everyone from patients to hospital admins laying down flower petals at her feet for "saving lives".

And then she got her first job. And realized she's basically a glorified McDonald's worker: working for a "nonprofit" that is just as rapacious as any Fortune 500 company, can be fired at any time, no pension, timed on how fast she moves patients through their 15-minute appointments, her boss is an HR-style chick who majored in English lit, knows nothing about medicine and cares even less about it, her bonus being dependent on whether her surly customers give her a 5-star rating on medicine's equivalent of Yelp (Press-Ganey scores). Oh yeah, and it's not temporary. This is her new life until she keels over and they haul her out of the office.

She spends one year at this feminist paradise (Look how much money your labor is generating for the hospital CEO! So much better than working for a husband and family that loves you. Don't you feel empowered? And spending all day typing into a computer is so much more interesting than raising a child, yes?) and goes screaming for the hills.

Now she wants to be a tradwife. But she has four strikes going against her.

First, she's mid-thirties. If a guy can't depend on her salary anyway, then why not marry a hot mid-twenties nurse instead? What does her being a doctor do for you if her salary can't count?

Second, because of the lifestyle she's been groomed to expect (she hasn't even lived it yet; she's been a student and then a resident. But she got through med school and residency by telling herself it will eventually lead to a jetset, carefree, lux life) she can't become a plumber's wife. She needs someone to give her the life she thought medicine would, except without her having to work like a dog the way she's realizing she'd have to if she stays in the field.

Third, in many ways, that mid-twenties nurse is richer than her: she has much less college debt. This doctor has just finished residency. She probably has at least half a mil in loans -- not even including compounding interest during her residency years -- that her future husband will have to pay off before she can even claim to have a net worth of zero. That poor dude has to take on the equivalent of a second mortgage and higher monthly expenses (for the lifestyle she wants) if he marries this woman instead of a nurse or teacher or, heck, a homeless woman with no teeth who'd be overjoyed just to have dental insurance.

And fourth, and perhaps most important: this woman has gone through 5-6 years of bruising training for a highly competitive specialty, which means she's developed a tough-as-nails ball buster exterior to survive. Almost certainly, she has no idea how to take that off when she's at home (indeed, it's been so long, she might not even remember how she was before starting residency). Which means that is her personality now. Whatever sweet, kind girl she was in high school and college, she's now a person who takes no shit from no one, views the entire world with a cynical, jaundiced eye, and is perpetually tired and burned out and pissed off that all her education can't prevent her from basically being shat on at work every day by people far less "intelligent" than her.

At this point, the only thing she has going for her is the money she brings to the table. Enough that even a guy from a semi-respectable profession (doesn't have to be a plumber; even a professional making $100-200k in something like engineering, or middle management, or law) might overlook everything else if it meant upgrading his lifestyle (and maybe he even stays home and takes care of the kids). And she's taking that off the table.

It's too bad they don't teach logic in med school.