@Tempsyy Get as strong as you physically can (the most important advice). Learn game, read everything the in the red pill archives. Analyze what the meaning behind a girls message is. Understand that a girl is not playing checkers with you, she is playing chess. She is your enemy and only through knowing how to maneuver on the battlefield will you defeat her and earn her respect. You have to understand her, her intentions, what she is actually showing behind the facade. You have to know that they will lie about a lot of things to throw you off the fact that they are a slut. It's a jungle out there and the worst thing you can do for yourselves is to believe that a girl cares about you is telling you the truth. Always start from a place to non belief. They are trying to beat you by cucking you (if they can) and you have to stop yourself from getting cucked. You do that by developing discipline, gaining strength and then drawing boundaries for disrespect. You do that by learning the games that they have been playing since an infant, defend against it and at times attack on your own if you can. The anxiety is not bad that she gave you, it's a sign from your body to wake the fuck up and stop getting played. Your body is telling you hey, something's wrong here you okay up there in your brain? Wake up it's saying.

It's a fight between you and her and if you are not adept at fighting with other men mentally, you will get chewed up until you learn. You have to learn to be a master manipulator, learn how to fight with your mind or you will continually lose. It's a fight and you're losing and your body is trying to wake you up. You need to get to work studying, learning game, learning how to be political, learn how not submit and instead make her submit.

Long time lurker, first post. Need harsh truth from you guys.

Met this girl, Giulia. Older (25, I'm 20). Smart, deep connection, good sex. Started during intense pastry course. Lived close, saw her every day. Became my main emotional support. My mistake, I know.

Problem: she was textbook one-itis for her ex, Thomas. Used "buying weed" as excuse to see him. Always created drama.

The cycle was fucked:

She meets ex, fucks up (cheats emotionally, physically). Comes crying to me, full of guilt. I play the "good guy", comfort her, "forgive" her. I become her emotional tampon. This shit drained me. Anxiety, no sleep. My mission (top pastry chef) was suffering.

I tried setting boundaries. Told her to cut him off. She promised, then broke promises. Classic. I broke it off, went no contact. She showed up at my work, crying, begging, kneeling. Said she loved me. Weak moment, I let her back in on "probation".

We met again. Same shit. Good morning, but then back at her place... the vibe was poison. I felt my power drain. We had sex. It was shit. Full of anxiety. I realized I was her validation machine, not her man.

My action: Cut her off completely. Blocked everywhere. Deleted number. Total ghost. It hurts like hell, but the mental clarity is already returning. I’m on a strict self-improvement protocol now: early mornings, cold showers, gym, focusing 100% on my mission. Rasated my head to reset.

My question: I know I let my empathy fuck me over. I played the savior instead of the prize. How do I prevent this emotional drain in the future? How do I build a stronger frame so a woman's chaos doesn't become my own? Trying to get back on trp, would love to have some posts or guides linked to me.

Looking for raw feedback, not sympathy. Hit me.

@hiteleven

1yr LTR, broke up, accused of rape, arrested, she still wants to see me

Met this girl through friends of friends, she was from NZ but living in the UK, had a 1 year LTR, i couldn't cum for six months, that made the relationship rocky. she was mega mega insecure, hated me jerking off, thought i would flirt with others, never did.

Anyway we broke up a few weeks ago, it was nasty, she was going through my phone like normal and saw a photo of a girl i ss on my phone and she blew up on me, i decided to end it then and she kept hitting me up saying she was gonna kys etc, the next day she came to my city (which she never wanted to visit during the LTR), got drunk in a park and got her dumb ass hospitalised. then reported me for rape,

I got arrested and spent the night in jail, luckily common sense prevailed in this dumb bitch and she dropped the charges a week later because she wouldn't do a video interview.

The fine ass police detective handling my case was saying she still wants to see me, but i can get her done for harassment if she keeps trying to reach out, this baddie even came over to my house to drop my phone off instead of making me go to the cop station.

I just wanted to rant because i let my frame slip so fucking bad in my first relationship, lesson learnt, i did wanna see this bitch like one a week max but i ended up practically living in my car and getting hotels 3days/week to see her.

So glad its over now, practically wasted a year, graduated uni but no job, because we spent all our time fighting, low on funds because that bitch was expensive, (like 16k over the year) but tryna find my groove, need to hit gym, already working on my side hustle and the moneys rolling in

Consider investing into a reliable ready reference you can pick up and study to better prepare yourself for engaging the opposite sex. I'd suggest that you get yourself a copy of Doc Love's "The System: The Dating Dictionary". Doc Love, who until his passing was also known as Tom Hodges, wrote a weekly advice column that's archive is mirrored on several mens focused sites and a podcast. His media is a bit pricey, but it's a solid foundation a guy can branch out from in RP aware circles. I'd suggest you review his advice column to decide if his view on dating and relationships is aligned with what you aspire for yourself. To save yourself a search, give this scribed link a gander to find out if his #book is something you'd like to add to your library. It should also be available on libgen.

@AncientSpartan

Getting numbers constantly but can't close - what am I doing wrong?

27M bartender at a high volume sports bar in a major city in the USA. Tall, model level looks (not trolling or trying to be arrogant but I am a former model), white/chad archetype.

Not trying to brag but giving full context: I get hit on constantly at work. Girls flirting, laughing at my jokes, and I get at least one number per shift without even asking. They literally give ME their number.

Here's the problem - in 3 months working there, I haven't closed with a single one. Not one. Every plate I am currently spinning was obtained via cold approach at bars AS A CUSTOMER/Hinge/Tinder.

Is it just girls being tipsy and regretting it after? Because it's weird as fuck that they'd go out of their way to give me their number but then it fizzles out.

Example: last weekend got two cute blonde 20-somethings' numbers. We texted during and right after my shift, decent back and forth, then... nothing. Conversation dies. Deleted both numbers to move on.

I've been bartending for years and this keeps happening at this specific bar. Clearly I have the "on paper" stats - the initial attraction is there. So what's the issue?

Is my texting game shit? Am I not escalating fast enough? Not pushing for meetups soon enough?

Need actionable advice here because this pattern is getting frustrating.

It's probably for the best that fate's been oddly working against you to your benefit here. If the bars you work at are bad places to recruit new plates, then stick with ones where you're a patron.

Otherwise, consider investing into a reliable ready reference you can pick up and study to better prepare yourself for engaging the opposite sex. I'd suggest that you get yourself a copy of Doc Love's "The System: The Dating Dictionary". Doc Love, who until his passing was also known as Tom Hodges, wrote a weekly advice column that's archive is mirrored on several mens focused sites and a podcast. His media is a bit pricey, but it's a solid foundation a guy can branch out from in RP aware circles. I'd suggest you review his advice column to decide if his view on dating and relationships is aligned with what you aspire for yourself. To save yourself a search, give this scribed link a gander to find out if his #book is something you'd like to add to your library. It should also be available on libgen.