So I’ve been talking to this girl for almost 2 months now. She’s an 8, and we have amazing sex she told me it’s the best she’s had in her life. She asks me to hangout with her every weekend since I’m busy during the week. I see her as potential LTR material even though I’m not pushing for one.

Yesterday we hung out and I had asked her how often does she get STD checked? This is because obviously if we are having raw sex I want to know. I had recently got checked myself and was fine but naturally I always assume that girls are talking to or fucking other guys. She told me she only does it every time she has a new partner. So I said you’ve been checked since you been with me? And she said no. I told her that I had, and the conversation came up of being exclusive.

She asked me am I fucking other girls? And she kept pushing me for an answer to which I answered honestly and said no but I keep my options open. She got all upset and told me that I’m the only guy she’s been seeing and she had already cut off everyone else because she wants me. She told me she wants to be exclusive and that if I’m gonna fuck other girls even with a condom she doesn’t feel comfortable with that. I told her I like the trend we had been on and we should keep seeing each other but I don’t want to rush into a relationship we need to know each other on a deeper level, so maybe if we hit 3/4 months of dating I’ll consider a relationship. But I don’t want this girl to fuck other guys if I’m fucking her raw for my health and the fact that I do like her.

But ultimately I agreed to date her and us be sexually exclusive without being in a relationship. This honestly sounds bad writing it out, but how can I bounce back from this? I feel like this probably is an attraction killer the fact that she thinks I’m all hers or something, yet I did say I still talk to other girls. What do you guys reccomend I do, just withdraw attention to show I can pull away?

@Phontomz

I can be that guy too. My youth and my time in the military have given me experiences that not everyone else has. Life experience has also taught me to take the future seriously.

So many people around me sweat the small shit and ignore the long term. It is like the American way to just fuck off and worry about retirement when you get there.

So there are several important things I take VERY seriously.

The people around me do not give a fuck about me or my worries. If I am to operate in the culture around me, I have to learn the language (literally and metaphorically). And putting on a happy face when I don't want to is a part of being successful in these times.

So think of your demeanor as being a facet of competency (competency is knowledge, skills, and attitudes). You can have all the knowledge and skill in the world, but if your mindset is not right you are incompetent (socially) - by definition.

So practice relaxing, joking, etc. ie Fake it till you make it.

Do it like your life depends on it, because is sorta does.