I'll give her props is she's genuinely looking only for serious relationships at 21. But she's doing it on dating apps. Assuming she's still in college there are tons of guys IRL literally walking past her dorm room every day that she could meet. Heck, hang out in the engineering building in a cute outfit and walk out with a handful of potential guys who would be thanking their lucky stars to get a girlfriend, and who, in a couple of years, will probably be making six figures and would be happy to start a life with you.

But... Those dudes are short. And don't have six packs... So she's forced -- forced, I tell you! -- to go on dating apps instead and swipe on hawt dudes who have 5 other girls lined up that week. Why oh why is this plan of hers not working???

One note: she says with all the guys they agreed they wanted a serious relationship. I doubt it. That's what she convinced herself they meant, because she wanted to continue dating them. Women decide who tingles their vagina, then create whatever story in their mind that they need to reconcile this man with the image of who she thinks she ought to be dating. The easiest person for a woman to delude is herself. I've seen it. Years ago my housemate at the time was a player. And to a woman there were all convinced he wanted a "serious relationship". Even the ones that literally knew he was seeing other women at that very same time. And the truth is he never told them a lie. It was all omitting just enough to create enough ambiguity that the woman would trick herself into believing what she wanted, and then never ask the question again (at least for a few months / years, by which time he was happy to let them go anyway).

And finally, I have to chuckle at the dude who explained he had to cut it off for his mental health. That's the most original "it's not you, it's me" variation I've heard in years. Not only does it validate her (she's worthy of commitment), it validates him (he's getting attached) while weaponizing therapy-speak to ensure that the knifing he delivers can't be used to call him an asshole. Protecting your mental health? Why, this guy should be commended for being so into wellbeing and mindfulness! He couldn't have landed that exit better if he told her his emotional support gerbil was going off too many times and that was a sign that he needed to heal his traumas more before getting into a relationship this beautiful.

Cold approach is usually a losers game. It might get you to face your fears, but the approach is absolutely dog shit as far as results.

I can tell by the way that you write and your thought process that you are very outcome dependant and coming from the autistic no fap forums.

So cold approach is basically you forcing your presence on women. Attraction is women wanting to be in your presence.

You need to drop some ideas. First off stop comparing yourself to others. People will only show you the good parts of their life, not the messy parts.

Learn to jerk off without guilt. Use your imagination and don't rely on porn.

And start having fun. Don't go out to get chicks, go out to have fun and talk to people that are also having fun. The rest of this shit you wrote is "woe is me" useless garbage.

Ive been reading redpill theories on r/Theredpill.

Ive seen posts saying deep conversations are good to have with women because it adds mystery and during the conversation it makes her feel like she is on an adventure/adds depth to your character. It makes her want to find out more about you and want to “peel back the layers” of who you are.

On the other hand, ive seen posts saying that no woman wants to have an actual conversation with you. They just want to see a hot guy, exchange social graces, get a good feel for yours, and if you demonstrate social aptitude, fuck you. Only betas think talking about “real” “deep” stuff is interesting to girls. If you have an actual conversation with her, thats when shit starts to get real and that makes her uncomfortable and feel awkward. Instead, you should just “chat shit” and have a stupid, light hearted “fun” convo.