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@AFTSOV I don’t know what they said between themselves, and I don’t care. The point is that I saw it, I handled it and I went on about my life. They took it upon themselves to gossip and turn it into something else to enjoy the drama. I was disappointed to find out my girlfriend was willing to be a conduit for that drama, which is further disrespect for the privacy of our relationship. The disrespect from the friends comes from the fact they saw fit to form their own consensus on what had happened and what it meant. None of these people feature in my life anymore, and I’m a lot better for it.
@AFTSOV Have you ever had an addiction? I can’t quite put into words the gnawing that comes with getting over the first slump when trying to overcome an addiction. Even then, when a situation opens up that can deliver the payload that’s satiate your addiction, you’ll slide right into it and just let it happen so you’ve got an excuse for why you slipped up so you don’t feel so bad.
Of course, that’s perhaps maybe me over projecting… but taking everything you’ve shared about her past, I think I’m in the ball park.
A = No.
B = she never talks to her exes, ignores them in public, ignores her old friends when she was a slut in public, and always introduces me as some variation of *her man / the dude who's fucking her.
C = She was like "Oh my god it's whatever his name was how have you been!" Then when he went to hug her, she reciprocated. She was too excited to say hi, for my taste. Only after she realized I was fuming did she dial down her excitement. Is that what you call a basic how've you been?
D = how is she not yours only your turn real but the rest is insanity, when the rest is based upon the fact that she is a not yours hoe?
Once again, I'm desperately trying to accept this as just casual manners, but I'm angry. Is this my instincts, or my insecurity?
@Antelope If I wasnt there... shit I was there and she still almost exchanged contact info. I could see the guy getting ready to be like "put your number in my cell phone", so I called the talk short. (Of course I am assuming things, but, it's an educated guess.)
She's a slut, if I werent there she would have gotten three-wayed by them.
My question is, if she was shopping for a baby daddy, why would she throw our (me and hers) relationship away for a random threeway?
Does she chat with them every day? Are they texting buddies? Do they stay in touch via Facebook or other social media? Do they stay in touch at all?
If so, then THAT is disrespectful.
Running into each other in public and saying "hey, how's it going?" is just being civil and having manners.
Women can be opportunistic. If @AFTSOV might not have been there she might have been invited or invited them for a coffee based off of the response from the hug. He’s already posted in detail her history. She’s been shopping for a baby daddy.
@AFTSOV I’m reminded of the time an LTR was saying bye to a university friend, who was going on a trip. She stepped closer and touched his arm, I forget what was said but he looked at me and we shared a look. The look expressed the line she had crossed in regards to her level of respect for me, in my eyes. I turned up the dread and handled the situation, but a few years later there was a social occasion in which he was going to be there. I hadn’t thought anything of it, but she brought it up. She said that her entire group of friends had discussed it, and she was checking that I wasn’t uncomfortable seeing him. I had to laugh because it was entirely obvious a line had been crossed by the fact everyone had talked about it, and the disrespect had continued unbeknownst to me.
AWALT, in that you can take them out or you can keep them locked up but you’re just caging something that can fit through the bars. Deal with it when it arises accordingly in line with your own standards, otherwise you’ll be encouraging loose behaviour. That’s because like a child they’ll always test your boundaries. Where you draw the line in the sand is entirely subjective. Whether the woman adheres to your standards is again, entirely subjective. If a plate adheres to those standards they become an LTR, no?Read More