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redpillschool

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I feel bad for her too... a little. Not too much, though, because her situation was largely the result of her own bad choices. Also, when he was out of town with one of his other women she got really drunk and came onto me, even though she knew I was married.

Typo-MAGAshiv

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@lurkerhasarisen I almost feel bad for her. Getting used sucks.

Thing is, it only happens to you when you allow it to.

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lurkerhasarisen

3 days ago Ask TRP

@Typo-MAGAshiv

I'm sure you've heard this, but a lot of guys haven't.

I did a year in the MENA region as a military contractor, and one of my colleagues was an uber-Chad. He was spinning no fewer than seven plates. He only brought one of them around, and I got to know her pretty well because we were all in the same social circle. She's from the Philippines and she was hotter than a two-dollar pistol. Anyway, she wasn't too keen on him having so many other women, so she compensated by 1) pretending she didn't know, and 2) love-bombing him. She used to come to our compound and clean his house while he smoked cigars and hobnobbed with the executives. He was the only guy there who didn't hire a maid. He made her pay for her own booze, too.

Anyway, eventually the wheels came off and her ghosted her. She went a little crazy and started spamming everyone they knew, which obviously included me. I tried to talk some sense into her, but she really wanted him to feel bad about it, and he's far too much of a sociopath for that to happen. At one point she told me that she just wanted closure, and I gave her some "tough love." I said something along the lines of, "Closure? Good grief, woman... he flew to the Philippines, let you show him around, screwed your brains out, and left without a word. It's OVER. Ho much more "closure" do you need?"

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Typo-MAGAshiv

3 days ago Ask TRP

@lurkerhasarisen

nothing to be gained

bUt WhAt AbOuT cLoSuRe?!

lurkerhasarisen

3 days ago Ask TRP

@TheRedPike

Yep. You don't owe her an explanation, and there's nothing to be gained by giving her one.

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SeasonedRP

3 days ago Ask TRP

@DanielLarson You handled it well. Just stay busy like you've been doing and be open to meeting women for casual fun without pressuring yourself to find a new LTR right away. At least you found out now rather than a year from now.

redpillschool

3 days ago Ask TRP

@Chattyle Do yourself a favor. Get yourself the book "When I say No, I feel Guilty." Read it. Today. This is your homework. PM me with questions after you get the book. I expect to hear reports back from you.

carnold03

3 days ago Ask TRP

@DanielLarson

Girl I was exclusive with for 7 months forgot(?) that she had her location on sharing with me and it said she was at her exes house, I asked and she sent paragraphs swearing to god her girl friend lived near him and she was at her house. I 50/50 believed her because I thought she’d turn her location off if she doing something sneaky. Well yesterday i found out… her ex lives in the middle of nowhere and doesn’t have neighbors. So I didn’t say anything, I just blocked her on everything and ghosted her. Its been rough, I couldn’t sleep last night wanting to tell her she’s a lying bitch but I figured it’ll bother her more not hearing anything. Would you guys have done it any different? I’ve been trying to stay busy with work and school but still find myself thinking about her, anything other than time that’ll help with that?

You made the right move, but if I was in your situation I never would've bothered calling her. It's great to be a guy with a good few stimulating hobbies I can pour my time and energy into because in your situation all I'd have done is...